I need help.....

[Kritters]

So I know what the bible says about sexual immorality and stuff but Im just so confused..
So I feel in love with this man 2 years ago and a year ago we made love for the first time.. I was really hesitant to do it cause all my life my big thing was to keep it til I was married..
but he was different.. its not even about that though
he was leaving for the military and I wanted to share that with him
so I did..
And now that he's been gone ive had alot of time to think about our sexual life and I wonder if its wrong..
It doesnt feel wrong..
but I want to please god
Him and I are engaged and have been for almost as long as we've beeen together
but I just dont know what to do
I talked to him about it today.. He is christian but he said he doesnt think its wrong and if I feel like I need to repent for it than I should but he wont cause he feels like its not wrong and that just makes me more confused cause how come I feel guilt but he doesnt?
I worry about him...

 

[MyEverything]

Have you actually showed him the Scripture that says it's wrong? You're doing the right thing. Don't let him drag you down or try to convince you otherwise.

 

[Johnnz]

There is no one verse that states “No sex until marriage”. But the Christian belief in that position is well founded in Scripture. Its basis comes not from looking for a prohibition on why not but from an understanding of what marriage is as taught by Scripture.

Your dilemma has three components.
a) When two people are deeply in love and heading towards marriage it is normal and healthy to increasingly desire expressing that love sexually. That’s how God made us to function. Too many see that is sinful though, and that is not at all sensible or even biblical.
b) To discover the pleasure and satisfaction of having sex with your loved one is also how God intended sex to be.
c) But thirdly, marriage is where it all comes together.

Your boyfriend is less concerned about sexual standards than you are. It’s quite possible he has never been given a positive explanation of why wait. Many young people are just told “Don’t” and that is rather insufficient for some.

John
NZ

 

[The Maltese Momma]

My first question is have you set a date for your wedding? If you've been engaged for close to 2 years, what is the hold up?Paul said that it is better to be married than burn with desire. Ol satan loves that burning with desire to use against God's kids. Once you've crossed that threshold, it's difficult to go back.

There must be a reason that you haven't married as yet. Be sure this guy is the one that God has chosen for you. God will forgive your sin. No doubt about it! All you have to do is ask!