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What do you mean by "live off the government "? Are you working under the table and not paying taxes? Sounds like you have a business and calling it a hobby ? I am confused on your post. Help ! Be blessed.I've been building computers and fixing computers for almost my whole life (since I was seven or so) My life has always been pre Christ living, breathing, sleeping, computers. And post christ living breathing sleeping computers and God. I always have to have the latest and greatest technological marvels. I take pride in building my computers because I make them fast, great, and works of art.
Sometimes this does cause problems because building the latest and greatest isn't cheap. A typical one of my builds costs at least $4,000. Sometimes up to $6,000.
I also tend to come off as a little snotty to people in the computer world because I'll tell them facts like 1440p 144hz gaming has been the standard of gaming for over 6 years now. Which, is the truth. When 2k monitors went to 144hz refresh rates the computer world exploded. Now with the release of the RTX 3080 only being a few weeks away and the 3090 being late September we are evolving into the age of 144hz 4k gaming becoming the standard.
I think my problem is I know what im talking about but I come off as snotty because I usually spend $1,200-$1,500 just on a video card. $800 on monitors $3-$500 on motherboards i... just go all out when i build and it makes me very happy. I even recently did a build for my wife because she was in massive need for an upgrade. And to me spending this kind of money on machines that are a billion times better than what you buy at Walmart is smart and saving money. And, I really enjoy what I do. I really enjoy fixing peoples computers and giving them advice. I really enjoy my online friends and I really enjoy it here on CF.
I honesty don't care that im usually on a device of some sort 24/7 but to my parents? They hate it. They think im ruining my life and ruining my money and im the one that makes it anyway. Okay fine the government gives it to me, who cares how I get it. They also hate that I give lots of money to charity too. So I have to lie to them and say the omly reason charities ask me for money is because I used to. The truth is I've been regularly giving to charity for years and years now.
When people ask me what I do for fun or what I do to keep busy im embarassed to say that I live off of the government and build and fix computers. And that my wife and i evangelize and talk most of the time on the internet.
This causes a lot of stress on my mom and she thinks I have my nose stuck way high in the air for investing so much of my money building these awesome machines i think everyone should have because they're immensely worth the money and time building. while she's had the same laptop with an illegal windows 7 on it since 2008. I keep offering to buy her a legal copy of w10 but she keeps saying no. I mean, we all have our hobbies but it upsets me that my parents cannot accept me for who I am. I cannot talk computers around my 60 year old parents.
I can't even talk about God with my mother because she's this new age movement catholic and I'm a strict fundamentalist Calvinist. So she doesn't agree with my "you have to accept Jesus or you're going to hell" "crap" so... i have no relationship with my parents. My father used to physically abuse me and verbally abuse me nearly every day until I moved out of his house. I decided to move out because I was such an unwelcome loser to my family that my dad hit my mom in front of me. That was just the straw that broke things i didn't care about being his punching bag but, my mom was the last draw.
My parents don't understand that I do in fact have friends. In fact, I have lots of them. I told my mom that I had a large Christian community praying for me during my surgery yesterday. They dont get it because my friends are online. I met my wife online too and my father refused to acknowledge us together or even married for the first 3 years of our marriage or so. Because its ridiculous the way we met and we shouldn't even be friends let alone married. Im just... comfortable with technology and computer science. But... ill always be the stupid idiot son who never goes anywhere. Idk if I shpuld just completely reform who I am or just hide under a rock. I dont know if I can be the physically social success that my parents want me to be. Or well... the world. Even my denomination has to be uncommon its like... ugghh.
What do you mean by "live off the government "? Are you working under the table and not paying taxes? Sounds like you have a business and calling it a hobby ? I am confused on your post. Help ! Be blessed.
Sorry, not to be totally off tpYou don't need to identify with either of them. But you would be better off being on good terms with one or both of them.
Your mom seems to me to have your best interests in mind, and if you ask me, she's at least partially right. Even if she were not, reconciling and interacting with her as family members works better than the opposite, even if it's a matter of agreeing to disagree.
I'm sure there's room for more than one interest in life, and you probably would benefit from broadening your horizons somewhat. That's true for all of us.
On the religious impasse, take it for what it is. You two hold different views.
That doesn't mean the two of you have to argue it out. If she starts, you can offset the errors on her part (such as that easy believeism stuff) without arguing or lecturing, and then say that you appreciate her POV (without agreeing to it), that she has a point, and let it go at that.
For your part, don't bother bringing up the subject of religion. My own mother was of another faith and because I didn't go to the mat over doctrinal differences at every opportunity, she gradually became happy enough just to know that I was a Christian of some sort and cared about such things.
Stop trying. You know by now that it won't get you anywhere.
But I do not actually know your mother, so my advice concerns somebody I'm sizing up from reading a few lines in a post. Everything that I'm suggesting might NOT work, but I do think bending over backwards for the sake of harmony, neutralizing the areas of disagreement by sidestepping them, could lead to a better situation, and it's one that millions of other people have found to be workable and almost pleasant. Think of her as hopeless if you want, but don't relate to her that way. See what happens.
