I hope.

[teamchrist]

My brother passed away in October, and I hope my dad, mom, brothers, sister and I will be able to handle it, he was only 18, and I don't get why.

But there is a bible verse that really gave me peace, and the reference is Isaiah 57:1-2.
I don't know much about what happened, but I know he was a great deal in the church, my family is the most known family in the church, so people are devastated.

I am too. I just can't figure out why God would put my family though that.
I mean, I know it was for the best, but why? Madison is only four, if we ((older people)) don't talk about him every day, she might forget him.
She won't remember what he looked like.
It'll be like the brother who never was.

 

[NostalgicGranny]

Only God truly knows why. He knows the plans he has for us, and the world around us.

Your brother is alive in your hearts and your memories, and your sister will come to know him through your hearts and your memories, and the things you share with her as she grows up.

Concentrate on keeping your family strong and united, so she can grow up knowing each and every member of your family is a vital part of it, and not just the ones who have gone on before her.

It is too early for her now as she is so young, but someday she will want to know about him. Once your grief has subsided maybe someone can create a scrapbook of memories and photographs of your brother, so she can get to know the things everyone else does about your brother.

 

[longcall911]

I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. Asking "why?" is something we all do, yet few of us get answers. I know it is difficult, especially for you. Sibling loss is in my opinion so, so very difficult. Often, people fail to even see the hurt we have.

If you can, tell others around you that you hurt. I think I held my hurt to myself for too long not wanting to make a fuss or to seem selfish. I thought, who am I to hurt? What right do I have? His parents, have the right to hurt, but not me.

If you are feeling this way, please know that you have every right to hurt. And it is okay to tell people that you are hurting.

May God be with you.

/*tom*/

 

[teamchrist]

Thank you, and I feel better knowing other people know how I feel.

I knew that already, but actually coming from a real person really helped.

 

[FollowHisPath]

I am so very sorry about your loss. My older sister(and only sister) is 21 and I cant even being to imagine loosing her. Your family will be in my prayers. God has an angel in Heaven with him, that I know was an angel to you and your family. I am sure your brother is looking downa at you and your parents proud of the family that you are and that he once had.

 

[Just Believe]

I lost my brother on March 11, 2003 when he was brutally murdered. They have yet to arrest anyone for his death and as the years go by it's looking less and less likely that it'll happen.

I know what you mean. When my brother died my youngest niece was 1 and while they'd spent some time together I know she'd never remember him like we did. I also had another niece who was 2 at the time and when my brother died she'd run through the house looking for him

I thought: "How will we explain this to them?" and now 6 years later it all comes naturally. We talk, we laugh, and mostly we remember my brother, their uncle.

I'm starting to get all watery eyed so I'll stop this post with this: your youngest sister will remember your brother by the stories you tell her. Show her pictures and remind her of what I great person your brother was. This will help keep his memory alive in all your hearts.