I hate being single!

[carmi]

You women are so darn needy!!!!

I'm so glad i'm a guy.

Awwww - I am not sure whether it has to do with neediness.

Some women can wait, need to wait. And some men can't or don't want to wait.

 

[carmi]

Yeah, that's probably pretty much the reason with me. I've almost never been totally single since I was like 15 or 16 years old. In fact, the relationship that lasted 6 years (or more... can't remember right now but it was between 6 and 8 years long) started when I was like 15. We separated a few times in between and that is when I had the other relationships. But we were together for about 6-8 years overall counting the times when we weren't actually seeing each other.

Maybe you feel more at a loss right now because your longterm relationship ended. Six years is long time (even if there were separations in between). That boy was part of your life for a long time. And maybe you thought he will be part of your life for the rest of your life.

 

[seangoh]

You need to develop yourself to the point where you enjoy your own company. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married but to just plain hate single life is sad. Most people that hate single life are boring and uninteresting people. Don't you have things you like to do? Career? Hobbies? How about that masters program? How about picking up something new to learn? Speaking another language.
All of those things make people irresistable to the opposite sex.

DITTO

 

[stillerfan]

I have had a few long term relationships that lasted anywhere from 6 months to approximately 6 years. Unfortunately, all of those relationships have ended and I am single. I hate being single. My sister who is 20 is already married and a lot of my friends are either married or are getting engaged to be married. I feel like I'll never be married! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

i feel like this as well....

 

[hockeysistah12]

I'm tired of Christians who complain that they hate being single--has it ever occoured to most of you that God may want to use your singleness to be involved in the lives of others?

I'm not saying this to be harsh nor mean, however, God has told us that we need to be content, whatever the cirmustances and make the most of it, not complain and whine about our singleness, because being married is no better than being single. I know, I have been married a year and I has been a widow for 13 years, but I don't let those cirmistances get to me and if they do, it is the enemy who wants you to feel like you are a failure.

 

[mina]

I think it's important to try and understand where people are comming from. I've been single my whole life and I must admit i'm ready for a change. I want a family of my own , a husband to love and be loved by, children to nurture and raise, etc. I want those things and at times it seems that they are very far out of reach. I have a very full life now and I've been content as a single for a long time. God is in control and He will cause everything to happen in His perfect timming. I know that and trust that, however there are times where I get upset with the reality of what things are because i'm not a perfect human. Things don't happen right when we want them. I guess the best advice is to develop yourself as a person, persue the intrests that you want to now while you can, find your ministry and become the person that God wants you to be. Seek His will and pray for His guidence.

 

[Babymine]

I dont hate being single, although it is uncomfortable at times. Sometimes I wish and pray for a companion. Other times Im so happy to be single that I could go on the rooftops and shout out loud. I think it's a part of life to get a little down and out sometimes whereas loneliness is concerned, but never ever stay down and out. God is in control, if you believe and accept it, the person he has for you will eventually be there. The hardest part is waiting for the eventually .
And..if "eventually" never comes, God will probably keep you so busy, you wont notice much.

 

[Fatolia]

Just don't think about it. Go write some music or something, and all those desires will seem to slip through your fingers.

 

[iwillxa100]

I have had a few long term relationships that lasted anywhere from 6 months to approximately 6 years. Unfortunately, all of those relationships have ended and I am single. I hate being single. My sister who is 20 is already married and a lot of my friends are either married or are getting engaged to be married. I feel like I'll never be married! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I too feel your pain, and wonder if I will ever get married, or if I will ever even have a girlfriend once in my lifetime, for that matter.

I am 20 and have not had 1 woman yet. Never held hands, never cuddled, I'm as virgin as can be (aside from the millions of times that I've lusted)
But anyways, my point is, feel greatful that you have had some romantic relationships already in your life, because there are many people at your age, who've had no experience in that area whatsoever.

