I have been single most of my life and it is bothering me

[TenthAveN]

I know sex in marriage is supposed to be a good thing from God, but I'm happy it apparently gets snuffed out. It can bring pain to people. Even if God wanted to take all the bad things it can entail out, I bet there's better things than that. (Of course, that easy for me to say, as I desire the emotional & psychological intimacy more than physical, tho I certainly do desire the physical!) Jesus many times uses the analogy of marriage for his relationship w/ us, where he's the groom & we're the bride, in reference to either End Times or his second coming. If that's a main analogy he uses for that, heck, it basically concludes the Bible in the Book of Revelation, we know we're in for really, really good things!

VCR, there's actually a thread I found on here that debates what Jesus means when he says what you're referring to.
Eternal Companions in Heaven
I guess decide for yourself what's heresy & what's not.

I don’t really think WE are allowed to decide what is heresy.

 

[DragonFox91]

I don’t really think WE are allowed to decide what is heresy.

People have been fighting over what's heresy or not since at least Paul's time. I agree, tho, most of Christ's teaching, the Bible, etc. are pretty cut & dry.

 

[pc_76]

Sorry I may've missed it, but how long ago was that?

Have you had other many positive experiences w/ women?

This was actually only a few years ago, back in 2015. The experience was a nice interaction while it lasted, even though I didn't necessarily believe it was my "ideal" and even a few other issues. Besides that, either the couple times I actively did ask somebody out I got excused or rejected, the person didn't feel like a relationship at the moment. And I kind of assumed that every attractive one was already taken one way or another at any one time. Besides a couple times, I admit that I didn't pursue any of it actively.

It's like consistent insult to injury where there isn't any way out. Like the rules of dating changed and are different today, even just saying "Hello" can be interpreted as sexual harassment and severe legal and social consequences ensue. Perhaps the burden is on them to adapt to traditional norms of dating rather than having the rest of us adapt to their more modern-created norms.

 

[pc_76]

I know sex in marriage is supposed to be a good thing from God, but I'm happy it apparently gets snuffed out. It can bring pain to people. Even if God wanted to take all the bad things it can entail out, I bet there's better things than that. (Of course, that easy for me to say, as I desire the emotional & psychological intimacy more than physical, tho I certainly do desire the physical!) Jesus many times uses the analogy of marriage for his relationship w/ us, where he's the groom & we're the bride, in reference to either End Times or his second coming. If that's a main analogy he uses for that, heck, it basically concludes the Bible in the Book of Revelation, we know we're in for really, really good things!

VCR, there's actually a thread I found on here that debates what Jesus means when he says what you're referring to.
Eternal Companions in Heaven
I guess decide for yourself what's heresy & what's not.

I'm not exactly happy like many others here that it gets "snuffed out". And you mentioned that it entails a lot of bad side-affects. But that reminds me of saying that all food and eating is a bad thing because some people develop glutinous habits, or when a government makes a law restricting people from doing or saying certain things because some people are apparently offended by other people's free choice.

 

[DragonFox91]

This was actually only a few years ago, back in 2015. The experience was a nice interaction while it lasted, even though I didn't necessarily believe it was my "ideal" and even a few other issues. Besides that, either the couple times I actively did ask somebody out I got excused or rejected, the person didn't feel like a relationship at the moment. And I kind of assumed that every attractive one was already taken one way or another at any one time. Besides a couple times, I admit that I didn't pursue any of it actively.

Same on the Bolded. Some of it, tho, was b/c I don't feel like I've met the kind I want. Do you feel the same thing? We may have the tendency to think women are rejecting us, but the reality, we are sifting thru them too.
That's why I'm eager when the lockdowns are over about meeting the 2 girls I'm eyeing b/c I think they are what I've been looking for!!!

What kind are you looking for? You must have some sort of idea of her in your head of what she's like, especially after having dated for a year.

Why do you think the women you asked rejected you?

It's like consistent insult to injury where there isn't any way out. Like the rules of dating changed and are different today, even just saying "Hello" can be interpreted as sexual harassment and severe legal and social consequences ensue. Perhaps the burden is on them to adapt to traditional norms of dating rather than having the rest of us adapt to their more modern-created norms.

I get scared of that too.