I need good Christian counsel

[Immanuel19]

My partner said one prophet he watched online stated that couples should each have three separate bank accounts. One for normal expenses, one for savings, and one secret account. Is that right?

 

[Tolworth John]

My partner said one prophet he watched online stated that couples should each have three separate bank accounts. One for normal expenses, one for savings, and one secret account. Is that right?

No as Christians we renounce secret ways.
Why should you hide anything from your spouse?

Have your own bank account and a shared account but have no secrets from each other.

May I suggest that you stop watching this preacher

 

[com7fy8]

My partner said one prophet he watched online stated that couples should each have three separate bank accounts. One for normal expenses, one for savings, and one secret account. Is that right?

What would be an example of why you would want secrecy, please?

 

[BNR32FAN]

What would be an example of why you would want secrecy, please?

The only Christian reason I could see for having a secret account might be to buy gifts as a surprise for your spouse. I dunno maybe other people can think of other reasons.

 

[Immanuel19]

What would be an example of why you would want secrecy, please?

It would make couples feel more human, he claimed, according to the prophet. I didn't understand it, and I can't think of anything that would require a private account. I have the impression he is hiding something and refusing to tell me. When I first met him, he appeared to be a strong-willed Christian who claimed that the Holy Spirit and angels visit him in dreams (I'm not sure if this is genuine or not). Throughout our relationship, he has told huge and small lies. The major ones were about his employment, he claimed to have things that he didn't have and he lied about his visa status. I want to live a godly and sober life but I feel like my life right now is a total mess and I need God to give me guidance desperately. I tried looking in the scripture but I couldn't find a clear answer.

 

[Immanuel19]

What would be an example of why you would want secrecy, please?

It would make couples feel more human, he claimed, according to the prophet. I didn't understand it, and I can't think of anything that would require a private account. I have the impression he is hiding something and refusing to tell me. When I first met him, he appeared to be a strong-willed Christian who claimed that the Holy Spirit and angels visit him in dreams (I'm not sure if this is genuine or not). Throughout our relationship, he has told huge and small lies. The major ones were about his work, he claimed to own things that he didn't have and he lied about his visa status. I want to live a godly and sober life but I feel like my life is a total mess and I need God to give me guidance desperately. I tried looking in the scripture but I couldn't find a clear answer.

 

[jacks]

It would make couples feel more human

This makes no sense. If you go to a church perhaps your partner could explain it to both you and your pastor. My guess? Your partner is hiding something from you. Sorry to be so blunt.

 

[com7fy8]

What would be an example of why you would want secrecy, please?

It would make couples feel more human, he claimed, according to the prophet. I didn't understand it, and I can't think of anything that would require a private account.

And who might he want to give him that money which he then uses for his secret purposes????

 

[Immanuel19]

And who might he want to give him that money which he then uses for his secret purposes????

I guess that would have to come from the portion of his income he'd been hiding. I found out that he had been lying about the number of hours he actually worked. But when I confronted him, he denied it.

 

[com7fy8]

I guess that would have to come from the portion of his income he'd been hiding. I found out that he had been lying about the number of hours he actually worked. But when I confronted him, he denied it.

Well, I was supposing he might not have much of an income and he might want you to give him the money that he can use any way he wants. But if he is making more money than he tells you about, I suppose he could want to use that money in his secret account . . . or he might want to keep his own money a secret while using yours in his secret account.

In any case, if you know he's lying . . . he is not trustworthy . . . especially if he is committed to the lying and therefore won't admit it.

You need to spend time with mature Christians who are a good example for you.

And I think if someone is trustworthy, God will prove them to you. I don't think trust is blind. God has proven Himself to us so we trust Him.

"'Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.'" (Matthew 11:29)

I have been attracted to women because of how I hoped to use them and get their attention. It was not love . . . what I fell in was not God's love, to say the least I was in love with what I wanted to get, and I was intimate with my own feelings, never really intimate with any of those women.

By now you should have some idea of what he wants. Is this what God's word emphasizes, or what he hopes to use you to get for himself?

And if you have a love relationship you also have trust. You do not lie if you trust someone, I would say. So, if he does not trust you, this is maybe all you need to know.

But if you could be attracted to a lier, you need to become able to tell the difference between a person of genuine love and a user. And so, I consider, you need to spend time with mature and genuine Christians so you can know how to be and how to relate in God's love. And if some guy can charm you into falling for him, but he does not live and love like your examples do, you could be fooling yourself. Instead, get with a guy who helps you grow in Jesus and learn how to love as God's family with various other Christians and not only with him.

 

[GodLovesCats]

My partner said one prophet he watched online stated that couples should each have three separate bank accounts. One for normal expenses, one for savings, and one secret account. Is that right?

What does the profit mean by a "secret account"? I have never heard of such a thing.

Married couples should have a joint account for what they buy together, such as a house and all insurance plans. But in case (God forbid) they get divorced, everything needs to be separate. So if there is even the slightest chance of a breakup, it is very important for each person to have a separate account.

 

[JM]

This is a Baptist forum we do not believe in modern day prophets.

Better check yo self before you wreck yo self cause false prophets are bad for for your health.