I have only 3 friends....

[outhwaar]

Frankly, I think most people have few, if any, actual friends. Dozens of acquaintances, maybe. You know... those people who tell you what you want to hear, and go out partying with you. That's not friendship, though. I think that if you have one true friend, you are better off than most. Don't try and change to make other people like you. It's not worth it.

 

[aflower4God]

I know how it is to feel the way you do; I've spent most of my life feeling that way. I know it's hard, and sometimes you think you just don't fit in anywhere, but I can assure you that you do. You don't have to compromise your faith and your beliefs in order to make friends. Stay faithful, keep praying about it, and God will send someone your way. In the mean time, be thankful for what you have now. You have the best friend in the world.. God!

Heya,

Feel free to add me to your MSN if need someone to talk to.

I been on rollercoaster ride myself about friends, loneliness, and fullfilment. I am the one who has problems to solve. Just to shorten it up say this, if you have behaviors that make you feel like a slave to them you most likely are. Be honous with yourself, Research them with tools such as coping.org and other resources find thru google. Most importantly pray and keep faith that our Great Father help you find answers you seek.

Bible speaks truths and wisdom about human nature, but sometimes, atleast for me, need to hear it from others and current research to varify and better understand the problems.

Other than that, donate time to your church or a local cause to meet more people. Also build hobbies that are offline and find other entheusists to make some friends.

May God bless you.

pray that God will send you more friends...good Christian friends.
And when he sends them to you ,you will have to be a good loyal friend to them also.
God answers prayers.

when I became a christian I had the wrong friends. i wish i had none at all at that time. they got me into alot of trouble just from being in my life. so maybe your situation is to keep you from making mistakes i made. but now that since i had put those friends behind me my wife and i both didnt have any christian friends. when started going to a differnt church last december we have become awsome friends witht he pastor and his wife(what better christian friend?) and we have befriended a bunch more christian friends also. i remember feeling like you. but remember just because it seems bad or it hurts doesnt mean God isnt doing it for a good reason. "trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding". look at joseph in the old testament. betrayed by his own family sold as a slave and thrown in prison. how discouraged do you think he was. but he trusted God and look how he turned out. the family that sold him ended up bowing down to him!! your life might be at a seemingly bad phase, but its heading towards something better than you can imagine...

I am reading a book called Loving God With All Your Heart by Elizabeth George that I think you should read...I am only at the beginning of the book, but already I see some things in the book that could help you.
And I don't really have any friends either...new Christian that stopped associating with my old friends. So I have ummmm no friends really! Anyhow if you need a new friend, I'm here for you.

I think it was Billy Joel who sang a song, "What about me!"

Sadly, Christian life isn't that easy, and becomes a struggle.

Many of us fail to study the Fruit of the Spirit, and there is only nine of them.

Write the fruit down, and ask yourself which one you don't appear to blossom in.

Compassion, Joy, Peace, Patience, Goodness, Kindness, Gentleness, Faithfulness, and Self-control.

Now you could major in them all, but may still only have one friend.

So whom have you wronged, hurt or offended lately, to make you feel this way?

Who haven't you forgiven who has wronged, hurt or offended you?

thanks.... i lost all my friends because i didnt want to party either. it seemed like all i did was sit at home alone. but christ said the world would hate us. look at those in the middle ages who burned and worse (google judas chair, and youll know) for their believes. i postive most didnt have friends plus people were trying to kill them. is anyone trying to burn you? i guess thats another blessing.

Hey your not alone i only have one really close friend and thats not always a bad thing. Im a shy person i dont normally start a conversation i wait for the conversation to come to me but im still young yet you seem young also so life is still coming at us i plan to join the army in a year or 2 when i get in shape so i know ill meet new people there and im sure boot camp will pretty much take my shyness away lol you gotta think of the positives look foward to the future. I understand how you feel i droped out of high school i was so nervous all of the time i couldnt learn anything and i regret it things will get better just think positive God Bless

hi friend
join the club he heeeeeeeeee
i have 3 friends only also and recently have lost contact with online buddies, when God closes one door he always opens another but in his time not ours,
i am ok with this arrangement as i know it is Gods will for me,
3 is a veryyyyyyy good number,
Father Son and Holy Spirit,
God knows what he is doing in our lives so do not be discouraged my friend.
i would also be willing to be your new on line friend
God bless

Frankly, I think most people have few, if any, actual friends. Dozens of acquaintances, maybe. You know... those people who tell you what you want to hear, and go out partying with you. That's not friendship, though. I think that if you have one true friend, you are better off than most. Don't try and change to make other people like you. It's not worth it.

