I have a question

[ShowMeHowToWalk]

I'm curious, I must admit, about girls... in a sexual way, I have been just as "attracted" to a girl as I have for a boy. I'm not understanding why it is wrong for me to fall in love with a girl. Maybe I haven't looked into the matter hard enough, but love is love to me and I don't see why it is so wrong to be gay or bi. I know it is sinful, but there are many other sinful things done daily, without a thought being given to the sin, so really, I was just wondering what you guys thought about being being bi-sexual and a Christian. I'm mostly attracted to guys but occasionally... I will find myself attracted to a girl. I know you're thinking "Oh, shes only sixteen how could she know what she is talking about? No one has serious relationships at that age." And I'd agree with you but if my feelings for the girl I had serious feelings for were not love then, well I don't know what else it could have been. There is no doupt in my mind that I was in love with this girl, and not just in a lusty sort of way.
I need guidance.

 

[goldenviolet]

curious things are there for us. but so is the caution that it's wrong. this is where the choice comes in. sin or run. it is a sin to lust and go futher with curiosity that is sinnful... to run though, means a clear conscious... and standing confident before God in prayer. you are at the age when you are learning these things. God bless you in this walk. i hope you choose the things that are good for you. search for God's answers.

i think our biggest problem is to skirt sin. test it out. see how it is. let me say what i always tell my teenagers: run. we get into enough trouble without trying. sin messes us up. God's will builds us up.

 

[TrollSA]

Hi... I will pray that God delivers u from this... Seek God and He will help u!

 

[Akathist]

Show me,

One thing to keep in mind is that it is not uncommon for women and young women to notice an attractive woman or young women. This is extremely common. (I think men do the same thing they just don't comment because they fear being called homosexual). We are not blind though. I notice a pretty woman and notice a hunky man.

We also have very close friendships with both genders with more personal sharing so that it can seem like we are "closer" and that can be confused.

I love my best friend, my roomate from college. (Whose oldest will be in college next year... yipes!) I really love her. I think she is very preety. But I have no interest in kissing or being sexual with her. We give each other a hug when we see each other and it is not unusual for us to pat each other on the back or give a side hug! We have kissed on the cheeck too. She is closer to me than a sister.

But we have never been more than friends, even though very close.

And I find some female actresses to be very sexxy. Doesn't mean I want to kiss them or something, I just kind of think they look nice. (And I admit, I wished I looked like them.) The difference is that while I appreciate their appearance, I am not really lusting after them with thoughts of sexual behavior with them.

 

[apologia25]

It is important that we make sure to make a difference between sinning and having a lifestyle of sin. In the book of 1 John God spells out the difference. John gives two phrases #1 1 john 1:8 anyone who says he has no sin is a liar. #21 John 3:9 anyone who is born again does not sin. At first glance these can be confusing, very confusing. But we find that there are two different types of sin as christians one type we have and the other we dont. The first one being sin in speaking of a lifestyle, meaning our every thought is to sin and we live a consistant life in moment by moment rebellion. The other sin however is the sin we christians are guilty of that speaking of the fact that we constantly mess up. SO why am I saying all this. Okay say you lied today is lieing once make you a liar? My point is to make a difference between a lifestyle of sin and a struggle with sin. The homosexual way of life is completely against the will of God and puts you into the lifestyle category of sin. Why because if you accept that way of life lustful thoughts replace Godly thoughts, your sexual actions slap God in the face, etc. Understand I am not elevating homosexuality as that is a huge problem in the church today. What I am saying is that everything involved in that way of life is a lifestyle of sin and desensitization to everything that we are taught against. I don't mean to offend either I just wanted to lay down some truth. Because if you accept a mentality of well we sin anyway so lets sin some more(not that your saying that but your thought pattern can eventually possibly lead there) The Apostle Paul said should we sin that grace may abound. Or in modern words should we sin and take advantage of such a forgiving savoir, no instead we should live lifes for him avoiding the corruption of the world

 

[Johnnz]

Xenia Rose makes very valid comments.

Our new sexuality takes time to fully intergrate into our lives. Some young females do find other females attractive, and even somewhat arousing. I suspect that the female sexual stereoptype is operating in much the same way as it does for guys - it has some sexually arousing appeal. This can just 'plug in' to your developing sexuality.

Maintain your Christian values. Don't indulge in wrong behaviour, develop healthy sexual attitudes and values and I am sure you will get thisissue sorted out just fine.

John
NZ

 

[godiswithme]

I struggle with the same issue. I just pray daily for the strength to overcome the desire, and if I fall, I get back up and pray some more.

I think Xenia's comment of her attraction to women is somewhat biased. It's different for those of us who are more deeply attracted to the same sex. Xenia might say "Oh, she's pretty" but obviously those of us who are afflicted think much, much more than that.

Show me, I think you should just pray about your situation more. I'll pray for you too, after all, isn't that what fellow Christians are for? I actually thank God for having the conviction of not physically wanting to be with a guy, I would feel too extremely sinful, dirty, ashamed etc. to do it.

 

[Marie D]

I think it's good to love a person of your own sex, as we're all God's beautiful children. It's also true that people are tormented with lust for people, of their own sex or the opposite, which they can't act on because they're not married to that person in a union recognised by the Lord.
So if you just love this girl as a friend, that's great; if you lust after her you should pray to God to give you the strength to fight Satan and the evil temptations he is sending you.

 

[Lost_and_astray]

I wrote this as part of my thoughts that came to me one day:

http://www.christianforums.com/t2959974-lust-vs-love.html

You might find it helpful to look at my views of the differences between lust and love. Make sure each time you know full well which of these 2 you are feeling, they can get easily mixed. Its ok to love people of the same sex, like your parents for instance, but if you get the 2 confused you might think thats its love you are feeling and not simply lust.

 

[mixiejoeusa]

you are in my prayers and just try to look at your friend as God would see them. Try to see in God in their eyes and if you can see that, how can you look at them lustfully. If you feel you are getting to close to your friend, back away a little bit and give yourself some space. It is good your hear asking for support and prayers. No matter your age, sexualty can cause confussion. If you need to talk, I'm here, just pm me. Just put all your trust in Jesus!!! He is the way to home.
Jessica