I Messed Up (moved from Christian Advice)

[03zx6r]

I did something really stupid today and I know that it's something God and the Christian community frown upon greatly, so if want to ban me from your forum for my sin, I'll completely understand. But before you do, please understand that I am deeply upset with my actions and I want to do what I can to make things right and seek the strength to never make the same mistake again.

For the past few months, I've felt down a lot because I'm quickly approaching 30 years old and, despite the fact that all of my friends are either married or in stable relationships, I have yet to experience my very first relationship. My entire life, I've struggled deeply with depression and a lack of self confidence with women and it's held me back from much of what I would like to accomplish in my lifetime. Feeling hopeless, in an act of pure desperation this afternoon, I engaged in homosexual sex with another man.

Firstly, I am deeply ashamed with myself. I am a heterosexual male, but I felt desperate and felt alone in the world. I wanted somebody to satisfy an underlying urge, and I took the easy way out by seeking it from a place that I knew I could find it. For it, I now feel worse.

I feel like I need help now more than ever. I'm ashamed to talk to God and ask him for his forgiveness when he has given so much to me that I should be more thankful for.

What should I do? How should I go about addressing the underlying issue that lead me to this dreadful path, to begin with?

I thank you all in advance and I hope that you are willing to forgive me for my mistake.

 

[wonderwaleye]

I did something really stupid today and I know that it's something God and the Christian community frown upon greatly, so if want to ban me from your forum for my sin, I'll completely understand. But before you do, please understand that I am deeply upset with my actions and I want to do what I can to make things right and seek the strength to never make the same mistake again.

For the past few months, I've felt down a lot because I'm quickly approaching 30 years old and, despite the fact that all of my friends are either married or in stable relationships, I have yet to experience my very first relationship. My entire life, I've struggled deeply with depression and a lack of self confidence with women and it's held me back from much of what I would like to accomplish in my lifetime. Feeling hopeless, in an act of pure desperation this afternoon, I engaged in homosexual sex with another man.

Firstly, I am deeply ashamed with myself. I am a heterosexual male, but I felt desperate and felt alone in the world. I wanted somebody to satisfy an underlying urge, and I took the easy way out by seeking it from a place that I knew I could find it. For it, I now feel worse.

I feel like I need help now more than ever. I'm ashamed to talk to God and ask him for his forgiveness when he has given so much to me that I should be more thankful for.

What should I do? How should I go about addressing the underlying issue that lead me to this dreadful path, to begin with?

I thank you all in advance and I hope that you are willing to forgive me for my mistake.

Lay it at the FEET of JESUS and ask forgiveness and that it be washed away with HIS BLOOD so again you will be white as snow. Then forgive yourself and do not do this again.



You need to go to the Dept. of Mental Health and let them know about the depression you suffer from. There are very good meds that can correct this.



If you are going to be part of the KINGDOM of ALMIGHTY GOD you MUST GIVE IT ALL TO GOD.






GOD demands that you give HIM your WHOLE heart, mind, strength, and soul. That means you go in prayer and tell GOD that you will do this and from that moment on seek GOD in all your decisions. After this is complete GOD will know. For HE searches the heart. HE will then send HIS HOLY SPIRIT ( ANOINTED-BORN AGAIN- SAVED ). For it is then that you shall receive the MISSION GOD has for just you and supply all your needs, even what you have not the ability to have.






Pick up GOD'S ROAD MAP to the KINGDOM of ALMIGHTY GOD ( BIBLE ) and start reading the NEW TESTIMENT till the next time you read it you will already know what IT'S going to say. For then it's locked in your heart to draw from for the rest of your life. You will NEVER be sorry you did.






Do yourself a BIG FAVOR and Start right now!!!



LOVE


steven

 

[wayfaring man]

Hi O3 , Welcome to CF ,

I'd say you should thank The Lord for the feelings of shame , and pray that you've now proven to yourself that , such an effort to quench desire , is not one which will ease your trial , but only make it worse , for His Holy Calling is upon you .

And that these things will make it easier for you to resist any temptation along that line in the future .

What greatly helps free us from being a slave to lust , is to find a godly desire which satisfies , and brings joy .

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart. <-----> 2nd Timothy 2:22

Look for ways to help make your surroundings better + your fellow humans assisted , and this will help fill the empty feeling which makes one more likely to feel depressed , or desperate .

And once , your life starts to shine a bit , others will enjoy + appreciate you more too .

And this will increase your cause to worship The Lord , and be humbly thankful .

May The Lord Be Pleased to Bring Healing & Deliverance !

wm

 

[GaryP]

When Jesus said it was finished, Your Homosexual Sin was Finished. Go to the Cross
Grab onto Him. Blood and All. Let His Living Blood and Water pour out on you.
When he departs to the Father, Hold on tight and do not let go. He will Take you and
the Thief with him through the Open Temple to the Kingdom of God.
Reach you hand out to others.
Do not be afraid. In Revelations you will run across 144 thousand men who were never
defiled by Women, When I asked them if they were defiled by men. I was met with silence.
Now forget about it. Go get a STD and Aids test.
Guy to Guy, There are millions of women waiting for men.
When Jesus say's it is finished it is finished, So forget about what you have done.
and go get a woman.

 

[alatir]

So it seems that the real cause of this grievous sin is the lack of companionship with anoter person, a woman in this case. I've come to think that it isn't the sensual pleasures that we need so much but the companionship and communion with a woman, like the Scripture says:

Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone;I will make him a helper fit for him." Gen 2:18

So what do we singe people do with this desire to be close to someone and commune with somebody? We should desire to be with the Lord and seek His face and ask Him to fill our needs of intimacy and love. Eventhough He isn't here in physical sense, He is at least for me very real by His Spirit. The key to overcome sin and temptation is to be close to the Lord, to prefer sweetness of His holiness over anything sinful. We must have a hedonistic approach towards God, note towards God! Not sin!

They feast on the abundance of your house, and you give them drink from the river of your delights Ps. 36:8

You make known to me the path of life; in your presence there is fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore. Ps. 16:11

 

[Elijah2]

In desperation, and in any form of lashing out at the one who loves you most, is an action taken by a lonely person.

In your dires strait, you have now felt the real feeling of sin, a sin that can only lead you to spiritual death.

But, through the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ you have an out, and that out, is confession, REPENTANCE, and asking for forgiveness. But, the hardest of all is forgive yourself.

Go to HIS feet right now and weep and REPENT.

Speak to you pastor, and love and forgive yourself.

Many our Lord Jesus Christ give you the strength to speak to your pastor.

Blessings.

 

[Nilla]

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[graeme72]

hi there

be encouraged. in Paul's letter to the Corinthians he discusses with them about how some of them used to be homosexual but now they are new creations - the point being that God never gives up on you, and in his kingdom you are still loved and acceptable even if you have sinned in this way.

reading your post, i can understand how it may have happened. yes it was wrong, but it's not the end. God's mercy and forgiveness covers all things, even this.

praying for you. stay in touch. how are you doing now? what's been happening since then and how are you coping?

Graeme