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I have a date next Saturday
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When you wrote the original message the event hasn't happened yet. How can you be realistic and if you already know the future why bother putting yourself through the pain and trouble of going on a date? It just doesn't make sense to me. Maybe I have the definitions for "realistic" and "negative" mixed up and so I'll have to update them. I just can't see why what you said would be realistic...I just don't get it. If it is realistic I shouldn't even try to find someone, because lets face it my body doesn't resemble yours as I weight 232 lbs and girls who see me can physically see that I'm overweight and I don't have perfect teeth. Using your logic if I ask a girl out on a date I shouldn't display any hope or confidences (lack of confidence is a turn off, btw) as I have to be realistic and not expect it to work out..
I have to write these emails, because it lets me get my "realistic" or "negative" thoughts out in writing so I can work on correcting myself.. By me trying to help you I'm helping myself. I'm not perfect either, but I do BELIEVE that you follow your thoughts.
I read somewhere that in race car driving if you have a spin out and lose control of your car the very last thing that you want to do is to look at the thing that you fear. The thing that people fear when driving a race car is spinning into the wall. If you look at the wall during a spin out you will tend to steer the car in the direction that you're looking at and end up hitting the wall. The wise driver will focus his eyes on where he needs to go and as a result will turn the car in that direction and avoid hitting the wall. Maybe this will be helpful to you.
Take care and I really hope you have a good time on your dates.
I have to write these emails, because it lets me get my "realistic" or "negative" thoughts out in writing so I can work on correcting myself.. By me trying to help you I'm helping myself. I'm not perfect either, but I do BELIEVE that you follow your thoughts.
I read somewhere that in race car driving if you have a spin out and lose control of your car the very last thing that you want to do is to look at the thing that you fear. The thing that people fear when driving a race car is spinning into the wall. If you look at the wall during a spin out you will tend to steer the car in the direction that you're looking at and end up hitting the wall. The wise driver will focus his eyes on where he needs to go and as a result will turn the car in that direction and avoid hitting the wall. Maybe this will be helpful to you.
Take care and I really hope you have a good time on your dates.
MrDude said:
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Actually I think you're first part of that paragraph was right, it's really not worth dating, I mena living a life alone isn't THAT bad. I don't see what the huge deal is.
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