I realize that this is under the "marriage ministry" section, and I am not, nor have I been married. My boyfriend ... well, ex-boyfriend now I guess ... is absolutely amazing. He's firm enough in his faith to decide that our wonderful relationship of just over a year ... needed to end so that I could find God for myself, instead of for him. How can I prove to him that I want to find God for me ... not just to keep him ... though I love him ... and can see a life with him *as could he* ... and I do want to keep him. He told me a long time ago that our differences were a problem, and I realized and understood that, but dragged my feet in fixing it. And now ... he's not ... he's forcing me to make him a a less important part of my life ... indefinitely. Am I supposed to just ... give up on this relationship and focus on me? Or can I look for and find my relationship with God ... and salvage my relationship with him? I'm Desperate for advice.
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I have to say as someone in your bf's place, I would be skeptical of the motive for a sudden desire to have a relationship with God. I think your bf is right. Try to put some space between you two and focus on your own walk with God. Are you going to church? Do you read the bible? How are you seeking? If you are doing all of these things, continue to seek and find your own path with God. You never know what could happen down the road. For now though, I'd say find out if you can keep your relationship on an acquaintance level. So that you can speak to each other if you happen to cross paths, but other than that, focus only on your own walk. Too much history and trying to have a friendship too soon will only drive you both apart for good. Also, please DO seek for your own benefit not to reconcile with your bf. I do have to say being a christian is not easy. The world will fight you in so many ways, but you'll NEVER be alone in the fight. You will be amazed by the peace and love a relationship with God will bring. I hope you are able to open your heart and be filled with His joy!! I will pray for you and your ex!
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How about this:
"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."
Seek first after God, trust in Him and Him only. Then, after that happens and He (the Lord) becomes your goal, your purpose, your desire- then watch and see what happens. Either that young man will come running back to you or you won't want him to, one or the other will happen I'd bet.
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"But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."
Seek first after God, trust in Him and Him only. Then, after that happens and He (the Lord) becomes your goal, your purpose, your desire- then watch and see what happens. Either that young man will come running back to you or you won't want him to, one or the other will happen I'd bet.
Bob
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Sounds like you care for him very much. In my opinion the best thing you can do is be honest with him.
A good way to spend time with him, and show him your spiritual growth. Talk to him about scripture.
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A good way to spend time with him, and show him your spiritual growth. Talk to him about scripture.
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