I hate being single!

[Ave Maria]

I have had a few long term relationships that lasted anywhere from 6 months to approximately 6 years. Unfortunately, all of those relationships have ended and I am single. I hate being single. My sister who is 20 is already married and a lot of my friends are either married or are getting engaged to be married. I feel like I'll never be married! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

 

[Glaz]

I have had a few long term relationships that lasted anywhere from 6 months to approximately 6 years. Unfortunately, all of those relationships have ended and I am single. I hate being single. My sister who is 20 is already married and a lot of my friends are either married or are getting engaged to be married. I feel like I'll never be married! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

Heh, yeah. What your feeling is pretty common, but heck Holly, your only 22 don't be in such a rush to settle down.

 

[fishstix]

I like being single. There are good and bad things about any lifestyle. That includes singleness and marriedness. Lots of people focus on how much greener the grass looks on the married side and fail to notice many of those on the married side looking back and thinking the grass on the single side looks a lot greener - likely the same ones that weren't satisfied with singleness when they had it.

 

[boilerblues]

I'm becoming more ok with being single, but it's still a struggle. There are certainly blessings to being single, look for those and enjoy it while you're here. You won't get a lot of these opportunities ever again.

 

[waterbear]

I'm content with my singleness - there's so much more about myself I have yet to understand, which seems more important at the moment.

 

[Endure2]

i hate being single

ME TOO! ***GRINS FROM EAR TO EAR***

Im content where im at, but i look forward in great anticipation to better days.
God has a wife for me and I long to find her, in Gods timing.

its just, no man is an island unto himself, and a brother who walks alone is a fool becuase if he falls down there will be no one there to pick him up... what i need as a Christian is spread abroud in the body of Christ, and part of its in that lady who i will be so lucky to call my wife. i will never be who im called to be or create what im called to create without her.

though its all in Gods timing, only he knows how to put it together.

 

[Fatolia]

i will never be who im called to be or create what im called to create without her.

That can't be true, man. You are made to make Jesus-style love moves right NOW. You don't need a wife to do that. If you wait until you've got a woman at your side to excercise your full potential, you'll have wasted a life of time.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

I never thought I'd say this, but I love being single. I was decorating my apartment the other night for Christmas and I have everything just the way I like it. I can come and go as I please. I can see my family as much as I want. I can focus on my job and keeping my apartment clean. I work on my culinary skills. I learn new hobbies. This is an exciting time for me.

 

[Endure2]

fatolia
there are things im called to do, and be that i cannot right now...
and it is my destiny to fullfill those things, and without her i never will.

it is true, its common sense that there are probly children that im called to raise... and i cant without her.
if i and her are called and destined and by God to be together, it is for a purpose... and we must be together for that purpose to ever be fullfilled.

but yeah...
there is a destiny on today too, that i can fullfill today.
but later, she will be a part of my destiny.

 

[Tuffguy]

I have had a few long term relationships that lasted anywhere from 6 months to approximately 6 years. Unfortunately, all of those relationships have ended and I am single. I hate being single. My sister who is 20 is already married and a lot of my friends are either married or are getting engaged to be married. I feel like I'll never be married! Does anyone else ever feel this way?

I think you're nuts.

You need to develop yourself to the point where you enjoy your own company. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married but to just plain hate single life is sad. Most people that hate single life are boring and uninteresting people. Don't you have things you like to do? Career? Hobbies? How about that masters program? How about picking up something new to learn? Speaking another language.
All of those things make people irresistable to the opposite sex.

 

[Endure2]

You need to develop yourself to the point where you enjoy your own company. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be married but to just plain hate single life is sad. Most people that hate single life are boring and uninteresting people. Don't you have things you like to do? Career? Hobbies? How about that masters program? How about picking up something new to learn? Speaking another language.
All of those things make people irresistable to the opposite sex.

well yeah, we need those things.... but to say you never get lonely, you never wish you could find her now? then how will you appreciate her when you do?
we need independence, to an extent.
but im going to be married one day, and i will need to be able to need her.

im just saying we need to stay in the middle of the road... we dont need to these obessive leaches who cant function without help... but we dont need to compelety not need them either.

 

[invisiblebabe]

I'm looking forward to marrying and trust that God has someone for me and will work that out in His timing, but for now I'm happy with where God has me.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

I don't think it's so much people who hate single are boring. I think when we all reach the age alot of us are at (early-mid twenties) and alot of our friends start getting hitched you start wondering "when is it going to happen for me?". But there are alot of ways we can serve Christ while single that being in a relationship might inhibit.

 

[Endure2]

I'm looking forward to marrying and trust that God has someone for me and will work that out in His timing, but for now I'm happy with where God has me.

exactly...
im happy... but i can hardly wait.

 

[OhhJim]

When I was in my early twenties, I hated being single, also. It's probably natural and normal, to a degree, to want someone in your life.

Then I got married, and learned that there are worse things than being single! Not that my wife was horrible, or anything, she wasn't.

Perhaps God knows better than you, whether or not you should be married at this time.

 

[TriptychR]

Finding satisfaction in singlehood is something that needs some effort now and then, since those waves of loneliness seem to occur naturally sometimes. But as OhhJim implied, perhaps those waves of wanting something different happen no matter where you are in life, and that we look so hard sometimes because we have been made to feel that being single means there's something wrong with you.

 

[Nico]

i go through waves--times when i'm really excited about being single and times when i wish i'd find someone already. i'm kinda at the point right now where i'd like to find someone. i'm kinda getting baby-fever and i know that i'd like to start a family some day (obviously not know, but i wouldn't mind finding someone to get to that point with). it's that longing for a real family and a soul mate that makes me wish someone was in my life right now. but in the mean time, i am trying to make the most of my singleness cause it could change, really, at any time.....

 

[Living4Him03]

Join the club. I don't even have any guys interested in dating me. And it's not like I don't try or try to put my best foot forward. They just still do not want me. Other girls always "win" over me. I just have to hope there's a slight chance that SOMEDAY i will somehow win a guy over all those ditzy, flaky, fakeish blondes that pretend to be perfect and make guys fall at their feet.

 

[Highland Watchman]

Join the club. I don't even have any guys interested in dating me. And it's not like I don't try or try to put my best foot forward. They just still do not want me. Other girls always "win" over me. I just have to hope there's a slight chance that SOMEDAY i will somehow win a guy over all those ditzy, flaky, fakeish blondes that pretend to be perfect and make guys fall at their feet.

Ouch. Do I sense a taste of bitterness?

Mind you, I know I'm probably not one to talk right now, as I have had a few rants here and there about the entire "every good guy is taken" complaint of many women, and I am still here, still single... Sort of makes me grin, shrug, and say that I guess I must not be one of those "good guys" that are wished for.

I guess like most people here, I have waves between the two extremes of how I feel about my singleness. But I don't have the advantage of living near many people that I know, and the internet and occasional longdistance phone call are the only access that I have to talking to any of my more long-time friends. so there are times when the isolation makes the longing for a companion all the stronger, and my despising being single... But then I realize that I am in no position personally to effectively serve the woman that I am meant to be with at this time... so I guess I am at the place where I am supposed to be in that sense.

 

[JPPT1974]

God wants you to be content at being married or single and only want the best for you at heart. Look at it like that. Give your all to Jesus.