I hate to burden you with my relationship drama again, BUT....

[redblue22]

do the X's stand for lip piercing?

 

[graciesings]

Update:

I still haven't called her

MUST do that this afternoon.... We usually talk Sunday afternoons anyway so it should be a good time to call her....

 

[High Fidelity]

Save yourself the time and don't bother.

 

[graciesings]

Save yourself the time and don't bother.

I feel like I should officially break up... Especially since she is still a friend of mine who I wouldn't want to just completely loose...

 

[Rhamiel]

I feel like I should officially break up... Especially since she is still a friend of mine who I wouldn't want to just completely loose...

I agree, it is just the polite thing to do

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Save yourself the time and don't bother.

Are you the type of guy who would text dump

 

[High Fidelity]

Are you the type of guy who would text dump

If she constantly lies and gets naked at parties, she wouldn't even get a text

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

If she constantly lies and gets naked at parties, she wouldn't even get a text

Ever heard of being the better person. OUCH harsh

 

[High Fidelity]

Ever heard of being the better person. OUCH harsh

Being the better person is not texting them because they wouldn't like what I had to say

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Being the better person is not texting them because they wouldn't like what I had to say

You should always tell the truth, maybe they will learn from it

 

[sehnsucht9]

I feel like I should officially break up... Especially since she is still a friend of mine who I wouldn't want to just completely loose...

Keeping a friendship after a relationship has ended can complicate things but kudos to you for trying.
I agree that you should actually tell her than ignore her. It would be insensitive and far more hurtful.

Best to you. I hope things go well. A break up is never pretty.

 

[Dionysiou]

I haven't logged on here in years but dang, this place is being really secularised. Bisexual relationships are cool with Christians now? Shameful. Fair enough if you're non-Christian, do as you like, but the rest don't have any excuse to condone this sin.

 

[JojotheBeloved]

I haven't logged on here in years but dang, this place is being really secularised. Bisexual relationships are cool with Christians now? Shameful. Fair enough if you're non-Christian, do as you like, but the rest don't have any excuse to condone this sin.

It is not necessarily "condoning sin" to be compassionate to another human being who has different views and struggles from yourself.

 

[JojotheBeloved]

Save yourself the time and don't bother.

As someone who has been ignored as a means of "breaking up," SHAME ON YOU! It's very hurtful and immature in my opinion, even more so than having a huge fight. It's only right to let someone know when you're not interested in continuing a relationship with them - and I think that goes for most friendships too. Unless you simply drift apart for other reasons, even telling them off is better than just ignoring them and letting them figure it out.

 

[High Fidelity]

As someone who has been ignored as a means of "breaking up" (in my case, I found out he was no longer interested when he started dating my roommate), SHAME ON YOU! It's very hurtful, more so than having a huge fight. It's only right to let someone know when you're not interested in continuing a relationship with them - and I think that goes for most friendships too. Unless you simply drift apart for other reasons, even telling them off is better than just ignoring them and letting them figure it out.

In the event you were ignored, had you constantly lied and stripped at a party?

If anyone insulted me that much then no, I wouldn't bother speaking to them.

 

[JojotheBeloved]

In the event you were ignored, had you constantly lied and stripped at a party?

If anyone insulted me that much then no, I wouldn't bother speaking to them.

No, you are correct that my circumstances were very different. But that's beside the point.
To me, the principle is to be more honorable and mature in your handling of any situation. I don't think it is ever honorable or mature to simply ignore a significant other as a means of ending a relationship. Even a text or a note or a fight is better than nothing. It doesn't matter what the other person did. It's about being a person of strong character who faces things.

 

[Dionysiou]

It is not necessarily "condoning sin" to be compassionate to another human being who has different views and struggles from yourself.

Well it looks like a whole lot of enabling and conforming Christian attitudes. "If society says it's ok, we do too!" but hey, if you're confident God will see it your way, go ahead.

 

[Bobthemotorcycle]

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[JojotheBeloved]

Well it looks like a whole lot of enabling and conforming Christian attitudes. "If society says it's ok, we do too!" but hey, if you're confident God will see it your way, go ahead.

I disagree with your assessment. I do not see in the responses on this thread an attitude of conformity or enabling. I do see compassionate people encouraging a young lady to end a relationship that isn't beneficial for her. I do see wise people advising her not to date anyone for a while as she heals, because breaking any relationship - even a non-romantic friendship - is often painful. I see people with the love of Christ offering support to a teenager, knowing that often teenagers don't really know who they are or what they want yet and are especially vulnerable to harsh words and attitudes. Sometimes those who bring such harsh words and attitudes can cause permanent damage on teenage hearts and minds, even without intention. And I see people staying true to their own convictions without feeling the need to lash out at others.

And I do believe my position is in harmony with God's Word, as He revealed Himself through Christ. Jesus Christ was compassionate and respectful toward prostitutes, towards women caught in adultery, towards the woman who had 5 husbands and lived with a man she wasn't married to, towards the thief on the cross next to Him, towards a man who betrayed Him, towards a man who denied Him, towards people who were possessed by demons and dark forces... etc. Over and over again, Jesus offered compassion and dignity to the least acceptable in "good society," those shunned and condemned by the religious elite. Offering compassion and respect is not the same thing as accepting what you believe to be unacceptable. I don't believe for a minute that Christ thought the behaviors of these people were acceptable or right... just the same as any other liars or cheats or supposed minor offenses you or I may commit in our human weaknesses... BUT that's why He came to SAVE US ALL. And He gives all of us His righteousness, knowing we are unworthy but loving and accepting us into His kingdom anyway.

 

[JojotheBeloved]

The part you may not understand is we are all friends and we take each other for better or worse.

The bible tells me that homosexuality is wrong with a terrible judgment in the end. It tents to make people yell out that we should burn all the homosexuals. I do not care for their life style but I am not allowed to judge them at this time.

The bible also tells me that fornicators will also be judged harshly but I never hear anybody yell about people who sleep around. I know that before I was saved I slept with well over 200 women but are you going to condemn me? Probably not because you have probably done it just as much yourself.

I would rather go in front of God as a homosexual with Jesus on my side than to not have Him on my side. God says that judgment for being a homosexual is very terrible but I am almost sure that is for those who do not have Jesus to defend them with His gift of eternal life in Paradise. The blood of Jesus covers all sin not just the ones you have not committed.

But like I stated at the beginning. We are all friend and love and care for each other. We do not judge but we accept and hope for a better tomorrow.

Well stated.