WOW thank you all for such wonderful advice...and your love and kindness is deeply felt! This is embarrassing to have to admit that I only have 3 friend and I am a middle ager..meaning past the age 30... BUT as I can see some you are older than I and suffer through this. Well No matter the age that we are it still hurts....I want each and everyone of you know how greatful I am for your support and advice. I really beleive with all of my heart that God is speaking through you!

God bless you all!!!!

 

[setmeonfire]

to the original poster,

stop complaining about your problems and whining about what you cant do.
Look around you at the world man has built... the only reason you have anything is because men set their mind to things and accomplished things no one ever had before.
You can do anything and have anything you set your mind to. You can have friends and you can keep them.
But there are things in you that drive them away.
I don't know what they are but if you look long and hard enough and stop being lazy you can figure it out and if you determine to you can change anything you want to about yourself.

James Earl Jones once spoke with a lisp and now hes one of the greatest voices the world has ever known.
Michael Bolton forced himself to learn how breath out his mouth continuosly while breathing it and out his nose so that he can breath into a trumpet for hours and hours without stopping or needing to stop to breath.
Look at the machines and computers that you cant even comprehend... all these things your forefathers did becuase they were determined to accomplish something. Walk through a coke bottling plant or water processing plant and see the machinely that is so precise and so intrecit...its simply amazing the things man has learned and accomplished, dont even begin to say you CAN'T even keep friends.

You can have friends and you can keep them, but you have to start evaulating yourself and stop whining to God, have some mental discipline to start thinking about this and start to change, it isnt going to be easy and its not supposed to be, but yes you can figure this out and yes you can have friends.
you can do and have anything you want.
Henry Ford said thinking is the hardest job there is, thats why so few people do it.
But set your mind to this, you can change you and have anything you want.

dont listen to this person.

you should be ashamed of yourself. arent some of the fruits of the spirit gentleness, kindless, love, patience, and goodness. NONE of which you displayed in your post. you need to reexamine your spritual walk if you can butt in on a thread and talk like that, because you are by scriptures definition NOT SPIRIT FILLED!!! a tree is known by its fruits and you just displayed those bad fruits. I pray that you just had a bad day and took it out on the keyboard.

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[setmeonfire]

the only reason you have anything is because men set their mind to things and accomplished things no one ever had before.

the only reason we have anything is because every good and perfect gift is from god. third description of the world is PRIDE OF LIFE. AND THAT IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE

 

[setmeonfire]

You can do anything and have anything you set your mind to.

then set your mind to become spirit filled and trust in god and not your own understanding (proverbs 3)

"and have no confidence in the flesh" phill. 3:4

 

[aldar]

While not everything i said complemented her....thats not how life works and its not how God works. God turned people to salt becuase they turned around and looked back...God struck people dead....God struck people blind.... old and new testament...becuase they didn't do the right thing, and sometimes doing the right thing is nothing more than having discipline. I do not imply that she is in danger of Gods wrath, its just an example of how we need discipline in our lives. God said those who take their hands off the plow and turn back are not worthy. So we are not to be these waves cast about by emotion and personal weakness, but to overcome these things so that we can be steadfast people with stone hands that lever let go.

My message was to support her but at the same give some critical advice that she needs to hear so she can better herself. You can't say i was wrong just becuase it didn't come across as sweet and loving, life isnt that way, the bible isn't that way and God isn't that way.
You want people to always tell you things that make you smile? I sure don't. I'd rather know the truth so i can better myself.
Please don't respond to me with your opinions of me or your little remarks meant only to put me in my place. It matters nothing what you think of me becuase it shouldn't. I will not reply and tell you every little thought that went through my head concerning you becuase that is not what I am about. If Smiling heart tells me she wants nothing of what i have to say i will leave out of respect for her.

 

[setmeonfire]

My message was to support her but at the same give some critical advice that she needs to hear so she can better herself. You can't say i was wrong just becuase it didn't come across as sweet and loving, life isnt that way, the bible isn't that way and God isn't that way.

WHY WOULD THE FRUITS OF THE SPIRIT INCLUDE LOVE KINDNESS AND GENTLENESS???god is love. god says not to rebuke someone harshly but ENCOURAGE each other and build each other up.

You want people to always tell you things that make you smile? I sure don't. I'd rather know the truth so i can better myself.

proverbs says better is an open rebuke thana secret hidden in love. but a rebuke doesnt mean harsh.

Please don't respond to me with your opinions of me or your little remarks meant only to put me in my place.

sounds a little like pride to me.

