I Keep Trying and Failing...

[celebrityfanuk]

I'm a 19 year old, and I feel so ashamed. I keep trying not to touch and I'm doing well for 2-3 months, then something happens and I get into a downwards spiral, and I just can't get back to normal unless I do it.

I keep trying...and failing. Every time I do it, I think about God afterwards and feel just so ashamed. I am guilty - and Jesus died for me. Me? Why did he? I'm so unworthy. He died for me, and I can't get away from this habit.

I keep saying this is my last time, but I'm back here again. Now I'm on here telling you all, and I'm determined this will be my last time. I'm going to come on here every week and be held accountable - I will tell the truth, and I will get over this once and for all.

 

[Criada]

You know, the Bible says that no one is worthy, that's why you need Jesus.
Everyone sins, and although sexual sin is often seen as worse in some way, that isn't scriptural. The important thing isn't the falling, it's the getting up and carrying on. And it sounds as though you are doing that.

Remember,
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.(1 John 1:9)

That means that in God's eyes you are pure and righteous.

Confessing here and seeking accountability is a big step towards overcoming this, and a very brave thing to do. Keep going, sweetie, and you will get past this

 

[RuthD]

I am praying for your healing. God bless you.

 

[Marie D]

Jesus died for us because we sin. All he asks in return is that we repent. So you should not feel low, instead you should rejoice in God's love and resolve not to abuse the body He gave you again.

 

[Lemmiwinks]

I used to try and fail, now I don't even try anymore.

 

[lovelyashley]

I know how that is. It's really hard. When I get tempted, I try to think about God and what He would think of this...maybe pick up my Bible and read a few verses. Pray to Him. It is very hard, but with His help, we can do this.

 

[John-Phillip]

Hope its ok for a guy to comment here!! -...I would add to the above: it takes faith to believe you are forgiven. Don't give way to the temptation to believe that God doesn't forgive you or that he doesn't love you. ....The bible speaks about the 'full armour of God'. Two aspects are the 'helmet of salvation' and the 'shield of faith'. The helmet of salvation is knowing you are saved and forgiven. In fact God regards you (and me also) as having Christ's righteousness because we have believed in him. I believe the reality of the 'shield of faith' is expressed when you trust God in the midst of trouble. I find it helpful to pray actively: something like, 'I am really unsettled about this...but I trust you....do not release me until your purpose is fulfilled'...the prayer of faith at the crisis of doubt/fear/temptation is powerful I think, and honours God. (I found this extremely helpful a year ago when my son -18 now- was mentally ill). Lastly, I would encourage you to speak with an older Christian woman who can talk through the sexuality issues.

 

[aric714]

All I can say is take one day at a time. Honestly most guys have been masturbating for YEARS before they realize or decide that it's wrong. When you have a habit over such a long period of time, it's not easy to simply "stop". What you need to do is devise a plan. Saying you will stop now and never do it again is almost setting yourself up for failure. I recommend reducing the amount of times and days that you do it. Maybe have certain days of the week that you do it and stick strictly to them until your doing it once a week, then every once in awhile and finally not all or hardly. If your watching "movies" that IS something you can simply stop. You know the things that trigger those thoughts and gets your "surfing" the web and so when you see them flee! Go to a total different subject. .

When you fail accept it and try harder next time. This isnt' a easy battle and sometimes you have to win small battles to win the big ones.