I might be overthinking this about a priest.

[Lady Bug]

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

 

[AlexB23]

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

My friend, just be open about your sins. You will not offend the priest. Heck, I told my priest in 2022 that I broke Leviticus 15:16 (luckily, not to contentography, as I do not look at that junk). You could always go to another priest to confess, if you are worried. However, priests have listened to far worse stuff.

 

[JesusFollowerForever]

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

Dear Lady bug; the best way is to confess to the Father in Heaven! I know in James it is written to confess sins to one another but also as an example David did confess to God directly, Truly it is the best way, do not worry about what the priest thinks, worry about what God thinks, he knows your heart it is also written he knows how many hairs we have on out heads! You and all of us are precious to him. Jesus always forgave and said go and sin no more! this is what God expects of us, to sin no more.
I remember my first confession ( AND LAST) I was very young, maybe 8 or 9, I was thinking of what to confess but in truth I did not have anything to confess ( I was a happy child with no problems whatsoever) my sin was to invent a sin to say to the priest! I never ever did that again. I always confess every day to God, I thank him and ask for forgiveness.

Be Blessed Lady Bug. Know that a repentant heart is always forgiven.

 

[AlexB23]

Dear Lady bug; the best way is to confess to the Father in Heaven! I know in James it is written to confess sins to one another but also as an example David did confess to God directly, Truly it is the best way, do not worry about what the priest thinks, worry about what God thinks, he knows your heart it is also written he knows how many hairs we have on out heads! You and all of us are precious to him. Jesus always forgave and said go and sin no more! this is what God expects of us, to sin no more.
I remember my first confession ( AND LAST) I was very young, maybe 8 or 9, I was thinking of what to confess but in truth I did not have anything to confess ( I was a happy child with no problems whatsoever) my sin was to invent a sin to say to the priest! I never ever did that again. I always confess every day to God, I thank him and ask for forgiveness.

Be Blessed Lady Bug. Know that a repentant heart is always forgiven.

Agreed 100%, I confess my sins to God also, just as David did in Psalm 51.

 

[AlexB23]

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

By the way, here are some tips when it comes to confession, if you decide to confess with a priest instead of directly to God.


1. Prepare yourself: Reflect on your sins and the reasons behind them. Confession is an opportunity for spiritual growth and healing, so take it seriously.

2. Choose a convenient time: Try to schedule your confession during a time when you can fully focus on the experience and the conversation with the priest.

3. Find a quiet and private place: Confession is a sacred and confidential encounter, so find a place where you can speak openly and freely, without distractions or interruptions.

4. Begin with the sign of the cross: This traditional practice helps to set the mood and remind you of God's presence during the confession.

5. Use the appropriate phrases: Begin by saying "Bless me, Father, for I have sinned," and then recount your sins, using specific details.

6. Listen attentively to the priest's advice: After confessing your sins, the priest may offer guidance or counsel. Be open and receptive to his words.

7. Say the Act of Contrition: This prayer expresses your sorrow for your sins and your commitment to turn away from them.

8. Receive absolution: The priest will grant you forgiveness and absolution. Respond with the appropriate words and actions, such as making the sign of the cross.

9. Offer thanks and praise: Express gratitude for the opportunity to confess your sins and receive God's mercy.

10. Reflect on your experience: Take time to reflect on the confession and the lessons you've learned. Use this moment as an opportunity for spiritual growth and renewal.

 

[Lady Bug]

My friend, just be open about your sins. You will not offend the priest. Heck, I told my priest in 2022 that I broke Leviticus 15:16 (luckily, not to contentography, as I do not look at that junk). You could always go to another priest to confess, if you are worried. However, priests have listened to far worse stuff.

I tried not to go to him but it was convenient. If he is ever disrespectful though, I'll go to another person.

Dear Lady bug; the best way is to confess to the Father in Heaven! I know in James it is written to confess sins to one another but also as an example David did confess to God directly, Truly it is the best way, do not worry about what the priest thinks, worry about what God thinks, he knows your heart it is also written he knows how many hairs we have on out heads! You and all of us are precious to him. Jesus always forgave and said go and sin no more! this is what God expects of us, to sin no more.
I remember my first confession ( AND LAST) I was very young, maybe 8 or 9, I was thinking of what to confess but in truth I did not have anything to confess ( I was a happy child with no problems whatsoever) my sin was to invent a sin to say to the priest! I never ever did that again. I always confess every day to God, I thank him and ask for forgiveness.

Be Blessed Lady Bug. Know that a repentant heart is always forgiven.

I am confessing to God when I go to confession

Agreed 100%, I confess my sins to God also, just as David did in Psalm 51.

 

[AlexB23]

I tried not to go to him but it was convenient. If he is ever disrespectful though, I'll go to another person.

I am confessing to God when I go to confession.

Yes, you are confessing to God, via a priest as intercessor. But hey, regardless of the method one confesses, your sins will be forgiven.

 

[chevyontheriver]

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

You can pick your confessor

I've learned since starting confession that I don't share too much detail about a sin unless the priest needs to know. I ask the priest during confession if he needs any more detail, and he usually says no, but before I used to ask the priest, I think I would reveal too much.

