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Okay, I'm obviously new here, but I would really appreciate some advice.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. I'm a strong christian and so is she. We have gone on a few dates. You know, little things like dinner, movies and mabye some walking around a park with starbucks in hand. But, all around us there are people who seem more far along than us. For instance, her sister and her boyfriend kiss. I really do want to kiss the girl that I have strong feelings for. But, I know that this can get out of had. Lately, she has made a few comments like she is frustrated that I just won't kiss her. I know that I shouldn't be comparing our relationship to others, but I just feel that something like kissing is very special. I really wanted to get to know her before we kissed. But, now I do know her. Should I just give her a small kiss when I say good bye one day, just to let her know that I do feel romantically for her? I feel like such a coward for not kissing her. I'm just a little scared I guess.
 

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nesohC said:
Okay, I'm obviously new here, but I would really appreciate some advice.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. I'm a strong christian and so is she. We have gone on a few dates. You know, little things like dinner, movies and mabye some walking around a park with starbucks in hand. But, all around us there are people who seem more far along than us. For instance, her sister and her boyfriend kiss. I really do want to kiss the girl that I have strong feelings for. But, I know that this can get out of had. Lately, she has made a few comments like she is frustrated that I just won't kiss her. I know that I shouldn't be comparing our relationship to others, but I just feel that something like kissing is very special. I really wanted to get to know her before we kissed. But, now I do know her. Should I just give her a small kiss when I say good bye one day, just to let her know that I do feel romantically for her? I feel like such a coward for not kissing her. I'm just a little scared I guess.
Now young man, maybe you should have a frank talk with her about your intentions and her intentions and always be a gentleman with her because in time you may decide the relationship is not going the way it should and you break-up. If she want a kiss, that is fine, but if she continues to push you for more, then I would tell my son to back away because she is more experienced than you are and maybe she has been there before. A month is not a long time for a committed relationship and I think you are aware of that or the question you have asked would not have been necessary. Move slowly you have the rest of your life and to do anymore than kiss would be inviting more involvement than you are ready to give.

Send me a private message if you would like to talk so more about this.

God has the perfect mate already picked out for you so you don't want to get too involved before you know she is the one.


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yea... tell her like it is. hopefully she will understand. she should think that is special... as it is something hard to find in a guy nowadays.
if she reacts negatively then maybe she isn't the right girl for you.

but yes i think a small kiss would be a positive thing. ;)
can't really get very out of hand.

good luck with the lady!!!
 
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