I need some advice.....

[sugar_n_spice]

I am not sure if this is in the right spot or not, but i really need to talk to to someone. I go to a public highschool, and i am kinda of shy, but i do have friends. And i do try to reach out to others, so when this new girl came i started talking to her and now she talks to me all the time. The problem is i know shes not a christian and shes not my best friend or ne thing. It was just wierd b/c she was like showing me some weird website about vampires. After i saw it i was so shocked i was just like oh and left because i didnt know what to say. Shes just kinda of a weird person, and while i think it would be good to witness to her, i know i need to be careful. I just wanted to know if yall had any advice or should i just stop talking to her altogether? And if i do need to witness to her does any one have any advice on how to go about doing it? Thanks......I guess it just kinda of scared me, and i am unsure what i should do.

 

[Sketcher]

Still treat her as a person, first of all. When I was in high school, I hardly recognized goths as people, until I saw how another Christian was reaching out to them - I mean, we'd go into Denny's at midnight, it would be crowded with them, and he was talking to a few of them like they were old friends. They were responding to him, and it looked like that had been going on for some time. It really opened my eyes.

Pray for her, pray for HOW to witness to her. You don't want to be the one to cut the friendship off. That will only get her to hate Christians. Remember, she is not the enemy, she is being held captive by the enemy. And he's more afraid of you witnessing to her than you are of this vampire website. So pray for protection if you feel you need it, but concentrate on offense - how do I love this girl and help God draw her to Himself?

 

[SteadyRock]

Remember, she is not the enemy, she is being held captive by the enemy.

This probably one of the smartest things I've every heard! Thanks for that!

That will only get her to hate Christians.

You don't want to freak her out and turn her away from God forever so you should pray deeply about it. Ask God for the wisdom and the right words to say.

And he's more afraid of you witnessing to her than you are of this vampire website. So pray for protection if you feel you need it, but concentrate on offense - how do I love this girl and help God draw her to Himself?

 

[rogsr]

Showing kindness towards your fellow man/woman should, as a christian, be second nature to you. It sounds like it is so don't go thinking that you need to go on any holy crusade or anything. Just be her friend if that's something you want to be--with no false pretences. Don't be her friend just for the purposes of "witnessing" because that would make you something that you don't want to be. Share yourself with her and the topic will come up on its own, which is to say, when God wants it to come up. I talk to people about the things of faith all the time, but not because I push it like I'm trying to sell something. I let it come up naturally. Trust me, everyone has a yurning for God and a desire for Truth..so it will be brought up. What you need to be doing now is showing her kindness and goodness so that when it does come up you will be a credible ambassador of God.

Peace-

 

[Mark022884]

I've had some similar situations to yours. I've found that first and foremost, like others have said, is to pray. Pray that the holy spirit will work in her life and bring her to the Lord. Pray that she will accept Christ as her savior and will be 'born again'. It is really hard when people aren't even a Christian, but what you can do is just gradually bring them to the Lord. Mention the church you go to or that you read an interesting verse in the bible that everyone can apply to their lives. Just plant the seed and gradually work on it. Sometimes this is the best way. But definitely be her friend. Someone like this sounds like they need a good Christian friend.

 

[bubblegirl23]

Inside your friend is a heart wanting to be accepted. Some people go vamp to find attention and love. Be her friend and let her feel accepted. If she asks about religion, you can share your beliefs as she does hers. I'm sure she's looking for validation, not bat blood.

 

[silentpoet]

Jesus went out to the dregs of society. I think He treated them as human in a society that often would not. Just do your best to treat her as you would like to be treated. You may not always get it right, just do your best to be honest and kind. Tell her you did not know how to react to the website. Just speak the truth.

 

[Radagast]

I am not sure if this is in the right spot or not, but i really need to talk to to someone. I go to a public highschool, and i am kinda of shy, but i do have friends. And i do try to reach out to others, so when this new girl came i started talking to her and now she talks to me all the time. The problem is i know shes not a christian and shes not my best friend or ne thing. It was just wierd b/c she was like showing me some weird website about vampires

What would Jesus do?

-- Radagast

 

[joshsensen]

If I was in your position I would try to find a common interest with her which didn't violate my beliefs. I truely believe that our faith is a personal issue. I would never push my beliefs on to anyone, as often this will chase them away from exactly what you wanted to bring them to. If you have the love, peace, and joy of the lord it will draw her into trying to understand why you are that way.

 

[jrice]

I think the most powerful thing you can do for this person is pray. Prayer is an awesome and powerful thing. Never underestimate it. Another thing you can do is be an example. Let Christ shine through you. Everytime you are about to see this person step aside and say a little prayer and ask the Lord to guide you. He can use you and he may not want to use you but you need to be open for when he does. Be set apart as an example. She will question what you have that she doesn't. Another thing is don't be discouraged. God is good and his grace is sufficient. He will never leave you side. He will always be there. Don't just accept the things this person does as okay. Set boundaries for what you think your eyes should see. Guard your heart and mind and don't get caught up with the things of this world. They can't give you true pleasure. And bless you for having a heart for the lost. Far too many people don't want to step on peoples toes and to be politically correct by accepting everyway as okay. Don't be normal to the world but exceptional to God. Blessings and not luck,
JR

 

[waldo1]

I have had a similar situation but this had to do with a bunch of my friends listening to death metal [music] i respect thier choice in what they like but that doesnt mean that i have to partake in these things as well. when we hang out i dont push the fact that i have a newley found disire to bring god into my life. they know this and they respect me enough to understand that if something is that important to me then its cool with them. I just tell them i really am not into that kind of stuff and i thought that it would ruin our friendship but it shocked me when they were like " huh well thats cool" and thats al that was really said about the issue.

i guess what im getting at is if you guys are friends she should respect the fact that you are interested in one thing that she may not be interested or even believe in for that matter but remember she is your friend so you have some things in common that brings the two of you together build on those things

 

[Friendship]

I got a question for you what does she normally talk to you about and what do you talk to her about and when she showed you the website why did she want you to see it what did she say about it and all, I use to be one of those Rock people wore black and had black fingernails all kinda weird but it was an attention thing for me to fit in but I did not like being called a devil worshiper so I did not keep the look for long but I was in with some bad crowds for a while but having more information may make it easier to help you but be kind but it is ok for you to tell her that there are things that you dont want to see or be a part of and if she is really a friend she will understand dont compromise your principles you can be a friend without being a partaker

 

[music4God]

heres what I think u should do.........pray for this girl and ask God if u should minister to her. Just trust God u'll get through this