I need advice

[H31sL0v3]

Well, I have been praying to God for my family to be closer since the four of us don't get along. My dad and mom fight constantly and it makes me feel bad. My brother isn't as nice as he used to be.
Also I have this issue with having a crush on this guy. He is five years older than me and he liked me but later set his eyes on a girl eight years younger. I know she likes him also. I asked God if he was the man for me and He responded yes in so many ways. I know I have to trust in Him but I can't help feeling sad when I see him giving her that "look".

Should I just avoid my family for a while until everything gets better or should I do something? Should I just forget about the guy and move on or should I keep on praying for him to like me again?

 

[stephanieamber]

First of all; don't avoid your family, unless it is completely destroying you. It sounds like they need a little light shining in their relationships.. you can be that light.

Also about the boy. Not to shoot your dreams down or anything like that, but I know that I have prayed about boys and somehow have felt God tell me that I was going to be with like 7 different boys. Almost like trying to put God's stamp of approval on something we want, instead of first seeking Him and then waiting for him to bring it to us.

NOT to limit God. Just my own personal experience as a girl

Either way, just keep praying about it. I know that sounds sooooo generic, but drawing closer to God helps your perspective on things.

 

[keeptrying]

I have to agree. Stay in touch with your family and as for the boy if God had picked this boy for you he would not be looking at other girls. God bless

 

[Sketcher]

I don't think it was God telling you that you were going to be with that guy. 25, and he's dating someone who is 17? Consider yourself blessed that he didn't pick you. No, I think this was the very human tendency to make ourselves think that God said "yes" to what we really, really want. I've made the mistake of doing that. No, what you need to do is completely let this guy go. Forget about him, put him out of the picture entirely. Release him completely to God. He is not yours, he was never yours, and no one is going to be yours until he says "I do" next to you.

 

[dig out your soul]

Having just had a disasterous end to an 8 1/2 year relationship with a girl that I always thought I'd marry, I have learned that your family are the only people you can really trust in this world. There were occasions where I put my GF ahead of family relationships and responsibilities during our relationship and I have really regreted that in the weeks since things have ended as my family has given me the support and love I need to get through this.

So....I'd say never put your family on the back-burner for anyone or anything. Try to work out the issues with them however hard it may be. With a loving family and caring God everything else will fall into place.

 

[Opalsunset]

I agree with the advice here, it sounds like your family will need you more than ever now. Let God's light shine through you to feel joy, and peace in you. It's not easy but God may use you the most to bring your family back together.

As with the boy, It's really difficult, I know... If it's really for you, his eyes would only be on you, no matter how long it would take for you guys to be together or what ever the situation would be. The Lord does not work in confusion, and it sounds like that is kind of what is happening with this one guy. It's easier said than done, but you should not worry about him, Just ask God for the right person in your life, and believe he will bring him into your life! Hope this helps some! *Hugs* Take care!

 

[H31sL0v3]

Thank you all for the advice, may God bless you all!

I love my family and I know that we will all praise God together. I have faith that all will go well for all of us and we will get closer to God. I will keep on praying, fighting the good fight.

Well he is not dating her since he promised God he would not date any girl this year and know actually I think he is staring to like another girl 7 years younger (my brother's ex). I actually made a promise to God saying that if the guy I was going to marry was not going to ask anyone out first other than me then I will not accept a date from another guy. But God told me that he was the one for me in so many different ways, I know he spoke to my heart.

 

[beauty7]

That is right Do continue to stay strong und pray for your family, and also know that am praying as well. ^^ All will work out great

Starting to like another girl? =( Does he know that you feel this way? I mean, does he know that you think he is starting to like another girl? Have you two ever talked about this? Also, is it okay to ask what do you mean that God has shown you in many ways that he is the one? I guess what I am really asking is, are you sure it is God?

 

[rahmiyn]

The best thing you can do for your family is to pray for them, and that is what you are doing, bless your heart.

I agree with the others on the guy. Let him go. You deserve better!! There is a man out there who will have eyes (and his heart) only for you. Wait patiently for him, and your reward will be great.

I'll pray for you and your family. xxoo

 

[Yuyuchan]

The others have spoken wisely and I agree.:3
Also pertaining to the guy, just keep you mind focused on God and be a light and friend to Him I believe there is a reason that you meet everyone that you meet. Currently, you have feelings for him, but do not forget that you and him or friends to. So first concentrate on the friend matter while you put God first. :3 I am sure God will guide you in the right direction in whatever direction the relationship will go.