I just need some support...

[LelaGracia]

Hi, I'm Lela. I was molested five years ago (I was only 9 when it happened), and until now I had totally shut it out of my life. Recently though, I was talking to a friend and it all sort of came out. I thought I was over this. I knew I'd never forget it, but I've never thought about it so much since it happened.

The boy who did it was fourteen at the time. He got kicked out of the school we were in and moved to the school I am now in. About three years ago his father died and he, his mother, and his brother (family friends) all moved away. Now I'm in the school where he got transferred to, and I'm really afraid there are others like him there.

The friend who I told about it recently has been really nice about talking about it with me, but I have no idea how to talk about it or how to get over it. I'm here because I need help and support. I keep on reliving it over and over in my mind - something I haven't done for years. I have no idea what to do. Thank you for any support or help you can give.

-Lela

 

[bubblefish]

First of all, welcome to the forums Hun There are some great people here and I hope that you can get the support that you need.

It is great that you have someone to talk to about what has happened. Talking can be a great thing. And the reliving is completely normal too Hun. I have problems with that too and I know many other people who do as well. Do you mind if I contact you privately with more information about that? I would prefer not to talk about it here but would like to share something with you.

Also, with talking Hun. Take it at your own pace. It is hard but you can do this. Also, have you thought about talking to a counselor? That can be scary too and something I am still struggling to accept but they know what they are doing and can help you get through this.

I am always here if you want to talk as well *hug* PM me any time or add me to msn if you have it. You can get those details from my profile.

 

[Journey_On]

Hi Lela,
Welcome to Christianforums!

You are very brave to open up about this. Sexual abuse is not something that is easy to get over. I don't think you should focus too much on getting over it because it really does take time. The healing process of abuse is not an easy one, but you have taken that first step in talking to a friend about, and that is wonderful.

Do you have an older adult you trust? If so, do you think they would be someone you could trust with your story? Maybe a teacher, pastor, guidance counselor at your school, an older and mature Christian, or youth group leader?

I am really proud of you for opening up about this. It is a very hard thing to talk about, but talking about it is a big step in the healing process. Please do not hesitate to PM me anytime.

in Christ,
Iris

 

[LelaGracia]

Thank you both. I don't really have an adult to talk to, but the friend I mentioned is a few years older than me and almost like an older brother.

Cat_goes_meow, I wouldn't mind at all if you PMed me.

-Lela

 

[Nienor]

Your story is pretty similar to mine, except I was abused by a deacon in my church. It all came out again about a year ago, and I've been hurting ever since. I'm willing to talk to you if you ever need an ear or a shoulder or whatever.

 

[bubblefish]

Thank you both. I don't really have an adult to talk to, but the friend I mentioned is a few years older than me and almost like an older brother.

Cat_goes_meow, I wouldn't mind at all if you PMed me.

-Lela

I will email you later this afternoon