And if you want a relationship, you should just start asking guys out on dates, many will say yes, and eventually u'll meet a guy that you like. Seriously, guys like it when girls make the initiative. It aint that hard for a girl to get a guy to date her. Just dont get hung up on finding the most popular, good looking or confident man, be willing to settle for less than perfect.

 

[middo]

i'd love to be able to say I am content being single, but i'm not. I know, im 19, im young, i have my whole life ahead of me, i have an AMAZING relationship with God, but i would love to share my life with that special someone, and I'd like for that to start now. I think the difference is I don't let this control me. I'm not rushing into anything, I know God has someone for me, i may want a gf now but thats obviously not in God's plan. So i plod along, serving God as my priority, and as much as i WOULD love a GF i just have to accept it is not time yet and do my very best to make myself the best damn guy I can be, for the service of God and for my future wife.

 

[iwillxa100]

well yeah, we need those things.... but to say you never get lonely, you never wish you could find her now? then how will you appreciate her when you do?
we need independence, to an extent.
but im going to be married one day, and i will need to be able to need her.

im just saying we need to stay in the middle of the road... we dont need to these obessive leaches who cant function without help... but we dont need to compelety not need them either.

Amen.

To say that someone is completely happy not being married (when they carry the typical human emotions) I think is absurd. But at the same time it is really stupid to say that your life is going to be miserable until you get married.

Middle ground is the way to go.

 

[carmi]

To say that someone is completely happy not being married (when they carry the typical human emotions) I think is absurd. But at the same time it is really stupid to say that your life is going to be miserable until you get married.

I don't think it is absurd. Jesus Christ Himself said that to some it is given. Others may have to work for it, in the sense that it takes them awhile to get to the point where they are completely happy not being married.

I know the verse that says "a good wife is a gift from the Lord" but that does not necessarily mean that we all get presented with a spouse. It is possible that the Lord wants some of us not to be married.

 

[stillerfan]

i can honestly say that the only thing that i want for christmas is for me and my current ex-g/f to be back together...i love her too much to let her go, and i feel that it'll be a long time before i am able to do that...

 

[stillerfan]

even after all of the pain, the anguish, the money that they got me for in order for them to be happy, i would love nothing more to forgive them (and her family) for us to be together....i would be a completely different person if she was still around...just goes to show how cruel this world can be.

 

[Iggster]

Being single isn't so bad. I kinda like being drawn to the Lord and focusing on strengthening my relationship with Him. It is that time in my life which I just keep silent, and know He's my God. May be it's also that time for you......

 

[PetraFan007]

I'm still waiting my first to me only.

 

[JPPT1974]

I am not ready to make a commitment but that is up to God when and if the time is right!

 

[lunalinda]

I don't hate being single so much as I hate what can accompany singleness in those particular moments when you really yearn to have someone with you. For example, weddings. I tire of going to weddings (I'm already dreading the upcoming one in April), watching all these couples dance and not being able to participate. I've never had that, never danced with a boyfriend, and it just seems really nice. Or watching the loving, budding, new-born relationship of the bride and groom themselves, wishing that I can imagine the wedding day with the bf who might have been my date there, rather than be overwhelmed with the feeling that I'm alone there.

But beyond that, time and time again when my family were to get into fights with either themselves or with me, I often just want to have a boyfriend to call. Just...SOMETHING. Or heck, let's get even simpler. Simple as in HOLDING HANDS. Such a gesture is so underrated. If we were to have the prayers at church in which we're asked to hold hands, the first thing I think of is: *sigh* I remember this feeling. That's one main reason why I hate that this "lovey dovey" part of me has been awakened. I always want it now.

I don't hate being single. But I don't hate being involved with someone either, and I do prefer to be involved. It just feels nice to be wanted by someone, and feeling his arms around you to prove it.

 

[Fatolia]

:-/

 

[jones_of_pbf]

I've been married, and am now divorced.
Trust me, marriage is great, but you should have fun being single.
God always helps people to find the right one.
I didn't listen to Him and that put me where I am now.
I hope anyone who's single can be patient, because that makes it feel better when it happens.

(I also hope this makes sense.)