I Need Help With My Walk

[SDAdude]

Not too long ago, my wife cheated on me once again. After that, I lost my desire to go to church, read the Bible and SoP, and to keep the Sabbath.

For about a month now, I've been trying to get back into it. The problem is, I still have no real desire to do it. I just know I should. I no longer feel the love for Jesus that I once has. All I feel is depression, bitterness and anger.

 

[cesty]

Not too long ago, my wife cheated on me once again. After that, I lost my desire to go to church, read the Bible and SoP, and to keep the Sabbath.

For about a month now, I've been trying to get back into it. The problem is, I still have no real desire to do it. I just know I should. I no longer feel the love for Jesus that I once has. All I feel is depression, bitterness and anger.

While it wouldn't be wrong for you to divorce your wife for cheating on you, it wouldn't be wrong to try and save your marriage by seeking counseling. Of course, your wife would have to agree to this. Unless you can get at the root of why she keeps cheating on you, the problem will likely remain unresolved.

As for rekindling your love for Christ, one of the best ways to do that is through sharing Him with others. As hard as it may seem to do that in your current state of mind, you must push forward anyway, and resist those feelings that are keeping you from seeing God's love for you.

Let God take control of your life, and your love for Him will deepen as you see how He uses you to help others overcome their battles with the same feelings you are experiencing. There are probably plenty of people in your own church who are hurting for various reasons. You could be a witness to one another, working together to help each other cope with feelings of anger and doubt.

Start a small group with people in your church who are struggling with anger and doubt, and God will make it blossom into something beautiful. Remember, "all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose" (Rom. 8:28).

You are precious in God's eyes. Don't ever forget that.

 

[EastCoastRemnant]

Sorry to hear about your situation... my advice is to surrender yourself to God and to ask Him to direct your course.

I think I know what I would do in your situation but really, I can't advise you in your situation, as it is unique and only God knows all the pieces to the puzzle and only He can put them together.

 

[mmksparbud]

I know one thing--unless you forgive, you can't move forward. Been there done that. It is a betrayal that rips you in 2. In my case, it was what brought me back to God, I had been away from Him for years. This drove me to seek His healing, His power to forgive, His power to remove my anger as I knew I could not do this alone.You blame God for not keeping her from hurting you?? He does not force anyone to do what is right, not even you. Is part of the reason you won't go to God now the possibility that maybe you have to accept a part of the blame for this and can't set your pride aside enough to do that?? Forgiving does not mean that she does not have to bear the burden that what she did was wrong. It's so that you can get passed this and let it go and move forward with your life to where God wants you to be. Just because we love God and are doing His will does not mean we will not encounter hardships and betrayals--Read the story of Joseph again. I am not one that believes that everything that happens is for the best. I believe that God will make the best out of whatever happens to us, because of our choices, or because of the choices others make that end up affecting our own lives. God heals the brokenhearted. Sometimes, we hang on to our hurts as an excuse to stay angry and to not forgive. To forgive, we must look at the whole thing again and face that hurt, feel that pain again so God can remove it. We often do not want to go there, we prefer to stay numb and not feel for anybody or anything, including God. And that is where Satan wants to keep us. Bottom line, it is your choice now to stay where you are, or look back with God to give you wisdom so that you can then turn around and move forward. Together with God, with or without your wife. She has her own walk to take.

 

[Contented]

I know one thing--unless you forgive, you can't move forward. Been there done that. It is a betrayal that rips you in 2. In my case, it was what brought me back to God, I had been away from Him for years. This drove me to seek His healing, His power to forgive, His power to remove my anger as I knew I could not do this alone.You blame God for not keeping her from hurting you?? He does not force anyone to do what is right, not even you. Is part of the reason you won't go to God now the possibility that maybe you have to accept a part of the blame for this and can't set your pride aside enough to do that?? Forgiving does not mean that she does not have to bear the burden that what she did was wrong. It's so that you can get passed this and let it go and move forward with your life to where God wants you to be. Just because we love God and are doing His will does not mean we will not encounter hardships and betrayals--Read the story of Joseph again. I am not one that believes that everything that happens is for the best. I believe that God will make the best out of whatever happens to us, because of our choices, or because of the choices others make that end up affecting our own lives. God heals the brokenhearted. Sometimes, we hang on to our hurts as an excuse to stay angry and to not forgive. To forgive, we must look at the whole thing again and face that hurt, feel that pain again so God can remove it. We often do not want to go there, we prefer to stay numb and not feel for anybody or anything, including God. And that is where Satan wants to keep us. Bottom line, it is your choice now to stay where you are, or look back with God to give you wisdom so that you can then turn around and move forward. Together with God, with or without your wife. She has her own walk to take.

This is very good advice. Words of wisdom.

 

[Contented]

Not too long ago, my wife cheated on me once again. After that, I lost my desire to go to church, read the Bible and SoP, and to keep the Sabbath.

For about a month now, I've been trying to get back into it. The problem is, I still have no real desire to do it. I just know I should. I no longer feel the love for Jesus that I once has. All I feel is depression, bitterness and anger.

All that you are feeling is quite natural. I have experienced infidelity. It was not easy. Eventually divorce was the outcome. The devil is a liar, and his aim is to keep you away from church. Forgiveness is the KEY. Forgiveness frees the forgiver of the hurt and anger. Pray for your wife and leave the rest to God. You are only responsible for you. Healing will come.