I Need Advice

[Jeshu]

A big part of me just want to go back to my bf and just deal with his attitude and meanness. I care about him, he's just always mad at me and mean.

I honestly don't feel like I'm strong enough to deal with all of this.

Believe me when i say that a boyfriend who is always mean and mad at you is not the type of relationship you want to be in. A good relationship is where both parties love and respect each other. You need someone who feels love for you and the need to take tender care of you, instead of anger or the need to be mean, that doesn't speak of love at all.

Part of recovery from depression is to get away from people who put us down, ridicule us, or in other ways hurt or upset us. As a matter of fact if you have been in an abusive relationship for awhile you might consider counselling as part of recovery. For abusive relationships truly are depressive and do much harm to a person's self-esteem. Just ask yourself how much of the negativity you feel towards yourself as been imposed on you by other people's loveless behaviours? Would it be wise to keep such negativity in place within your heart and mind and help them destroy you? Or would it be wiser to dump what anyone says about you and ask Jesus, in His love, and with His truth, to rebuild your self esteem instead?

This is why staying at your mum's place is hopefully a short time thing so you can move on and find a place where you are safe, for not until you do do you have a true home to talk about. Home should be a safe place otherwise we are homeless even if we have got a bed and a roof over our heads.

 

[Jeshu]

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No need to die but there is need for change. i hope that you will understand that. Suicide is only going to put your bad life on everyone left behind, it is just not an option, a new life is what you truly want.

i hope that Jesus will give you renewed vision.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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I definitely understand that state of hopelessness where it seems death would be a better solution than living. Try to be kind to you. You just went through the loss of a relationship that is fresh, your living situation is tense and sounds unhealthy or even abusive in its own way, and you just are experiencing a major life change.

I'd encourage you to reach out to any support network you may have and spend time with them. You don't have to talk about what you're going through if you don't want to. Just have dinner or somthing like watching a movie together.

Contact someone for help. 800-SUICIDE, Lifeline Crisis Chat, Crisis Text Line for SmartPhone users - text HOME to 741741, IMAlive Crisis line, or the Samaritans. You are worth the investment in your own life.

 

[Angeleyes7715]

Thank you everyone.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

A big part of me just want to go back to my bf and just deal with his attitude and meanness. I care about him, he's just always mad at me and mean.

I honestly don't feel like I'm strong enough to deal with all of this.

You are strong and everything will be okay. It helps to look at the worst times if your life and see how you were able to get past them. You can get through this too.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I was homeless for 3 very long years in Huntington Beach CA and NEVER went to a shelter or a church or even my family for help. I just trusted God in that situation that He had orchestrated. I prayed daily for a cup of coffee, a cigarette and a beer. I was rarely disappointed.

I went fishing everyday and rarely caught a fish. I went to the library and learned which plants, weeds and mushrooms I could eat. I learned which fruit trees and avocado trees where in the area and always asked permission.

My faith was solid at the time and I never figured out what was going on? Why He always stopped me from getting a job?

That is until He revealed His plan to me of establishing me in Hawaii! So while I was homeless in CA, He was building a life for me in HI. It took Him 3yrs to bring the company I would work for to Maui. To prepare a woman for me to marry, etc.

EVERTHING was prepared for me when I got there in detail!

9 months after being homeless, I was married and living on the North Shore of Maui, surfing in my backyard(beyond dreams) and fishing from my hammock! SHAZAM!

Patience is required and expect big changes. Trust Him in all His ways. He has a plan!

This is such an encouraging story..hope is very important to have.

 

[Haipule]

This is such an encouraging story..hope is very important to have.

agreed! That journey started when I contemplated the noun pistis(translated as faith)that every one uses wrongfully as a verb. I began to realize that my faith was actually God's faith which is His Word.

The next thing you know the company I was working for went out of business overnight and from there, I was systematically dismantled until I found my self living in the street. But what a great test to try out my new found faith! It worked!

1 1/2 years into it I was challenged to understand hope. I figured out that if it is God's faith, then it is also God's hope for me found in Scripture!

So I began to brag a big brag to all my detractors and the people judging me as some sort of wicked sinner being punished. I said to them all, "Stand and watch the deliverance of the Lord, it will be spectacular". I figured that a test of this magnitude would have a spectacular ending! I cheated off Job's notes!

Unfortunately, I had to say that for a 1 1/2 years convincing all that I had gone mad!

At the end, a good friend of mine, who I had led to the Lord, and also into his career as an optician, as I am, saw me sleeping in my truck and talked it over with his wife.

He worked for Costco Optical and got me a part-time job for $7.50 p/h as I lost my license through lapsing. He took me in and gave me everything I needed such as clothing.

A couple of weeks later the district manager paid me a visit and remarked at how well I was doing.

That morning, I was in the managers office and notice a map on the wall with pins stuck in Hawaii. I asked, "why do you have pins stuck in Hawaii?" He said, "We have 4 stores there".

So, during my visit from the district manger I just kinda threw it out there as a joke, "If you ever need anyone to go to Hawaii, let me know". She said, "Bill!, I also manage the Hawaii district and I'll give you a raise and full-time if you will go to Maui for me, they need you!"

So I go back home and explained to my friend that I was being transferred out of state. He ask where, I said Maui. He screamed, I get you off the street and get you the job and their sending YOU to Maui! That was followed by a lot !of swearing which was followed be a celebration of pure joy!

As I was packing to move he just kept repeating, "I don't believe this!"

The rest of the story is SHAZAM!

And yes, I called all my detractors and the accusers and said, "Told you so!" As it was SPECTACULAR!

10yrs later I was a millionaire in the top 5% of the nation! I spent the last 10yrs traveling the world! I came back home to Maui last year and am now back on the job saying, "Do it again Lord, do it again!

 

[Haipule]

This is such an encouraging story..hope is very important to have.

I must tell you this as well. Being dismantled like that felt to me like being prepared to enter the kingdom of God/heaven.

Jesus talks over and over about just how awesome that kingdom is and that it is difficult for a rich man to enter.

Well, I didn't have to sell all that I had and give to the poor to enter. But, I brought nothing in.

The "Eye of the Needle" was a gate to the city, so narrow and short, that a camel had to be unloaded of all it's baggage and pushed through.

I tell you the truth, I went through that gate as naked as a camel! There is no other way through that gate!

But, what God did to me on the other side is the stuff of legend! As I am now my friend's and family's favorite story!

If can, I suggest you try entering through the "Beautiful Gate"!

 

[Evergold]

Although you may not want to stay with your family, it is nice that they are open to welcoming you into their home during your time of need. Many people do not have any family at all to turn to, so it is a blessing that you don’t have to resort to staying at a shelter due to a sheer lack of other options. I do understand the desire to be free of people’s controlling ways, but this might be a good opportunity for you to strengthen your bond with your family. Through prayer and understanding, it is possible to change your family dynamic, but of course, you’d have to be open to that experience.

 

[Haipule]

This is such an encouraging story..hope is very important to have.

It's funny, now people ask me, "Why does God bless you SO MUCH?"

I asked God the same question and He said, "Well Bill, it's just that you remind me SO MUCH of My Son!"