I need help from those who know

[TheJaquery]

I post this in the hope of getting advice from people I know I can trust, even as a non christian. My predicament I find myself in is that for a whole year of my very short life so far I was head over heels in love with a Christian girl, who also happened to be my best friend. As close as we were, we both knew that we had no future together while I had not recieved the gift of faith and decided to keep our feelings out of the equation. But it's gotten to a point now where my heart aches for her, but I find myself in a dilemma. I know that to have any chance of being with this girl I would need to have found god, but that leads me to question whether I would really love Christ, or I would be sullying myself by not giving to him properly. I've seen how happy God has made her first hand but I really just dont know what to do.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated loads. Thank you

 

[singpeace]

My Child,

You may not know me,
but I know everything about you.
Psalm 139:1

I know when you sit down and when you rise up.
Psalm 139:2

I am familiar with all your ways.
Psalm 139:3

Even the very hairs on your head are numbered.
Matthew 10:29-31

For you were made in my image.
Genesis 1:27

In me you live and move and have your being.
Acts 17:28

For you are my offspring.
Acts 17:28

I knew you even before you were conceived.
Jeremiah 1:4-5

I chose you when I planned creation.
Ephesians 1:11-12

You were not a mistake,
for all your days are written in my book.
Psalm 139:15-16

I determined the exact time of your birth
and where you would live.
Acts 17:26

You are fearfully and wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14

I knit you together in your mother's womb.
Psalm 139:13

And brought you forth on the day you were born.
Psalm 71:6

I have been misrepresented
by those who don't know me.
John 8:41-44

I am not distant and angry,
but am the complete expression of love.
1 John 4:16

And it is my desire to lavish my love on you.
1 John 3:1

Simply because you are my child
and I am your Father.
1 John 3:1

I offer you more than your earthly father ever could.
Matthew 7:11

For I am the perfect father.
Matthew 5:48

Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand.
James 1:17

For I am your provider and I meet all your needs.
Matthew 6:31-33

My plan for your future has always been filled with hope.
Jeremiah 29:11

Because I love you with an everlasting love.
Jeremiah 31:3

My thoughts toward you are countless
as the sand on the seashore.
Psalms 139:17-18

And I rejoice over you with singing.
Zephaniah 3:17

I will never stop doing good to you.
Jeremiah 32:40

For you are my treasured possession.
Exodus 19:5

I desire to establish you
with all my heart and all my soul.
Jeremiah 32:41

And I want to show you great and marvelous things.
Jeremiah 33:3

If you seek me with all your heart,
you will find me.
Deuteronomy 4:29

Delight in me and I will give you
the desires of your heart.
Psalm 37:4

For it is I who gave you those desires.
Philippians 2:13

I am able to do more for you
than you could possibly imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

For I am your greatest encourager.
2 Thessalonians 2:16-17

I am also the Father who comforts you
in all your troubles.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4

When you are brokenhearted,
I am close to you.
Psalm 34:18

As a shepherd carries a lamb,
I have carried you close to my heart.
Isaiah 40:11

One day I will wipe away
every tear from your eyes.
Revelation 21:3-4

And I'll take away all the pain
you have suffered on this earth.
Revelation 21:3-4

I am your Father, and I love you
even as I love my son, Jesus.
John 17:23

For in Jesus, my love for you is revealed.
John 17:26

He is the exact representation of my being.
Hebrews 1:3

He came to demonstrate that I am for you,
not against you.
Romans 8:31

And to tell you that I am not counting your sins.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

Jesus died so that you and I could be reconciled.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19

His death was the ultimate expression
of my love for you.
1 John 4:10

I gave up everything I loved
that I might gain your love.
Romans 8:31-32

If you receive the gift of my son Jesus,
you receive me.
1 John 2:23

And nothing will ever separate you
from my love again.
Romans 8:38-39

Come home and I'll throw the biggest party
heaven has ever seen.
Luke 15:7

I have always been Father,
and will always be Father.
Ephesians 3:14-15

My question is…
Will you be my child?
John 1:12-13

I am waiting for you.
Luke 15:11-32

Love, Your Dad
Almighty God​

 

[bling]

First off you have all you need within you. You have a little “faith”= trust in friends, car, family and that “trust” can be directed toward a benevolent Creator if you want to do just that. But why would you do that?