It matters nothing what you think of me becuase it shouldn't.

paul rebuked peter for shunning the gentiles in front of the circumsied company. paul says he did it because he was clealy i the wrong and not acting inline witht he gospel.

and dont forget what else the book of proverbs say: ch.15 "he who hates correction will die" and also, instruct a wise man and he be yet wiser.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

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Hey bro,

I love raw conservatisim. suck it up, keep focused, never lose site of the goal and have faith. I think it is important to try remain the optimist, but there is also have be room for reality.

Some people do have mental or physical conditions that make simplist problems overly hard to do. Both Jesus and Paul said have to have patience with these people. I know I been hard on them and myself.

 

[aldar]

setmeonfire
You have already made your attempt at correcting me along the terms of your beleifs and said your piece, you have nothing else to say to me concerning this and i have nothing to say to you.

AWORKINPROGRESS,
yeah man, thanks for the reply, i completely agree, i believe you stay on the hard path and if we fail at times we still accept and love each other and ourselves, but we don't get off the hard path and we don't give up or lower the standard.
discipline, faith and determination...i mean, where would mankind or even america be without it?
Sometimes we deserve some comfort and reassurance, and sometimes we deserve a good hard kick in the butt.

 

[thenewageriseth]

.....

1. Jesus
2. Jesus' messenger
3. And my best friend of many years

That is it! Yep that is it!!

I have been told that:

• I have no life because I dont like to go out to eat and party and such
• I am boring
• I am a push over
• I am toooo quiet
• I am tooooooo sweet.

Heck the list is endless!

Them folks be tweaking. I was told that by a girl I stopped hanging out with, cuz she tried to con me. She said "..it wasn't like you had a life anyway...", saying that cuz I don't run the streets like she do and smoke that DRO (WEED/etc), like she do. *raspberry* I've been told I play the victim. Have you been told that?
Why were u told u were too sweet-is it cuz of the pushover thing?

I know what you may say...WELL CHANGE!!!!... Okay then PLEASE program me the way I am to CHANGE!.. Cause gosh I can tell ya the bible is NOT helping that..... I even wish that God would alow me to take my life..cause beleive me I hate being here!!!!! Heck I can NOT keep an online friend worth a lick! WHY cause I am sensitive, I DONT KNOW I wish I did know why!!!!
I know most of my online friends DO NOT like my honesty they would RATHER I say what they wanna hear....OR WAIT it is cause me me me me me!!! WELL PLEASE someone program me so that i can be what this WORLD wants!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sorry bout this but I just recently lost another online chat buddy... IT IS MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Well, I have to say...
better 3 best friends, then mutilple FAKE friends.
And as for online relationships...sometimes they seem temporary as well (depends on the people) I wouldn't sweat it.
How honest are you, though? Too blunt? Too opinionated?
Just curious.

 

[thenewageriseth]

I think it was Billy Joel who sang a song, "What about me!"

Sadly, Christian life isn't that easy, and becomes a struggle.

Many of us fail to study the Fruit of the Spirit, and there is only nine of them.

Write the fruit down, and ask yourself which one you don't appear to blossom in.

Compassion, Joy, Peace, Patience, Goodness, Kindness, Gentleness, Faithfulness, and Self-control.

Now you could major in them all, but may still only have one friend.

So whom have you wronged, hurt or offended lately, to make you feel this way?

Who haven't you forgiven who has wronged, hurt or offended you?

Point well taken there, Elijah. BTW, does that song, "What About Me"? go like this:

What about me, it isnt fair, I've had enough and I want my share...?
or it's another song wit da same name? <----*Never has heard a Billy Joel joint called that title*

 

[aflower4God]

dont listen to this person.

you should be ashamed of yourself. arent some of the fruits of the spirit gentleness, kindless, love, patience, and goodness. NONE of which you displayed in your post. you need to reexamine your spritual walk if you can butt in on a thread and talk like that, because you are by scriptures definition NOT SPIRIT FILLED!!! a tree is known by its fruits and you just displayed those bad fruits. I pray that you just had a bad day and took it out on the keyboard.

Thank you for your kindness!

Some people do have mental or physical conditions that make simplist problems overly hard to do. Both Jesus and Paul said have to have patience with these people. I know I been hard on them and myself.

I try to treat everyone the way Jesus would want me too. Including those who have mental and physical issues, see Jesus made us that way!

Them folks be tweaking. I was told that by a girl I stopped hanging out with, cuz she tried to con me. She said "..it wasn't like you had a life anyway...", saying that cuz I don't run the streets like she do and smoke that DRO (WEED/etc), like she do. *raspberry* I've been told I play the victim. Have you been told that?
Why were u told u were too sweet-is it cuz of the pushover thing?



Well, I have to say...
better 3 best friends, then mutilple FAKE friends.