Yesterday I went to confession at a parish that I don't go to and hardly ever do. I confessed face to face because the way he was sitting made it hard to enter into the confessional and him not see you anyway. However, the last time I confessed face to face with him was a couple years ago. During the latter confession, I was not seasoned enough on what details I could leave out and I think I said some things in the confessional that offended him. I hate that I might have done this. Fast-forward to two years later - meaning yesterday. I confessed face to face to him some sins and tried to "trim the fat" on them, and I can't tell if he remembered me from back then or not. I'm kind of worried that even if he didn't remember me, he might have sensed that I look familiar in a "bad" way. The priest is a very intelligent priest, but he doesn't have much of a personality, if any. I said what I needed to say, he gave my penance, I said "Thanks be to God" at the end like I always do at confession, he said nothing and just looked at me, and I left, and he had no specific form of hospitality - he just looks at you straight in the eye, no expression, neither frowns or smiles, and when you're done, you're done. I'm sure there are worse priests out there. However, as I said, I'm most worried that he remembers my "offensive" confession from two years back. I have one of those faces where people remember me for a long time.

Happily you get to choose your confessor.

 

[Lady Bug]

You can pick your confessor

Happily you get to choose your confessor.

I can but it was convenient yesterday. I have better choices though, IMHO. However, I was finding it annoying to delay confession. But yeah, this confessor is not my thing and I'll go to him if he ends up being the last priest on earth

 

[Chrystal-J]

I had a priest who would ask very explicit questions. It was like a dirty phone call. And I think he told other priests what I said because when I was confessing to a different priest he already knew what I was talking about and said I shouldn't repeat myself (even though this was the first time I confessed to him). Anyway, I quit confessing with both of them and went to a totally different church for confession.

 

[chevyontheriver]

Dear Lady bug; the best way is to confess to the Father in Heaven! I know in James it is written to confess sins to one another but also as an example David did confess to God directly, Truly it is the best way, do not worry about what the priest thinks, worry about what God thinks, he knows your heart it is also written he knows how many hairs we have on out heads! You and all of us are precious to him. Jesus always forgave and said go and sin no more! this is what God expects of us, to sin no more.
I remember my first confession ( AND LAST) I was very young, maybe 8 or 9, I was thinking of what to confess but in truth I did not have anything to confess ( I was a happy child with no problems whatsoever) my sin was to invent a sin to say to the priest! I never ever did that again. I always confess every day to God, I thank him and ask for forgiveness.

Be Blessed Lady Bug. Know that a repentant heart is always forgiven.

You need to go back to confession to confess making up sins to confess. At 8 or 9 it may not be in the mortal sin category, but on the other hand it looks like that one event may have been just the sort of thing that torpedoed your Catholic faith. Even if it was not a mortal sin, you are well overdue for confession. Presuming you are older than nine years old currently.

 

[chevyontheriver]

I had a priest who would ask very explicit questions. It was like a dirty phone call. And I think he told other priests what I said because when I was confessing to a different priest he already knew what I was talking about and said I shouldn't repeat myself (even though this was the first time I confessed to him). Anyway, I quit confessing with both of them and went to a totally different church for confession.

Good. If you have decent evidence of him repeating your sins to others, do inform your bishop. Repeating your sins is an excommunication type of fence for any priest.

 

[Chrystal-J]

Good. If you have decent evidence of him repeating your sins to others, do inform your bishop. Repeating your sins is an excommunication type of fence for any priest.

I quit that church completely in 2020 (after 16 years). So, it would be hard to rehash it all over again--plus it would be hard to prove. My new church is much better and I can confess without any hassle.

 

[chevyontheriver]

I quit that church completely in 2020 (after 16 years). So, it would be hard to rehash it all over again--plus it would be hard to prove. My new church is much better and I can confess without any hassle.

OK. Good for you having a better parish now. I suggested reporting the priest because they really do need to be reminded of the sanctity of the confessional. But it sounds like the case would be a bit stale.

 

[Chrystal-J]

OK. Good for you having a better parish now. I suggested reporting the priest because they really do need to be reminded of the sanctity of the confessional. But it sounds like the case would be a bit stale.

Yeah, I think it was in 2018 or so. But, it was jarring to think that the priest was running his mouth to everyone.

 

[chevyontheriver]

Yeah, I think it was in 2018 or so. But, it was jarring to think that the priest was running his mouth to everyone.

They CANNOT do that. Sheesh we have some rotten priests. Good on you for finding better ones. And not allowing yourself to be turned off by it all.

 

[Chrystal-J]

Good on you for finding better ones. And not allowing yourself to be turned off by it all.

Thanks. I always keep Christ as my focus and not let men (or women) ruin it for me.

 

[AlexB23]

I had a priest who would ask very explicit questions. It was like a dirty phone call. And I think he told other priests what I said because when I was confessing to a different priest he already knew what I was talking about and said I shouldn't repeat myself (even though this was the first time I confessed to him). Anyway, I quit confessing with both of them and went to a totally different church for confession.

Eww. That priest was probably getting himself off inside that confession booth.

 

[AlexB23]

OK. Good for you having a better parish now. I suggested reporting the priest because they really do need to be reminded of the sanctity of the confessional. But it sounds like the case would be a bit stale.

Agreed. @Chrystal-J might wanna report that pervert priest, though, the case happened 6 years ago for her.

 

[Lady Bug]

I had a priest who would ask very explicit questions. It was like a dirty phone call. And I think he told other priests what I said because when I was confessing to a different priest he already knew what I was talking about and said I shouldn't repeat myself (even though this was the first time I confessed to him). Anyway, I quit confessing with both of them and went to a totally different church for confession.

I had a strange experience with a priest who I otherwise enjoy for confession. One time I confessed to him (sorry if this seems too personal) that I thought I may have committed a form of "M" (a sexual sin if you know what I mean) but that I wasn't sure if it was full-blown "M," and immediately he asked me "Did you have an org@$m?" And I'm like...does that even matter? I said No, but I wanted to ask him why did it matter.

They CANNOT do that.

Well, they're not SUPPOSED to, but it doesn't mean they don't.