If your waiting for undeniable evidence, that is not going to come! You need faith to help you fulfill your earthly objective.

If you have come to the realization your past actions have hurt others (this is sin) and these memories weigh on your mind (burden you) then you might be seek relief. There are lots of ways to try and relief this anxiety, but bottom line is only a benevolent Creator can do it and will readily do it for you, but that means seeking “Charity” form an unknown Creator.

If the burden of your past transgressions is great enough, humbly accepting God’s charity is made easier, but pride can get in your way, while trust in a benevolent Creator is a small act of humility and that humility is enough for you to accept charity. God has taken the first step by humbling himself to not only become a human, but to allow wicked people to torture, humiliate and murder Him.

 

[Christian-Catholic]

I post this in the hope of getting advice from people I know I can trust, even as a non christian. My predicament I find myself in is that for a whole year of my very short life so far I was head over heels in love with a Christian girl, who also happened to be my best friend. As close as we were, we both knew that we had no future together while I had not recieved the gift of faith and decided to keep our feelings out of the equation. But it's gotten to a point now where my heart aches for her, but I find myself in a dilemma. I know that to have any chance of being with this girl I would need to have found god, but that leads me to question whether I would really love Christ, or I would be sullying myself by not giving to him properly. I've seen how happy God has made her first hand but I really just dont know what to do.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated loads. Thank you

It seems to me like you have some faith allready, you have also witnessed that transforming love your friend has in her life by her faith and love in the lord. Remember in the bible Jesus said that if you have faith the size of a mustard seed and you say to the mountain you shall move, the mountain will move, nothing is impossible.
You don't need to have perfect faith right now, you just need the faith of a mustard seed. Jesus used the parable of the mustard seed be wise it's one of the smallest seeds and yet has the potential to grow many times it's size.

Just by thinking he is a possibility , you now have the faith of a mustard seed.
It looks to me my friend that he has allready found you and he's given you a very special friend in this woman. God allready has a small portion of his foot in the door of your heart. Keep trying to open that door a little further each day and he will do the rest
Your journey has begun my friend
If you need to talk just send me a pm ok.
I'll pray that your search leads you fully into Gods arms and also into the arms of your lady friend

 

[TheJaquery]

Thank you, this was both touching and insightful

 

[paul1149]

Give yourself time to sort this out. Be patient. Be true to yourself, and don't do anything from ulterior motives, but be open to God wooing you to Himself.

Don't let worry about it dominate you. Not of us approaches Christ with entirely pure motives, but if we are willing, at the right time He sanctifies us by the Holy Spirit. As the Bible says, He is the author and finisher of our faith. So I would say just keep on moving forward, and to what extent you can, trust that He will guide you where you need to go. If you do that, He will sort the whole thing out and make it work out for the best.

 

[Harry3142]

TheJaquery-

God accepts us as we are, not as we might wish to be. We're all imperfect; it's simply not in us to be otherwise. So your accepting of the gift of salvation (and yes, it is a gift, not a salary) starts with your being exactly where you are now:

Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God. Therefore no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin.

But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus. God presented him as a sacrifice of atonement, through faith in his blood. He did this to demonstrate his justice, because in his forbearance he had left the sins committed beforehand unpunished - he did it to demonstrate his justice at the present time, so as to be just and the one who justifies those who have faith in Jesus. (Romans 3:19-26,NIV)

If our salvation depended on our being good enough, heaven would be one empty place. The righteousness which God requires is simply beyond our capabilities. But God himself realized this, and through his Son fulfilled the requirements of his law that we could never fulfill ourselves.