Sorry to be obtuse but what do you mean "John MacArthur is going psycho?"Maybe. But how would i even identify with either of them? The only world I know is computers. The only world my mom knows is nursing and how God apparently walked across a cloud the other day. I cant tell her its either a deception from Satan or a shadow. No I have to go along with yeah.. its probably God. Idk... We have nothing religiously in common or in common at all. Ive been trying to get along with my parents for over 30 years now. You cant tell your mom or convince her that she needs Jesus if she's going to wear the title of Christian. You cant tell your mother about how John McArthur is going psycho because she doesn't care nor has any idea who McArthur is.
So you get SSI. Does that make it ok to make money on the side and not pay taxes?Read the first half of post #14 I answered it there.
They probably are not what you say they are due to your condition.What I dont understand is why im an outcast to my family.
So you get SSI. Does that make it ok to make money on the side and not pay taxes?
They probably are not what you say they are due to your condition.
Be blessed.
My advice would be to get a job at a computer shop or as a developer. If you are able to hold a job like that it may help socially, psychologically, and financially.
Do you sell the computers you build? If not, perhaps that would be good freelance work.
The only thing I can say is try not to be snotty. Even masters of their craft can always improve.
Lol. It sounds as if you have an awesome life. Making computers and getting paid for it by the government. Sorry about your parents, but remember, you can't please all the people all the time.I've been building computers and fixing computers for almost my whole life (since I was seven or so) My life has always been pre Christ living, breathing, sleeping, computers. And post christ living breathing sleeping computers and God. I always have to have the latest and greatest technological marvels. I take pride in building my computers because I make them fast, great, and works of art.
Sometimes this does cause problems because building the latest and greatest isn't cheap. A typical one of my builds costs at least $4,000. Sometimes up to $6,000.
I also tend to come off as a little snotty to people in the computer world because I'll tell them facts like 1440p 144hz gaming has been the standard of gaming for over 6 years now. Which, is the truth. When 2k monitors went to 144hz refresh rates the computer world exploded. Now with the release of the RTX 3080 only being a few weeks away and the 3090 being late September we are evolving into the age of 144hz 4k gaming becoming the standard.
I think my problem is I know what im talking about but I come off as snotty because I usually spend $1,200-$1,500 just on a video card. $800 on monitors $3-$500 on motherboards i... just go all out when i build and it makes me very happy. I even recently did a build for my wife because she was in massive need for an upgrade. And to me spending this kind of money on machines that are a billion times better than what you buy at Walmart is smart and saving money. And, I really enjoy what I do. I really enjoy fixing peoples computers and giving them advice. I really enjoy my online friends and I really enjoy it here on CF.
I honesty don't care that im usually on a device of some sort 24/7 but to my parents? They hate it. They think im ruining my life and ruining my money and im the one that makes it anyway. Okay fine the government gives it to me, who cares how I get it. They also hate that I give lots of money to charity too. So I have to lie to them and say the omly reason charities ask me for money is because I used to. The truth is I've been regularly giving to charity for years and years now.
When people ask me what I do for fun or what I do to keep busy im embarassed to say that I live off of the government and build and fix computers. And that my wife and i evangelize and talk most of the time on the internet.
This causes a lot of stress on my mom and she thinks I have my nose stuck way high in the air for investing so much of my money building these awesome machines i think everyone should have because they're immensely worth the money and time building. while she's had the same laptop with an illegal windows 7 on it since 2008. I keep offering to buy her a legal copy of w10 but she keeps saying no. I mean, we all have our hobbies but it upsets me that my parents cannot accept me for who I am. I cannot talk computers around my 60 year old parents.
I can't even talk about God with my mother because she's this new age movement catholic and I'm a strict fundamentalist Calvinist. So she doesn't agree with my "you have to accept Jesus or you're going to hell" "crap" so... i have no relationship with my parents. My father used to physically abuse me and verbally abuse me nearly every day until I moved out of his house. I decided to move out because I was such an unwelcome loser to my family that my dad hit my mom in front of me. That was just the straw that broke things i didn't care about being his punching bag but, my mom was the last draw.
My parents don't understand that I do in fact have friends. In fact, I have lots of them. I told my mom that I had a large Christian community praying for me during my surgery yesterday. They dont get it because my friends are online. I met my wife online too and my father refused to acknowledge us together or even married for the first 3 years of our marriage or so. Because its ridiculous the way we met and we shouldn't even be friends let alone married. Im just... comfortable with technology and computer science. But... ill always be the stupid idiot son who never goes anywhere. Idk if I shpuld just completely reform who I am or just hide under a rock. I dont know if I can be the physically social success that my parents want me to be. Or well... the world. Even my denomination has to be uncommon its like... ugghh.
Would I be able to take large breaks if an episode happened?
What I always thought when I was a kid was I could work as a freelance software developer. But ive flunked computer science so many times. My math skills aren't the greatest. I have to get up to Calculus III classes and I cannot pass beginners algebra that most people take in middle school i guess. I was always in special needs classes so I dont think my GED classes went above dividing fractions. And I'd need a refresher on that. I graduated with my GED way back in 2004.
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