I lied

[jelena.j4]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

 

[Michie]

Nothing. Ask God for forgiveness and leave it at that. Bringing it up after the fact is just going to appear petty.

 

[klutedavid]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

Being diplomatic is not lying.

There are occasions in life when you must lie for the sake of the other person. Here is an example of diplomacy in action. Your mother is dying of cancer in hospital and she asks you how she looks. You reply, you look like death warmed up, absolutely dreadful, hideous, I don't even want to look at you.

No one is going to tell their mother the truth in that circumstance.

There are many occasions in life when diplomacy is absolutely necessary. We live in a social world and diplomacy towards others is a crucial skill. I wish I knew, how to be diplomatic when I was young, it would have saved me from many bad social interactions.

Not many people out there would tell your friend that her house is a dump. The not they are not that stupid.

 

[BobRyan]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

No need to make her feel bad. Ideally whatever you think of something - try to find something positive. If your own little 4 year old asked you "how you like his/her drawing" you never say "I really don't like that" as if that kind of response will be what God wants of you.

1. Love God with all your heart.
2. Love your fellow human being as yourself.

That is what God values.

 

[public hermit]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

Most often when people ask questions like these, they don't want our opinion. What they want is our affirmation. Your friend has a new home and she wanted your affirmation of her in her new place. So long as her place isn't a hazzard to life and limb, she doesn't need an opinion from her friend. The moment didn't call for an assessment, it called for a friend's support. It's not like she's going to pack up and move if you gave her your assessment of her place. What she needed from you, the support of a friend, you gave her. No harm done. God is glorified when friends are there for each other.

 

[Sophrosyne]

I've had to "like" things in the past that I really didn't like and do things that I really didn't want to do as often we like things because people we care about them deem them important and we do things we don't want to do because of our love for others. Pretending to like things is no sin just as downplaying that you really hate doing certain things but will pretend to not hate them so you can help others needing them done. We have all had jobs were we pretend to not hate some things we had to do because hating them would be seen as hating those who hire us instead of our own tastes and dislikes it would be seen as our judgment of others tastes and finding them inferior to ours.

I wouldn't lose sleep over it all some lies are good, many are not. If a lie prevents harm of another then is it bad? If we were hiding someone that was wanted by evil people and lied about them not being hidden should we feel bad? The same with lieing to prevent hurt feelings not a big deal. When we lie to help others who need help vs when we lie to protect and/or profit ourselves only then one can be good the other not so good.

Unless your friend is the type that wants honest opinions and isn't going to be upset if their personal choices don't meet with others approval I think you are likely helping somewhat with her mental health with that inaccurate statement.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

It can be easy enough to fall into lying under pressure. Obviously, try not to lie. But just ask God to forgive you and move on.

 

[SANTOSO]

Hey, so i went to a birthday party tonight, it was from my dear friend, she means a lot to me and we are good friends. She asked me if i like the place, i said yes (even through i didnt really like how it looked). I feel bad for lying but telling her that i dont like how that place looks would hurt her. :/
Now what do i do?

Beloved one, just reassure yourself that you like the place, not because how it looked but because you like the place because your dear friend is with you in that place.

So when your dear friend confront you that
you lied. You can tell her how you perceive as you reassured yourself.

Consider this that we have heard :

Then the king of Egypt said to the Hebrew midwives, one of whom was named Shiphrah and the other Puah, -Exodus 1:15
"When you serve as midwife to the Hebrew women and see them on the birthstool, if it is a son, you shall kill him, but if it is a daughter, she shall live." -Exodus 1:16
So the king of Egypt called the midwives and said to them, "Why have you done this, and let the male children live?" -Exodus 1:18
The midwives said to Pharaoh, "Because the Hebrew women are not like the Egyptian women, for they are vigorous and give birth before the midwife comes to them." -Exodus 1:19
So God dealt well with the midwives. And the people multiplied and grew very strong. -Exodus 1:20

Also, we heard:

And it was told to the king of Jericho, "Behold, men of Israel have come here tonight to search out the land." -Joshua 2:2
Then the king of Jericho sent to Rahab, saying, "Bring out the men who have come to you, who entered your house, for they have come to search out all the land." -Joshua 2:3
But the woman had taken the two men and hidden them. And she said, "True, the men came to me, but I did not know where they were from. -Joshua 2:4
And when the gate was about to be closed at dark, the men went out. I do not know where the men went. Pursue them quickly, for you will overtake them." -Joshua 2:5
But she had brought them up to the roof and hid them with the stalks of flax that she had laid in order on the roof. -Joshua 2:6

To God be thanksgiving through Christ. Amen.