I have a date next Saturday

[Bks Finest]

just be yourself
i remember my 1st date
be yourself and you'll be fine

 

[rwl]

I know all the signs and hidden messages that girls use. I'm no stranger to that definitly.

Heh no you don't. If you knew a fraction of them then you'd be a millionaire.

 

[desi]

Not being hard, just realistic

Look, you have to start somewhere. Just approach this as a learning experience to see what works and what doesn't. If you look at it as a learning experience, say as a trip to the zoo instead of perhaps meeting the woman you'll marry you will be in a better frame of mind. Go with the flow and see what happens...

 

[Lbiagm]

just be yourself is great advice and thanks for the backup gg.

 

[klewlis]

The problem is me. I'm just not a fun/cool/hot/attractive person.

First of all, I have a really hard time believing that this is at all true.

Secondly, the *worst* thing you can do is display such a lack of confidence.

Recognize that God has created you specially for a purpose, that he has given you your own gifts, talents, quirks, and strengths, and that he loves you infinitely. This is where your value as a person lies. Don't judge yourself by the world's standards of attractiveness or coolness--go by God's standards. You are a child of the King, and there is no one who can take that away from you. So live with the dignity that brings and spend your energy on becoming the person God wants you to be. That is the most attractive thing in the world.

 

[Lbiagm]

i agree with kewlis.

 

[Phrasedefina]

Hey, Um, I am not being gay here but, if thats you in your avatar....dude you definitely can attract girls.

Also, just relax....I mean really, relax. There is nothing to worry about at all, what so ever. Be yourself and don't try to adapt to her likes or dislikes about guys.

 

[Out of the Flames]

The best way to start a date is to ask her what she's into and try to find some common ground. Things usually progress pretty naturally from there anyway.

Good luck (you shouldn't need it), and have fun!

 

[JPPT1974]

Breathe deep and rest and also just one other thing and first and foremost, be yourself and lean on God. Good luck!!

 

[scooby]

I feel like you sometimes...however I was watching TBN a few weeks ago and seen Pastor Joel Osteen on two different occassions. He mentioned that the devil uses fear whereas God uses faith. He believes that if you verbalize something you are giving the devil permission to use it against us. He also said that our throughts will come true. He gave an example of a husband who used to constantly tell people that he was afraid that his wife would die and this went on and on and one day his wife developed a very rare disease and she died. He gave an example of a story where this woman bought a house plant and despite never having problems with plants before she would constantly worry that the plant was going to die so she would take extra care to make sure it had water, etc. That plant did died and God put it on her heart that she killed the plant with her thoughts.

I really like this pastor and I think you should look him up. He is also on the church channel churchchannel.org

So my advice to you is to go into this relationship with thoughts that this girl will like to be with you and that you're an interesting guy and just think positive thoughts.

I know all the signs and hidden messages that girls use. I'm no stranger to that definitly. The problem is me. I'm just not a fun/cool/hot/attractive person. I wish I could go back and undo asking her out, but oh well, I'm in for the ride now.

 

[scooby]

Come to think of it...You're right. From the picture I can't understand why he would have any problems.

Hey, Um, I am not being gay here but, if thats you in your avatar....dude you definitely can attract girls.

Also, just relax....I mean really, relax. There is nothing to worry about at all, what so ever. Be yourself and don't try to adapt to her likes or dislikes about guys.

 

[MrDude]

This pastor sounds kinda fishy to me, and the stories don't sound so true to life either. I think I'll pass on looking him up.

I feel like you sometimes...however I was watching TBN a few weeks ago and seen Pastor Joel Osteen on two different occassions. He mentioned that the devil uses fear whereas God uses faith. He believes that if you verbalize something you are giving the devil permission to use it against us. He also said that our throughts will come true. He gave an example of a husband who used to constantly tell people that he was where this woman bought a house plant and despite never having problems afraid that his wife would die and this went on and on and one day his wife developed a very rare disease and she died. He gave an example of a story with plants before she would constantly worry that the plant was going to die so she would take extra care to make sure it had water, etc. That plant did died and God put it on her heart that she killed the plant with her thoughts.

I really like this pastor and I think you should look him up. He is also on the church channel churchchannel.org

So my advice to you is to go into this relationship with thoughts that this girl will like to be with you and that you're an interesting guy and just think positive thoughts.

 

[scooby]

I should of used other examples that were more relevant. I'm sorry. I'm a very strong believer in the power of thought. I strongly urge you to not waste your energy on thinking that the relationship will fail, because if you do it'll consume your mind and you will be unhappy. It is also very hard to disprove someone (hence you not even willing to check into my source) when they already have their OWN mind made up. You expect the date to be a failure and unless this women has mental problems (co-dependency issues, etc) then it will be a failure. You want this to fail and there is no way I or anyone here can change your mind.

I'm really sorry for being so harsh, but I exactly know where you come from and I'm very guilty of having similiar thoughts in the past.

This pastor sounds kinda fishy to me, and the stories don't sound so true to life either. I think I'll pass on looking him up.

 

[MrDude]

I'm really sorry for being so harsh, but I exactly know where you come from and I'm very guilty of having similiar thoughts in the past.

Lol, believe me, that's not "harsh", as you put it.

 

[Lbiagm]

go in thinking she could be your gf.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Enjoy her.
She's cool and if anything she'd be a good friend.
I'm willing to guess she's gonna be freaked out too.

 

[jenptcfan]

I'd say, treat her like you would treat a friend. Just go into it hoping that you can make a friend. If it turns into something else down the road, then that's great! But don't put so much pressure on yourself in the beginning.

With your friends, you probably want to hear what's going on in their lives and want to tell them what's going on in yours. Relate to the girl in the same way. Other than that, just be a gentleman. Even if you come out of this date and neither of you are interested in a second date, if she comes out of it thinking you're a nice guy, you've done fine.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

"Open doors, pull out chairs, go easy on the swears." -Will Smith.

 

[Rivard]

Good for you!

I'll pray for you. You should definitly go into this date with a positive attitude, not negative like you have shown. Really, what's the worst that could happen ?

You posted this thread at a great time because I have a date next saturday too. I have known this girl from church for almost two years but for the last two months we really started talking more and more and getting closer and went to group activities and talked a lot but next saturday is the first time we're doing something together alone.

I already know that she is interested and I am too but she has this image of me that is perfect and I'm afraid I'm gonna screw it Any pointers here girls?

God bless you MrDude and most of all, have fun!

 

[LadyDJ]

For both of you, like others before me have said...just relax and try to have some fun and don't worry about things that just don't matter at this point in time.