I give up!

[aflower4God]

Hi all this is just a rant not a pity party so PLEASE KNOW that I am just needing to get this out, so PLEASE do NOT come down on me for this thread I beg you!
Well it is pretty simple, I just give up all hope that the right guy is out there for me, I wasted one year chasing after this guy who just does not share the same feelings as I do with him. I should have not even tried I should have known that it would have turned out bad for me, even though i was very optimistic about things with this guy. Oh well it is what it is, I am not meant to be in love, ever. I feel this is a FACT not a pity. I really don't care at this point.
Anyone else here feel the same, if so please use this thread to rant and AGAIN KNOW that this is not a pity party but just a rant thread of my feelings. I figure if you want you can use this thread for the same, to rant.
Praying for you all

 

[Life2Christ]

Romantic love is overrated and Tiffany engagement rings are the equivilent of shackles.

 

[aflower4God]

Romantic love is overrated and Tiffany engagement rings are the equivilent of shackles.

 

[saturnnights]

I wonder if the same goes for me sometimes... If I'm not meant to be with anyone else for the rest of my life, then I'm prepared to accept it. And the longer I'm alone, the less terrible it feels, so who knows?

 

[iambren]

"Loneliness can get you down..." It's a song a lot of us sing. All we can do is look at the couples/marriages around us and keep hope alive.

 

[exitstageright]

Hi all this is just a rant not a pity party so PLEASE KNOW that I am just needing to get this out, so PLEASE do NOT come down on me for this thread I beg you!
Well it is pretty simple, I just give up all hope that the right guy is out there for me, I wasted one year chasing after this guy who just does not share the same feelings as I do with him. I should have not even tried I should have known that it would have turned out bad for me, even though i was very optimistic about things with this guy. Oh well it is what it is, I am not meant to be in love, ever. I feel this is a FACT not a pity. I really don't care at this point.
Anyone else here feel the same, if so please use this thread to rant and AGAIN KNOW that this is not a pity party but just a rant thread of my feelings. I figure if you want you can use this thread for the same, to rant.
Praying for you all

One of the few things that I love in this life is music. I can really indentify with this song,sung by Karen Carpenter.:

Like sailin’ on a sailin’ ship to nowhere
Love took over my heart like an ocean breeze
As seagulls fly I knew that I was losin’
Love was washed away with the driftin’ tide

Oh it’s a dirty old shame
When all you get from love is a love song
That’s got you layin’ up nights
Just waitin’ for the music to start
It’s such a dirty old shame
When you got to take the blame for a love song
Because the best love songs are written
With a broken heart

And now the tears in my eyes are ever blinding
The future that lies before me I cannot see
Although tomorrow I know the sun is rising
Lighting up the world for everyone, but not for me

Oh it’s a dirty old shame
When all you get from love is a love song
That’s got you layin’ up nights
Just waitin’ for the music to start
It’s such a dirty old shame
When you got to take the blame for a love song
Because the best love songs are written
With a broken heart

 

[saturnnights]

The Carpenters nailed it with that song. There can never be another Karen - her voice was perfect...

 

[Hockey_Fan]

Hi all this is just a rant not a pity party so PLEASE KNOW that I am just needing to get this out, so PLEASE do NOT come down on me for this thread I beg you!
Well it is pretty simple, I just give up all hope that the right guy is out there for me, I wasted one year chasing after this guy who just does not share the same feelings as I do with him. I should have not even tried I should have known that it would have turned out bad for me, even though i was very optimistic about things with this guy. Oh well it is what it is, I am not meant to be in love, ever. I feel this is a FACT not a pity. I really don't care at this point.
Anyone else here feel the same, if so please use this thread to rant and AGAIN KNOW that this is not a pity party but just a rant thread of my feelings. I figure if you want you can use this thread for the same, to rant.
Praying for you all

Sweetie, I know the feeling.

Guys experience the same thing. I've been there.

There's a balance. On the one hand, it can be healthy to stop obsessing about relationships and spend your time and energy on things of interest t you. Nothing wrong with having some ME time.

On the other hand, we never really know where life will take us or who we might meet... as soon as tomorrow.

 

[heirmiles]

My me rant about me.

I shower and brush my teeth weekly.
I spend 10 hours a day on my computer.
I wash my dish just before I eat.
I use plastic utensils.
I vacuum yearly.
I collect my own garbage.
And I take pills so I can sleep.

Why would I give that up for a girlfriend?

 

[exitstageright]

The Carpenters nailed it with that song. There can never be another Karen - her voice was perfect...

Yes,Karen had such a lovely voice. It was a shame that such a very talented person had to die at such a young age.

 

[Doctor Strangelove]

My me rant about me.

