I have a bad probelm...Please help

[jesuslovesall123]

Well im 14, and i was introduced to sex when i was 7, by my cousin, and now i masterbait every single day, sometimes 2 times a day, will i go to hell, please please help, and when im masterbaiting i think of what my cousin did to me, am i gay?

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Relax. You're not going to go to hell.
I do recommend some counseling to deal with what has happened to you.
As far as masturbation, about every kid on the planet does it even if they've not experienced what you have been through.

 

[stubby42]

Well im 14, and i was introduced to sex when i was 7, by my cousin, and now i masterbait every single day, sometimes 2 times a day, will i go to hell, please please help, and when im masterbaiting i think of what my cousin did to me, am i gay?

Boy your a confused little chap arent you, mastubating does not make one gay, the images you touch over are what make you gay but honnestly at your age your a walking hormone people get turned on by anything I've heard of people getting turned on by plants (I know rather odd but meh), as for masturbating everyday you'd be supprised how many people do it.

 

[cyberfugue]

Well im 14, and i was introduced to sex when i was 7, by my cousin, and now i masterbait every single day, sometimes 2 times a day, will i go to hell, please please help, and when im masterbaiting i think of what my cousin did to me, am i gay?

I'm terribly sorry to hear about what your cousin did to you. I know that can throw a lot of confusion into a person's life.

My recommendation is a lot of prayer - and definitely counseling as Mr. Cheese suggested. There is nothing that God cannot heal.

 

[Pele]

Go to your local church or to the church you already attend, speak to a Youth Pastor or the Pastor there. Don't be ashamed, but go and get help there and have them pray with you, if you seriously seriously want help you'd do so.

Tell that flesh to shut up in the name of Jesus!

 

[stubby42]

Well hang on we dont know what he means by being introduced to sex at a young age, for all we know his cousin could of shown him a porn film, it wasnt like the kids said his cousin raped him.

 

[NothingButTheBlood]

He stated he and his cousin had sex at age 7. That does not sound appropiate for the age. Maybe he ment he and his cousin "explored" without having sex. The way it is stated in the op I was under the impression it was a molestation. I could be wrong.

 

[stubby42]

Well I guess we'll find out when he replies but honnestly, someone who overtly says touch is probably not going to dance around the edges of what him and his cousin did. Like I said its up to the kid because frankly we cant give advice until we know what happened, if like I think nothing overly terrible happened then its natural and the only advice he could need is to atleast tone it down but if its what you think then he needs to see a therapist.

 

[""]

the images you touch over are what make you gay

This is incorrect information. When a child has been sexually abused, often times as they get older, they recall the images of that experience while masturbating. This is text book. You can call any psychiatrist, or psychologist, or even a minister with a psych background, and you will hear exactly the same thing. If you're a boy who's been molested by a man or an older boy, it is common to recall those experiences while masturbating. It's not because you want a male sex partner, it's because sex for you is associated with that traumatic experience. Also, there is usually guilt, because many times the molestation, though emotionally painful, was physically stimulating. The same applies to females who were molested by another female or who were molested by a male. It is common to recall these experiences, and not because you want to relive them.

Masturbation is not a sin. One thing I would encourage you to do, is to talk to a counselor that deals with sexual abuse, or as has been suggested above, a minister. Your minister may suggest a counselor that your church works closely with, or who they have sent people to before. If you are catholic, I do not recommend speaking to a priest about this. I'm sure you know why, but if you do not, it is suffice to say that priests have been in the media quite frequently with problems relating to sexual abuse against children. So I wouldn't want to add more trauma to your situation already. This is not to say that all priests molest children. It's just a precautionary measure.

The important thing is that you not feel guilty about masturbating. It's a normal part of growing up, and frankly, it's better than having sex with people outside of marriage, where you risk spiritual and emotional pain after separation. Don't look at what you're doing as some dark hidden secret to feel shame about, because in reality, everybody has done it.

God bless.

 

[stubby42]

Ok but thats working on the assumption that the kid wasnt sexually abused, like I said the op sounds really confused about things and he didnt say anythings happened to him in that way, all he said was introduced to sex and as I've said before that could be anything.

 

[""]

Either way, you said "images make you gay" and this is incorrect information, whether he was molested or not. Looking at images, or imagining something during masturbation doesn't mean that you are gay if those images involved same sex. During adolescence, the hormones are so stimulated that people think of same sex, opposite sex, and any and all sex... the brain is wired to respond to the hormones. Hormones are all over the place during that time frame. So it is important for adolescents to know that thinking about somebody during masturbation doesn't mean that you want them.

 

[ALIOSIAS]

No you will not go to hell. But what you need to start doing is developing a life in Christ Jesus and get your mind off of yourself and start thinking about how you can help others.

If you are interested in learning more about Jesus please contact me through the forum.

Aliosias