I hate being single!

[hockeysistah12]

What I'm gonna say will offend some of you, but if you think being married will cure all your problems of loniness, think again. Marriage is not a "cure all" because when people get married, the problems will begin. And if you are not ready for a real commitment or staying with your spouse thick and thin and ready for the challenges, it is better to be single and not deal with those issues.

I'm not saying this in harsh reality, but being married is a great responsiblity and love is one component of marriage. Marriage is also trust and commitment, not only emotions.

Sure we want someone to be with us, present company included and yes, I would be the first one to tell you that I want someone with skin on to hold me (and I'm a young widow), but in the meantime, we need to be happy and content as the bible says whatever state we are in and stop complaining about out status.

 

[lunalinda]

Well nope, I for one and not offended. I was just using one of many examples. Loneliness is definitely one, but I already know that marriage isn't the cure for loneliness. I already know that it is possible for one to be married and feel completely alone. There were times when I felt that way even with my ex-boyfriends, but mostly when things were already going wrong.

And I guess that is why when I marry...or IF I marry...I'll feel that it's the person God intends me to be with, so that, no matter the many number of fights or whatever that will come up, I don't have that worry of things going wrong in the permanent way.

I'm not at all an expert on marriage, or even in bf's. I spent the first 20 years of my life as a single woman. But I disagree that problems START at marriage. Not fully, mind you. I'm merely suggesting that problems start with romantic relationships PERIOD. Marriage just adds in new ones. I have no problem with commitments, with love, with devotion, even with fights.

I can understand being happy and content, and I'm not at all disagreeing. I guess that is just one of my struggles. It's hard for me to be happy with something when deep down, my heart desires more. But as I said...it's a struggle.

 

[Numenor]

What I'm gonna say will offend some of you, but if you think being married will cure all your problems of loniness, think again

I'm not offended either, though I am kinda surprised. I've never been married but I have been in a couple of long term relationships and the only time when I felt lonely was when those relationships were breaking down.

I agree though that marriage is not a "silver bullet" for life's problems. You just exchange the problems of single life for the problems of married life!

I get a bit lonely at times cos I don't live near the rest of my family and I don't really have that many friends at church who are my own age (late-twenties).

grace and peace

 

[JPPT1974]

I'm not offended either, though I am kinda surprised. I've never been married but I have been in a couple of long term relationships and the only time when I felt lonely was when those relationships were breaking down.

I agree though that marriage is not a "silver bullet" for life's problems. You just exchange the problems of single life for the problems of married life!

I get a bit lonely at times cos I don't live near the rest of my family and I don't really have that many friends at church who are my own age (late-twenties).

grace and peace

I have never been married nor had a long-term relationship. And I really am content and love being single. Marriage is something that both partners have to commit to. Both need to work on and commit to 100% on their part. Not one over the other.