I just broke up with a unbeliever

[YoungandUnashame101]

I have fallen away from the Lord and it has been nothing but pain. I remember when i was in christ I had so much peace and happiness even tho i did had struggles and it was tough but i had God there with me. I met this girl i used to date 4 years ago before i was a christian we started talking and we became a couple...It was hard because i felt unloved and wanted I cried out to God but i still had feelings and loved this person....She was a messed she drank alot and smoked and did drugs...I finally ended it with her and i feel hurt and i found out she has a new boyfriend. I want to come back to Jesus but I don't know how...could God heal my broken heart??? I just want to be a child of God again and serve him

 

[Formerly_a_Saul]

I have fallen away from the Lord and it has been nothing but pain. I remember when i was in christ I had so much peace and happiness even tho i did had struggles and it was tough but i had God there with me. I met this girl i used to date 4 years ago before i was a christian we started talking and we became a couple...It was hard because i felt unloved and wanted I cried out to God but i still had feelings and loved this person....She was a messed she drank alot and smoked and did drugs...I finally ended it with her and i feel hurt and i found out she has a new boyfriend. I want to come back to Jesus but I don't know how...could God heal my broken heart??? I just want to be a child of God again and serve him

Salvation isn't lost, so you are still a child of God. However, what made you want to date a nonbeliever? And yes, broken hearts are still mended as long as you depend upon God to heal it, and not yourself.

 

[DrFrank]

"I want to come back to Jesus but I don't know how." Of course you do! " I just want to be a child of God again and serve him." See you figured it out already!!

Of course its sad that you had to learn the hard way the lesson that some in this forum have yet to learn;the emotional pain,spiritual draining effect and moral degradation that friends,most especially boy and girlfriends can cause Christians to experience through the strong evil influence of their friends,speech and behavior.

You can regain your spiritual high ground by returning to an all-Christian existence;only Christian friends and music augmented with weekly church attendance and daily Bible reading and most important,prayer.

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ESCAPE FROM EVIL! Now seek after the heart and Holy Spirit of God !!

 

[razeontherock]

I agree, you haven't lost your Salvation. If you had, you wouldn't desire to get closer to Him now. The Bible speaks of a back-slidden condition, but it's very important to get to know how to approach our Lord. We access Him the same way for everything.

Praying "Jesus save me" has a seemingly endless variety of applications.

It's also obvious why you wanted to date this girl. "For all that [is] in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world." 1 John 2:16

I'm not pretending to know that's the only reason, but it will do you a great deal of good right now to recognize that was at least part of the formula. And compare that to how Jesus overcame His temptation in the wilderness, when he faced these very things! It was always "it is written."

Words to live by! G-d Bless you young man. Reap all you can from this valuable lesson; and that does include experiencing the pain. Embrace it fully, and share it with G-d Himself.

"And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith:


Phl 3:9-11 That I may know him, and the power of his resurrection, and the fellowship of his sufferings, being made conformable unto his death; If by any means I might attain unto the resurrection of the dead.

 

[Dionysiou]

"Time heals all wounds" lol what a joke that is "God heals all wounds."

 

[Thankful For Grace]

1 John 2:1
2 My little children, these things write I unto you, that ye sin not. And if any man sin, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous

1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.


Ps 147:3
3 He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.


Herein lie the answer to the questions of your heart, YoungandUnashamed. Return to God, receive forgiveness, and go forward.

God be with you,

tfg

I have fallen away from the Lord and it has been nothing but pain. I remember when i was in christ I had so much peace and happiness even tho i did had struggles and it was tough but i had God there with me. I met this girl i used to date 4 years ago before i was a christian we started talking and we became a couple...It was hard because i felt unloved and wanted I cried out to God but i still had feelings and loved this person....She was a messed she drank alot and smoked and did drugs...I finally ended it with her and i feel hurt and i found out she has a new boyfriend. I want to come back to Jesus but I don't know how...could God heal my broken heart??? I just want to be a child of God again and serve him

 

[.Iona.]

God is open to you at any time. He won't turn His back on you, that is what is so amazing about Him.

He can help heal any pain, if you let Him and focus on Him again.

 

[Autumnleaf]

The easiest way I know of to get over someone is to date someone else. Pick a Christian girl this time. She'll be a better influence.

 

[ezeric]

Ok, so you listened to the lie and believed it, and it got you nowhere.
(we've all done that, in one way shape or form) and its certainly not 'new' to
FATHER.

So, what would happen if you listened to the truth and believed it - where
would that bring you?

Because when the prodigal son started slowly coming back home (down and beat up)
FATHER was running to him, and couldn't wait to hug and hold him.
Luke 15:11-32 (especially vs 20)

This FATHER - DAD, is calling all HIS sons and daughters back home, because
HE is longing and looking for them.

What a lover, What a DAD!

-eric

 

[Chris_G]

First off, the fact that the Holy Spirit is drawing you back to Christ is great! Second, don't listen to the posts telling you "you haven't lost your salvation." That's a heresy! No one who is truly saved, can lose salvation. The bible is absolutely clear on that. Sure you can back slide and struggle with sin, but the fact that you're coming back is evidence of the Holy Spirit working in you.

Once again, if anyone on this forum believes he/she can lose her salvation, then you are no longer trusting in Christ to be saved. You're trusting your own efforts and strengths to be saved by trying to be a "good" Christian. Rest in the promises of God and let those promises be the motivation for holiness and obedience to His Word.

I just wanted to add, since salvation can not be lost, it is absolutely in no way a license to sin. Only those who are born again and saved will not practice sin (1 John 3:9).

 

[DoctorJosh]

I have fallen away from the Lord and it has been nothing but pain. I remember when i was in christ I had so much peace and happiness even tho i did had struggles and it was tough but i had God there with me. I met this girl i used to date 4 years ago before i was a christian we started talking and we became a couple...It was hard because i felt unloved and wanted I cried out to God but i still had feelings and loved this person....She was a messed she drank alot and smoked and did drugs...I finally ended it with her and i feel hurt and i found out she has a new boyfriend. I want to come back to Jesus but I don't know how...could God heal my broken heart??? I just want to be a child of God again and serve him

First, Forgive yourself and ask God for Forgiveness. Then do the things you used to do when you were on fire for Jesus. Go to Church, know you are Forgiven. Jesus will welcome you back like a father welcomes his son home again with open arms. There will be a feast, the best food, smiles and laughter once again in the Kingdom of God when a lost child comes home again. Welcome God back as well with open arms and live your life for Jesus now. You will find that light and fire within you for Jesus once again is filled with joy and happiness. I have a friend who went through a lot, then he found himself back with Jesus again, but to make his journey stronger with Jesus he joined the Crusader for Christ and did that for several years (traveled to China and South America even) and eventually found a great woman to marry in the ministry work he did. His fire is still going, so can yours if you just start to live now for Jesus. Make a mission, plan your journey, do something great for Jesus and find more joy than you can imagine. God Bless.

 

[flamingjavabean]

You're doing the right thing by not being in the relationship. God will provide healing, and will reward you if you continue to seek for holiness... =)

 

[tronicII]

pray to God. I know what you went through. I went through it with an ex I was with for 4 years who was an atheist. Its easy to become influenced. Not you can come back to God! I'll pray for you!