I have 2 situations

[Livingstones2020]

Greetings in the name of Jesus. I have 2 friends that do need a lot of prayer and a bit of advice.

The first one is Richard. He is 65 years old and has a disability. He loves to help people out, but sometimes, it gets him into trouble. Here is one of the particular situations. He has a friend named "Tara". She is homeless at this point, and was living in her car. During the winter, Richard allowed Tara to live in his place to keep her out of the cold for 3 months. But ever since then, Tara has been ripping into him and blaming him for many things. She was ungrateful and keep calling him daily and accusing him for almost everything under the sun. She does have some kind of mental illness (not sure what kind though), but he still is certain that he can reach her. My advice is this: Is there a point where we say 'enough is enough' and cut off the friendship? He told me later today that he got self-abusive after he talks with her.

My 2nd friend is Darius. He is in his 20s and loves God. But he has a problem, what he calls "Perfectionism." He is so afraid to offend someone that if he accidentally takes a pen, his conscience would condemn him. He had to go back and apologize for that and everything is clear. But it doesn't stop there. If someone gives him something, like a pack of gum, he thinks that he stole it. If he says something that might not be what he meant, he had to go back. It is almost like a routine thing for him and he told me that he has to go back and apologize like 5 times a day. It got so bad that a few times, he wanted to end his Christian life. He even came to me and said that he is not sure that he is saved anymore. I know that if we offend someone, we should go back and apologize, but it seems to be almost a routine thing for my friend here. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

 

[Jay1971]

Greetings in the name of Jesus. I have 2 friends that do need a lot of prayer and a bit of advice.

The first one is Richard. He is 65 years old and has a disability. He loves to help people out, but sometimes, it gets him into trouble. Here is one of the particular situations. He has a friend named "Tara". She is homeless at this point, and was living in her car. During the winter, Richard allowed Tara to live in his place to keep her out of the cold for 3 months. But ever since then, Tara has been ripping into him and blaming him for many things. She was ungrateful and keep calling him daily and accusing him for almost everything under the sun. She does have some kind of mental illness (not sure what kind though), but he still is certain that he can reach her. My advice is this: Is there a point where we say 'enough is enough' and cut off the friendship? He told me later today that he got self-abusive after he talks with her.

My 2nd friend is Darius. He is in his 20s and loves God. But he has a problem, what he calls "Perfectionism." He is so afraid to offend someone that if he accidentally takes a pen, his conscience would condemn him. He had to go back and apologize for that and everything is clear. But it doesn't stop there. If someone gives him something, like a pack of gum, he thinks that he stole it. If he says something that might not be what he meant, he had to go back. It is almost like a routine thing for him and he told me that he has to go back and apologize like 5 times a day. It got so bad that a few times, he wanted to end his Christian life. He even came to me and said that he is not sure that he is saved anymore. I know that if we offend someone, we should go back and apologize, but it seems to be almost a routine thing for my friend here. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

Yes Richard needs to let go, you can't always help someone, sometimes letting go will help the other party better in the long run.

Second the person with Material issues will only grow out of it in time hopefully. it seems like a mental subtract in todays learning problem from todays schooling and home life anymore and lack of understanding of what's right from wrong and how to deal with it biblically, also might be a sickness of some type like autism.
Don't like to speak my mind sometimes cause your guess is the same as mine. with all the chemicals out there anymore, we are almost all subject to some kind of injuries of some type from the things we buy anymore.

 

[Neogaia777]

Greetings in the name of Jesus. I have 2 friends that do need a lot of prayer and a bit of advice.

The first one is Richard. He is 65 years old and has a disability. He loves to help people out, but sometimes, it gets him into trouble. Here is one of the particular situations. He has a friend named "Tara". She is homeless at this point, and was living in her car. During the winter, Richard allowed Tara to live in his place to keep her out of the cold for 3 months. But ever since then, Tara has been ripping into him and blaming him for many things. She was ungrateful and keep calling him daily and accusing him for almost everything under the sun. She does have some kind of mental illness (not sure what kind though), but he still is certain that he can reach her. My advice is this: Is there a point where we say 'enough is enough' and cut off the friendship? He told me later today that he got self-abusive after he talks with her.

My 2nd friend is Darius. He is in his 20s and loves God. But he has a problem, what he calls "Perfectionism." He is so afraid to offend someone that if he accidentally takes a pen, his conscience would condemn him. He had to go back and apologize for that and everything is clear. But it doesn't stop there. If someone gives him something, like a pack of gum, he thinks that he stole it. If he says something that might not be what he meant, he had to go back. It is almost like a routine thing for him and he told me that he has to go back and apologize like 5 times a day. It got so bad that a few times, he wanted to end his Christian life. He even came to me and said that he is not sure that he is saved anymore. I know that if we offend someone, we should go back and apologize, but it seems to be almost a routine thing for my friend here. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

I don't know about the first right now, but with the second, is that, you cannot walk, or run, if you are always on your knees always all of the time, etc...

And we are to walk with God, and run our race, etc, and that's not at all possible if you are always on your knees all of the time and always...

You do not need to be aware of every little thing and be apologizing for all of it/them always and all of the time, because this can, in a way, actually belittle God's forgiveness sometimes actually, etc...

Sin consciousness needs to die, and it cannot at all die you doing what you are right now doing at the time, etc...

We who walk in God's Grace have to walk that thin line between staying humble enough, and not having sin consciousness involved when we are walking (or running) with God, etc...

God Bless!

 

[Neogaia777]

I don't know about the first right now, but with the second, is that, you cannot walk, or run, if you are always on your knees always all of the time, etc...

And we are to walk with God, and run our race, etc, and that's not at all possible if you are always on your knees all of the time and always...

You do not need to be aware of every little thing and be apologizing for all of it/them always and all of the time, because this can, in a way, actually belittle God's forgiveness sometimes actually, etc...

Sin consciousness needs to die, and it cannot at all die you doing what you are right now doing at the time, etc...

We who walk in God's Grace have to walk that thin line between staying humble enough, and not having sin consciousness involved when we are walking (or running) with God, etc...

God Bless!

Of course you should maybe spend some amount of time on your knees in prayer, or fully submitted to God in your heart, etc, but your also supposed to get up and walk after that again, etc, and your also supposed to leave it there also if possible, all of your sin consciousness that you currently have there until the next time again, etc...

But in order to walk or run, or fly, you cannot really do it you are wandering around/out still with full sin consciousness still on your mind and heart all of the time, etc...

God Bless!

 

[mama2one]

since one can't change others, giving you advice won't help the people you know

it seems your friend Richard is a "helping person" & he will continue to help even if it hurts him

since he's so helpful, he chooses to ignore the bad coming back to him even though it is affecting him negatively

 

[Skye1300]

There's a reason why that person is homeless and mental issues is the reason for her. He needs to let her go before she ends up accusing him of harming her or something to the police and REALLY gets him in trouble. it's good to want to help people, but not to the point of them dragging you down. He's no good to others who could really appreciate his help if he's bound up with some mentally ill person that's mentally abusing him. He needs to let her go ASAP.

For the second person, the devil is keeping that person under bondage with that extreme repentance thing. Tell that person that a simple prayer at the end of the day asking forgiveness of any and all things he did wrong that he knows about and doesn't know about will suffice. God doesn't expect us to repent for every little thing like that. It sounds like what he has is obsessive compulsive disorder but in the form of religion.