I need some advice/prayer!

[AmzabellaFaith]

Hi! Just need some advice really. Before I became a christian I had been in a number of serious and intense relationships that ended in hurt disaster! Because of this I was finding it hard to trust guys or think anyone could be out there for me. When I became a christian I was going to be alone for a while untill I felt completly happy in myself but ....

There was a guy at college who I had noticed around and liked but never really said anything. He was in the year above me but decided to stay on for a year with my class. We got talking and I found that he is also a christian. We became very good friends and it was such an exciting time! We would talk for hours and have alot of things in common. I started to fall for him and little did I know he was falling for me. We ended up together for the past 4 months. It has been such a happy time. The only thing is Iv'e came to a stand still point. Iv'e been feeling confused lately whether I need to take a step back and take some 'time out' being single, as I have never really took the time to just be alone for God.

The dilemma I'm having is this...
If I end the relationship and be single and then if I'm ready to get back with the guy he doesn't want me anymore then I will have lost him and it could have been that I should have stayed with him in the first place.
Or I could stay with him and then a few years down the line wish I'd have taken time out and not be happy in the relationship!

This proberly all sounds quite confusing! Does anyone have advice?

 

[seangoh]

This proberly all sounds quite confusing! Does anyone have advice?

well i have comments. Have you both ever talked about God during the 4 months with respect to the relationship? Have you both made yourself clear that God is the number 1 priority?
You sound like both of you communicate quite frequently. My suggestion is to cut down the communication so that you can "get back to God". Tell him what you want to do and why too. If you see a future with this guy, then assure him too that it's only temporary and suggest to him to do the same in this period.

 

[lady_of_god]

Well Amzabella...


I'm going to say pray and be willing to go with what the Spirit tells you.

The thing is you may not think your ready for a relationship, love, and kissy faces (hehehe lol), but the Lord knows what is right.

On the other hand, if you feel in your Spirit that you need to first work on your relationship with the Lord before working on a romantic one, than thats what you need to do. Don't worry about him, and say "what if", because if he is meant for you, 30days-5years-20years from now destiny has it he will still be yours

Nothing will stop what God has planned when you follow God's Will


Hope that helps

-Lady