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I Need Prayer For Wisdom And Guidance

QUALITYWOMAN

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I Had A Friend I Was Close To For About A Year. She Was Going Through A Rough Time(her Son Died) And I Was Helping Trough It. One Night(the Anniverary Of His Death) She Just Up And Turned On Me And Started Yelling At Me And Then Went On To Tell People What A Bad Person I Am. I Used To Go Out With Her When She Was Down. She Would Lock Herself In The House For Days And Not Eat. I Would Go Over Ther And Cook For Her. Or Get Her Out Of Bed And Take Her For A Drive Or A Movie.
What I Don't Understand Why She Can Just Turn On Me And Bad Mouth Me To Other Christian People In Our Group.
I Need Prayer That God Will Protect Me From The Slander And If He Wants Me To Continue To Be Her Friend. I Know I Have To Forgive Her But What About Trusting Her? I Have Confided In Her About Things About Myself And I Don't Know If She Told Other People.
I Need God To Give Me Wisdom In This Situation And To Give Me A Heart For This Person. I Have Not Been As Close As I Was With Her Like Before Because Of Her Behaviour.
 

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thats very strange of your friend to act in this way, not to mention the fact tat she is a christian and should not carry on this manner, but as a christian remember that GOD is gonna repay her for every wrong thing she is doing to you un less she repents and ask your forgiveness, also dont waist time trying to figure out her behavior cause you did nothing wrong, seperate yourself from her for a while cause thats the best option at this point and continue to pray for her as well GOD said that satan will use the thing to us thats close and she seems to have been a very close person in your life a nd vice versa, things will be ok, go on, count her behavior as GOD perfect plan for groth in your life pertaining to how to deal with this in the future, be blessed and stay strong ok, always in my prayers :groupray: :groupray: :wave: :)
 
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Another possibility is that you were a safe place for her anger, which is part of the grief process. So, she dumped on you. This doesn't make it right. Especially since she went on to badmouth you to others.

But, your friend is going through a lot of jumbled emotions, a lot of confusion and turmoil. Yes, she has treated you, and your friendship, badly. I pray that she will apologize. I also pray that she will continue to find healing and peace in her grief, and that, as God wills, your friendship will be healed as well.

I also pray for you, that you will hold your head high among your friends, and understand that this anger and backbiting really had very little to do with you. You're still the same person in Christ that you were before this happened.

Peace be with you.

Michael
 
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I Am In Agreement. Lord Hear Our Prayers. Amen

May it be so (Praying in agreement)
 
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:amen: Jesus, hear our prayers and help this sister heal from this painful wound and protect her heart and mind from the slander and any evil that was said.

Lord, bless Qualitywoman for the help she gave this friend and reward her for her endurance and patience through this matter. Help this relationship to heal and help this woman to repent and come back to a more kind and caring attitude and thought life. Amen.

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Praying for you!

QualityWoman--when I was going through my divorce, my ex frequently ran his mouth about what a bad person I was, all the horrible things I'd done, etc. and it made me just BURN inside because I really wasn't the person he portraited--yet I held my tongue and would not engage in "tit for tat" even though he actually HAD DONE some horrible, evil, abusive things!

Some people immediately believed him and dropped me like a hot potato. Others didn't know what to believe and sort of remained neutral and I could tell things weren't the same. Still others knew me well enough to know that what he was saying was way out of character for me so they didn't believe him. I held my tongue and just kept pursuing God's face and doing the right thing.

Eventually it became more and more clear to everyone that the things he was accusing me of were just not realistic--and in most cases it was actually something HE did! As an example, he claimed to everyone that I was angry, spiteful, violent and abusive--yet over time they could see that inspite it all, I stayed calm, was happy and not vengeful, and dealt with things in a healthy way...whereas over time they could also see that he in fact had an anger issue, eventually got a police record for domestic violence, and abuse! In the end I let my CONDUCT speak for itself and not just my words...and in the end for those who had eyes, they saw the truth--it was revealed.

So just keep living as God wants you to live. Others will see that your friend has emotional issues and is moody and things...whereas in contrast, they will see you remaining loyal, faithful and godly.

:hug: :hug:
 
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Hi-My best friend lost her son years ago,and the emotions,and pain- anger-fear-anxierty-grieving,that your friend will be going through, will be such a rush as if she will be on a roller coster ride,some days are good and other days are bad.
There will be days when she will just want to be alone and not want to be near anybody.
Its horrible that your friend lashed out like that to you,but I recommend that you just give her some space,time-out understanding what she is going through.........and eventually things might come right between use.
She will lash out at others,but not understanding why?(because there will be alot of anger in her.)
I just pray that the lord will protect you and keep you safe,and to protect your heart sheilding it.
I pray he will guide you also.
And lastly I pray for your friend that Jesus will be right beside her also healing her and taking the pain away when it gets to unbearable.
 
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