That's why in the passage I just quoted the righteousness is from God. It is God's own righteousness which replaces our unrighteousness, and which we can only receive by accepting it as a gift rather than as a salary. So don't worry about not being good enough; no one is. Simply accept his gift of salvation from where you are now, and God himself will see to it that you progress in the way that he wants you to.

 

[meredithraven]

If you are to truly love Jesus like you claim you wish to, you must not do it for another, you must do it for yourself. The only true way to discover Him is to do it with a pure heart, not with one focused on an Earthly reward such as a relationship, but one focused on the Heavenly reward.

 

[salida]

1 John 4:8- God is Love
God is perfect love.
1 John 4:8- God is Love
1 Corinthians 13
1 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. 13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.


Why Jesus died for your sins.
Why did Jesus have to die for our sins? | Christian Apologetics and Research Ministry

Are you a good person? The Good Test

 

[razeontherock]

Where is the OP now?

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hi,

I hope you do really find God. I will help you along that pathway by sharing with you my experiences with God. Below is my favorite one, and a link to others.

One morning I got up and walked into the hall and I heard a voice that I believed was God say "How would you like to be stabbed in the Valley". The Valley was known as the rough end of town, and the voice scared me a little, I wondered if I had done something to offend God. I had planned to go down to the Valley to ask people out to church as was my habit at the time. In the end I went anyway regardless of the fear. I walked up to the first person I met and asked him if he would like to go out to church. He said to me "I am an atheist, I don't believe in God". I just said "fine", but hoped to change his mind. He then proceeded to unbutton his shirt and showed me scar marks up and down his chest and stomach. He said to me, "I was attacked by a knife wielding man in the Valley some time ago and spent months recovering in hospital, How could God allow that to happen to me". Then I knew why God had said in the morning "How would I like to be stabbed?". God understood this man, but had a good plan for him. Some weeks latter this man came out to church and became a Christian.

For other experiences go to Know God Personally

 

[motherprayer]

I post this in the hope of getting advice from people I know I can trust, even as a non christian. My predicament I find myself in is that for a whole year of my very short life so far I was head over heels in love with a Christian girl, who also happened to be my best friend. As close as we were, we both knew that we had no future together while I had not recieved the gift of faith and decided to keep our feelings out of the equation. But it's gotten to a point now where my heart aches for her, but I find myself in a dilemma. I know that to have any chance of being with this girl I would need to have found god, but that leads me to question whether I would really love Christ, or I would be sullying myself by not giving to him properly. I've seen how happy God has made her first hand but I really just dont know what to do.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated loads. Thank you

You could never sully yourself by following Christ, my friend! Christ will wash you white as snow. His yoke is easy and His burden is light, and it sounds like He is calling for you! It only takes faith the size of a mustard seed to start on the path.

Feeling unworthy is normal, good even! We ALL sin and fall short of the glory of God, and there is no place for pride in His kingdom, because no one is worthy. Our unworthiness actually makes us PERFECT for Him, because He is the only one who can truly take away our lack.

I am praying for you! I pray you find Him, and that He gives you rest. Give God a try, He's a pretty cool fella

 

[candle glow]

Where is the OP now?

Good question. Anyway, I'll take a crack.

You could never sully yourself by following Christ, my friend!

I think he was referring to pretending to be interested in Jesus for the sake of his girlfriend, only, and feeling fake as a result.

But the real question is whether or not he really does need to "pretend" to have a genuine interest in Jesus.

What did Jesus teach his followers to do? Jaquery, are there any teachings of Jesus which you feel you can agree with and act on? At what point does someone become a Christian? I don't think the dividing line is quite as sharp as what some people like to make it out to be. In fact, I think there is a whole spectrum of grey in between being a Christian and not being a Christian.

Jesus told a story about a person who was neither a Christian nor a Jew. He was a Samaritan, and yet the Samaritan was the good guy, because he showed love to others.

So, if you can find some teachings of Jesus which you can agree with, then you don't need to pretend to be something you are not and at least some of your beliefs will be consistent with the one you love.

