I need help

[bentwompracing]

Hi everyone,
I am trying to find in the bible were it says anything about the consumation of marriage? My pastor's brother told me to read 1 cor, but I couldn't find anything yet.
Does anybody have any ideas? -Bent

 

[hope4today]

Hi everyone,
I am trying to find in the bible were it says anything about the consumation of marriage? My pastor's brother told me to read 1 cor, but I couldn't find anything yet.
Does anybody have any ideas? -Bent

I don't understand exactly what you are looking for?

 

[bentwompracing]

Hi hope4today,
Ok here is the not cool version of what I am looking for:
After 3 years of my marrage I am getting it anulled. My fellow christians say that I am wrong for ending my marriage because I am distroying God's holy covent of marriage and God hates divorce???
Well here is the fun part: I think God is trying to tell me, because we never consumated our marriage and all my wife and I do is fight that our marriage was never good even from day one. I was told if I get a divorce I would be making God a lier because of how holy marriage covanent is? If that is true I am making God a lier now because of how unholy our marriage is/was??? I think I am looking for what the repercussions are for not consumatting my marriage? -Bent

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Unless there is some physical reason for it, it's not the Biblical model of marriage to deny your spouse sex. I would suggest you get your advice from people who are knowledgeable about the Bible-like a few pastors instead of just your friends. I will refrain from asking for details because I don't know how someone could go 3 years in a marriage without sex!

 

[bentwompracing]

eatenbylocusts,
Part of my problem is some of my friends are pastors. Ohh well, Thanks for your replies. Back in the "old days" a marriage was anulled if it wasn't consumated on the wedding night? right? Now I am wondering if there is anything biblical about it also? -Bent

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you never consummated your marriage you are not really married. Let er go regardless of what your pastor pals say.

 

[momofone]

eatenbylocusts,
Part of my problem is some of my friends are pastors. Ohh well, Thanks for your replies. Back in the "old days" a marriage was anulled if it wasn't consumated on the wedding night? right? Now I am wondering if there is anything biblical about it also? -Bent

Consummation does not necessarily occur on the night of the marriage, but at any time after. So if you had sex with your wife at ANY time during the marriage, it was consummated.

LEGALLY it does not matter if you had sex or not, the marriage exists by CONSENT. You consented to marry one another and so you are married. But, especially now, legal definitions of marriage are begin to drift away from the biblical concepts of marriage.

 

[bentwompracing]

everyone,
I guess what I am trying to figure out is what is the biblical core of marriage? I have sinned with my marriage so I want to know exactly were I am wrong? I keep getting the two trails of thought like Momophone and Autumnleaf's last post to this thread? I know I am missing something somewhere? Time to search the scriptures again. (harder!) -bent

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you had sex with her you're married Biblically, from how I understand it. You seem to be reading over what you need to know without recognizing it.

 

[Ceridwen]

Are you saying that you have never had intercourse with your wife? Or, did you just not have intercourse on the wedding night? If you have been married for three years without ever knowing her in this way, then it seems as if you have never truly been married. Does she have health problems? Is she incapable of the act because of paralysis or obesity?

In my state, a marriage is not legal if one of the persons is unable to have sexual relations with the other. This may be an aspect of the law which is a holdover from more traditional times and is no longer enforced, but you may want to look into that.

 

[momofone]

Are you saying that you have never had intercourse with your wife? Or, did you just not have intercourse on the wedding night? If you have been married for three years without ever knowing her in this way, then it seems as if you have never truly been married. Does she have health problems? Is she incapable of the act because of paralysis or obesity?

In my state, a marriage is not legal if one of the persons is unable to have sexual relations with the other. This may be an aspect of the law which is a holdover from more traditional times and is no longer enforced, but you may want to look into that.

In many states, an inability to have sexual intercourse that was not discussed prior to marriage can be considered grounds for divorce or annulment on grounds of fraud. As can known infertility, for example, a woman desperately want to have children, and discusses this with her fiance. He agrees that he wants to have children too, but knows that it can't happen because he's had a vasectomy, or is sterile, or whatever.

 

[tryingtobeagain]

Wow... I wish that was the case for my area. My husband knew I wanted more children and we were TTC for a while (even taking preg tests every time I felt a little sick), and then when I found out he committed adultery I asked him what he would have done if I was pregnant and he admitted he was sterile.

 

[bentwompracing]

Autumnleaf,
I don't understand what does "You seem to be reading over what you need to know without recognizing it." mean? -bent