Amen, I had a grandfather tell me the same!

Thanks again to you all and God Bless!

 

[AWorkInProgress]

hehe heya Smiling,

Nah my comments where for aldar. He was trying to help best he knew how and just saying have to add some reality and patience to it thou.

 

[aflower4God]

hehe heya Smiling,

.

 

[Aibrean]

I had 3 friends in high school, but because of a falling out 2 of them had when they were little (like kintergarden little) I couldn't hang out with them all together so I never really formed a close bond and I was either hanging out with one or the others.

To have one good friend is better than none. Experiences you will have in life can possibly affect the way can be don't get so bummed if everything isn't turning out how you hoped. Because of my industry now (and marching band in high school) I have become a much more outgoing individual...I used to be the kind of person that would eat lunch alone.

I have never been a partier but I go sometimes to support people I know but since they drink, I leave before that starts up. My fiance is the same way...just because you don't like to party doesn't mean you aren't a good person. If someone calls you boring, that's their opinion as your interests might clash.

Being too sweet shouldn't ever be a fault!

Galatians 1:10 : Am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still pleasing men, I should not be a servant of Christ.

All you should be worrying about is how God thinks of you and how you portray Him

 

[aldar]

smilingheart,
ah....my post got deleted.
Well...i came off a little brash and i did not intend it to.

In my line of work we dont accept weakness or failure, thats just how im conditioned. and i also get treated very sternly when i make mistakes. But i like it because i have this driving passion to be a man, strong and competent and able to accomplish and whether anything. No complainging, no self pity, just drive on.

this is why...it came out the way it did.
I am sorry.

But i do believe that you are able to do anything youd like to, you can have friends. You dont have to sit alone in your home and feel lonely. and you dont have to accept things about yourself if you dont like them.
I just dont want you to accept a life youd rather not have for good reasons, i was trying truthfully trying to help.
take care, you can be anything you want to be.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

smilingheart,
ah....my post got deleted.
Well...i came off a little brash and i did not intend it to.

In my line of work we dont accept weakness or failure, thats just how im conditioned. and i also get treated very sternly when i make mistakes. But i like it because i have this driving passion to be a man, strong and competent and able to accomplish and whether anything. No complainging, no self pity, just drive on.

this is why...it came out the way it did.
I am sorry.

But i do believe that you are able to do anything youd like to, you can have friends. You dont have to sit alone in your home and feel lonely. and you dont have to accept things about yourself if you dont like them.
I just dont want you to accept a life youd rather not have for good reasons, i was trying truthfully trying to help.
take care, you can be anything you want to be.

Agreed ^^

Got me curious, what is your profession?

 

[aldar]

im the fry station guy at mcdonalds.

nah, i serve in the military.

 

[aflower4God]

I had 3 friends in high school, but because of a falling out 2 of them had when they were little (like kintergarden little) I couldn't hang out with them all together so I never really formed a close bond and I was either hanging out with one or the others.

To have one good friend is better than none. Experiences you will have in life can possibly affect the way can be don't get so bummed if everything isn't turning out how you hoped. Because of my industry now (and marching band in high school) I have become a much more outgoing individual...I used to be the kind of person that would eat lunch alone.

I have never been a partier but I go sometimes to support people I know but since they drink, I leave before that starts up. My fiance is the same way...just because you don't like to party doesn't mean you aren't a good person. If someone calls you boring, that's their opinion as your interests might clash.

Being too sweet shouldn't ever be a fault!

Galatians 1:10 : Am I now seeking the favor of men, or of God? Or am I trying to please men? If I were still pleasing men, I should not be a servant of Christ.

All you should be worrying about is how God thinks of you and how you portray Him

Thank you kindly for your story and advice and you are right on about that!

smilingheart,
ah....my post got deleted.
Well...i came off a little brash and i did not intend it to.

In my line of work we dont accept weakness or failure, thats just how im conditioned. and i also get treated very sternly when i make mistakes. But i like it because i have this driving passion to be a man, strong and competent and able to accomplish and whether anything. No complainging, no self pity, just drive on.

this is why...it came out the way it did.
I am sorry.

But i do believe that you are able to do anything youd like to, you can have friends. You dont have to sit alone in your home and feel lonely. and you dont have to accept things about yourself if you dont like them.
I just dont want you to accept a life youd rather not have for good reasons, i was trying truthfully trying to help.
take care, you can be anything you want to be.

Agreed ^^

Got me curious, what is your profession?

nah, i serve in the military.

Thank you for your humilty and I kinda thought that you were in the military because I have a family member who was in the military (navy) and they were a wee bit tougher on me too!

 

[aldar]

its good for ya.