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YAY! I remember the first time I finally felt that way. It was October 23, 2004. All day long I had been binging and purging, binging and purging.....at about 10:45pm I purged for the last time. It was a few moments later that I realized this life wasn't for me. I couldn't handle it anymore. I was at work too, so I just started crying. I tried my best to hide it as there were people around.

4 days later I wrote a letter to my fiance (we were living 100 miles apart) because I couldn't find the words to say, I could just write them. From that day I have not purged since. I have gotten the flu and a stomach illness since then, but I have not purposefully made myself purge.

It was like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders and I went back to my psychologist the next week and told her my plan. It was just an amazing experience.

I have had days since where I haven't eaten (mostly due to forgetting with my busy life), there are days when I have eaten more than I should. But its no longer about how much I weigh or how I look to the world. When I dont eat, its because I dont have time or forget, but the calories dont come into it. In some regards I am actually thankful that I have had an ED, because when I am going non-stop and forget to eat, my body knows how to handle it (this has maybe happened three times since the day). If I over eat, its not because I am depressed, it is because I am with a group of friends and we are all finishing off a pizza. The thoughts to throw it up may enter my mind, but they are easily dismissed.

Byootuful, I am very proud of you for coming to this realization!
 
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Music4Hym777 said:
YAY! I remember the first time I finally felt that way. It was October 23, 2004. All day long I had been binging and purging, binging and purging.....at about 10:45pm I purged for the last time. It was a few moments later that I realized this life wasn't for me. I couldn't handle it anymore. I was at work too, so I just started crying. I tried my best to hide it as there were people around.

4 days later I wrote a letter to my fiance (we were living 100 miles apart) because I couldn't find the words to say, I could just write them. From that day I have not purged since. I have gotten the flu and a stomach illness since then, but I have not purposefully made myself purge.

It was like the weight of the world was lifted off my shoulders and I went back to my psychologist the next week and told her my plan. It was just an amazing experience.

I have had days since where I haven't eaten (mostly due to forgetting with my busy life), there are days when I have eaten more than I should. But its no longer about how much I weigh or how I look to the world. When I dont eat, its because I dont have time or forget, but the calories dont come into it. In some regards I am actually thankful that I have had an ED, because when I am going non-stop and forget to eat, my body knows how to handle it (this has maybe happened three times since the day). If I over eat, its not because I am depressed, it is because I am with a group of friends and we are all finishing off a pizza. The thoughts to throw it up may enter my mind, but they are easily dismissed.

Byootuful, I am very proud of you for coming to this realization!

Wow, thankyou so much for sharing that! That's what this thread is all about - inspiration and reminiscing! Whenever I feel like I want to turn around again, I will make sure to read this thread and your post and it will remind me that I want this. Although I haven't hit the 'bump' yet, I know I will, but I will be prepared!

:hug: Kate :hug: Thankyou for your support! Your post made me giggle! ^_^
 
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I thought I would share a copy of the letter...
me said:
Since I have been overly stressed lately and seem to not have any time for myself (I cant even remember the last time that I cracked open my Bible, thats completely not like me), I have decided to give up doing everything
and pleasing everyone with working constantly and trying to fit my recovery into everything else that I am doing to the point where I no longer care whether I get better. (Yes those were my thoughts yesterday coming out of the psychologists office)

I have decided to give up working as many hours
(I might work 7 or 8, but not 20-25) . That way I can focus on what is really important to me. Getting better and then school. Everyone agrees that my main priority right now has to be to get over this eating disorder, with school being a close second. I will be taking out loans and so to keep those to a minimum, I will not be able to go to Houston. Yes, my deposit is down, but I just cant afford to go and get better and so I finally feel as if I can finally work on getting better and getting to the mental side of things, so that I can finally beat this and not have to worry about it as much anymore!!

Tears are flowing down my face as I am writing this, I feel so free of some of the bondage that seems to be holding me back and I know that God will take care of me! I am so excited to be able to finally for once in my life really be able to focus on me and getting over this!!! It was my RA that finally really made me see the light of just how frustrated I am with trying to deal with everything that I have on my plate that it is really an
amazing feeling that is soooo freeing, its one that I haven't felt for a long time! I know that it is Gods presence right here in my life!

Please pray as we get more test results back tomorrow (Thursday) or Friday. > I'll call and let you know if anything changes with the status of my health.

Thanks for being there!
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Oh, that is wonderful! Was that hard to write? To drop a lot of things to take care of yourself? I would find that very hard, but I can tell from the way you wrote that letter, that you really meant it and had made up your mind. That is so wonderful, thankyou for sharing that! :hug:

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Byootaful said:
Oh, that is wonderful! Was that hard to write? To drop a lot of things to take care of yourself? I would find that very hard, but I can tell from the way you wrote that letter, that you really meant it and had made up your mind. That is so wonderful, thankyou for sharing that! :hug:

:hug: Music4Hym777 :hug:

It was hard at times. God was especially amazing through out it all. Because I am physically disabled, the government gives me money every month now to help cover some of the costs of the expenses of that. I was not getting that when I first wrote that, I was paying for things completely with my job. That started coming in 2 months later.

I was supposed to go to Houston, TX with what is called the Lutheran Student Movement, and somehow I was able to get a financial scholarship. So what I had payed in the deposit was all I had to pay.

God took care of me....but I was ready to give up everything inorder to recover.

I will say that it has not always been easy on this path. But people have stood beside me no matter what. Through good times and bad. My fiance had to really whip me into shape last summer after a surgery when I took 1 laxative. He was not happy with me, there were medical reasons why I did take it, but he still was not happy that I took it.
 
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Music4Hym777 said:
It was hard at times. God was especially amazing through out it all. Because I am physically disabled, the government gives me money every month now to help cover some of the costs of the expenses of that. I was not getting that when I first wrote that, I was paying for things completely with my job. That started coming in 2 months later.

I was supposed to go to Houston, TX with what is called the Lutheran Student Movement, and somehow I was able to get a financial scholarship. So what I had payed in the deposit was all I had to pay.

God took care of me....but I was ready to give up everything inorder to recover.

I will say that it has not always been easy on this path. But people have stood beside me no matter what. Through good times and bad. My fiance had to really whip me into shape last summer after a surgery when I took 1 laxative. He was not happy with me, there were medical reasons why I did take it, but he still was not happy that I took it.

You took a leap of faith by giving up things to get better. That takes a lot of trust and a lot of people don't have that. It is very difficult, but your story shows that if you put your mind, heart and soul into it, you can recover and God will be there for you. :hug:

You are blessed to have such a wonderful fiance who cares about you. :angel:
 
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