 

[TheJust]

I post this in the hope of getting advice from people I know I can trust, even as a non christian. My predicament I find myself in is that for a whole year of my very short life so far I was head over heels in love with a Christian girl, who also happened to be my best friend. As close as we were, we both knew that we had no future together while I had not recieved the gift of faith and decided to keep our feelings out of the equation. But it's gotten to a point now where my heart aches for her, but I find myself in a dilemma. I know that to have any chance of being with this girl I would need to have found god, but that leads me to question whether I would really love Christ, or I would be sullying myself by not giving to him properly. I've seen how happy God has made her first hand but I really just dont know what to do.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated loads. Thank you

I suggest faking it. Think of Jesus as pancakes, oh you believe pancakes are our lord and savior? me too! lets get married. Love requires no sacrifice.

 

[Christian-Catholic]

I post this in the hope of getting advice from people I know I can trust, even as a non christian. My predicament I find myself in is that for a whole year of my very short life so far I was head over heels in love with a Christian girl, who also happened to be my best friend. As close as we were, we both knew that we had no future together while I had not recieved the gift of faith and decided to keep our feelings out of the equation. But it's gotten to a point now where my heart aches for her, but I find myself in a dilemma. I know that to have any chance of being with this girl I would need to have found god, but that leads me to question whether I would really love Christ, or I would be sullying myself by not giving to him properly. I've seen how happy God has made her first hand but I really just dont know what to do.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated loads. Thank you

Hello Jacquery, let me tell you a true story. My parents were good friends with a married couple The husband was a Christian and he married a muslim woman. The muslim woman converted to Christianity to marry him, so the faith didnt truely come all the way to her at first. Many years later the wife became more of a devote christian then the husband ever was in his life. Their friends became astonished when they saw the incredible faith and love for the lord that she developed. My parents told me about them a few years back .

Maybe she is the door that Jesus is using to pull you closer to him. Christianity has lots of Good evidences. Why not start to take a look at them with her. Maybe Jesus has brought her into your life to show you her love for him.

If your mind and heart are both truely open to knowing Jesus, he will make himself known to you. The question is are you open to the possibility of letting him into your heart? And dont worry about not loving him properly, if you say yes to him he will make the rest happen , it doesnt have to be a perfect yes but an honest YES.

I will pray for that to be the case
in my prayers my friend

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hi,

I will offer you some advice having gone through many broken relationships, and understanding the yearnings that we can some times have. I will also included a link to my website that includes stories of God doing the miraculous, it may help you with your faith issues.

I don't know everything about your relationship with this girl, but I do know that if you are head over heals in love with her you don't want the answer to be no. However I have had that feeling quite a few times, and often the answer is no. It kills you inside, it can take you to the depths of dispare. But I eventually found some one and got married. For me being a Christian I had a certain level of faith and was able to ask God who to marry, God told me some one I could marry, and it worked out great. If I was you I would not get your heart too set on just one girl, because if it fails you will be devastated. Just take a few steps back, and see how things work out. Definitely try to find God in the process, for with him things will work out fine for you, whether it is this girl or not.

My website is Know God Personally below is a story off the website.

One morning I got up and walked into the hall and I heard a voice that I believed was God say "How would you like to be stabbed in the Valley". The Valley was known as the rough end of town, and the voice scared me a little, I wondered if I had done something to offend God. I had planned to go down to the Valley to ask people out to church as was my habit at the time. In the end I went anyway regardless of the fear. I walked up to the first person I met and asked him if he would like to go out to church. He said to me "I am an atheist, I don't believe in God". I just said "fine", but hoped to change his mind. He then proceeded to unbutton his shirt and showed me scar marks up and down his chest and stomach. He said to me, "I was attacked by a knife wielding man in the Valley some time ago and spent months recovering in hospital, How could God allow that to happen to me". Then I knew why God had said in the morning "How would I like to be stabbed?". God understood this man, but had a good plan for him. Some weeks latter this man came out to church and became a Christian.