I shower and brush my teeth weekly.
I spend 10 hours a day on my computer.
I wash my dish just before I eat.
I use plastic utensils.
I vacuum yearly.
I collect my own garbage.
And I take pills so I can sleep.

Why would I give that up for a girlfriend?

If you make hygene your friend you are more likely to have other friends, too.

 

[exitstageright]

Hi all this is just a rant not a pity party so PLEASE KNOW that I am just needing to get this out, so PLEASE do NOT come down on me for this thread I beg you!
Well it is pretty simple, I just give up all hope that the right guy is out there for me, I wasted one year chasing after this guy who just does not share the same feelings as I do with him. I should have not even tried I should have known that it would have turned out bad for me, even though i was very optimistic about things with this guy. Oh well it is what it is, I am not meant to be in love, ever. I feel this is a FACT not a pity. I really don't care at this point.
Anyone else here feel the same, if so please use this thread to rant and AGAIN KNOW that this is not a pity party but just a rant thread of my feelings. I figure if you want you can use this thread for the same, to rant.
Praying for you all

Last Monday,I went to a speed dating meeting with single professionals,like myself, in my age group from 40-60 year olds. There were more women than men in our group. We all were given numbers.When a match is made,if both parties circle "yes",we are e-mailed to let us know who picked us. Well.......no one picked me. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area. Yes, I did fell so ......sad.

But,today,the San Francisco 49ers won the NFC Championship Game and are going to the Super Bowl. Now,I do not feel........so......bad.
I was not going to go to the Super Bowl,because I have been to the Super Bowl before. Then,I thought. Sports are one area of my life in which I do not feel cheated. I am going to go to the Super Bowl in New Orleans this year. I am going to have a great time. When life gives me lemons ,(rejection by smart women) ,I will just have to make lemonade by going to the Super Bowl!! GO NINERS!!
I can for at least not have to think about all of this romantic BS for three days,while partying and going to the Super Bowl in New Oreans.

They call New Orleans,"The Big Easy". Funny,when I was in New Orleans,during the last two times I was there,it sure was not easy for me.

 

[blackribbon]

When a match is made,if both parties circle "yes",we are e-mailed to let us know who picked us. Well.......no one picked me. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area. Yes, I did fell so ......sad.

You are notified if NO ONE picks you? I thought you are only notified if someone YOU chose also picked you...so unless, you chose every female there, you wouldn't know if NO ONE picked you...you only find out if anyone out of the smaller set of women you actually chose was interested.

 

[power2theweak]

(((Flower)))

 

[saturnnights]

Last Monday,I went to a speed dating meeting with single professionals,like myself, in my age group from 40-60 year olds. There were more women than men in our group. We all were given numbers.When a match is made,if both parties circle "yes",we are e-mailed to let us know who picked us. Well.......no one picked me.

This sort of event seems to be of Satanic design, intended to destroy one's sense of self-worth...

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I totally understand the need to rant. I also totally get that you are not on a pity party, you are just very frustrated that it didn't work out. I know this won't make you feel any better but I just talked to a girlfriend in FL that has been married to a semi disabled guy for 14 years. She has done everything for this guy and the thanks she gets is he cheated on her with someone else. That someone was texting pics of her private parts to him!
But sadly my friend kind of sort of still wants him back. She is in a sad state for sure.
I know it doesn't happen this way for everyone, but when I was finally fed up with my ex boyfriend and dating and decided I didn't want ANYONE, that is when I met my husband!
I have been a widow for 8 years. Not sure what the future holds for me, but I'm just riding out the wave until I know.

 

[exitstageright]

You are notified if NO ONE picks you? I thought you are only notified if someone YOU chose also picked you...so unless, you chose every female there, you wouldn't know if NO ONE picked you...you only find out if anyone out of the smaller set of women you actually chose was interested.

What smaller set? I picked 19 out of the total 20 women who where available to talk to me. The one lady I did not pick was the one who pointed out to me that I was the only black person,male or female,at the speed dating site. Therefore,19 out of 20 women are not a smaller set.

It is obvious,that the one who said that I was the only black person there,does not date black guys. That is just fine with me.That is her choice.
But, I agree with her! Because,....I do not date black guys either!

 

[exitstageright]

This sort of event seems to be of Satanic design, intended to destroy one's sense of self-worth...

I disagree. These were only 20 women. There are over 9,000,000 million people in the San Francisco Bay Area. This is a very,very,very,tiny sample. With so many people, in a 60 miles radius,why is it so hard to meet someone in this area? Because,many people here are so paranoid. Many people here are even afraid to say,"hello" to someone they do not know.
Other men,who also live in The San Francisco Bay Area, have told me the same thing. That women,in general, are friendlier over seas,and out of California,than they are here at home.
I do not make the news. I just observe and I report the news.
No. I will not relocate to somewhere,say,like Australia.
Because,I would miss going to the San Francisco 49ers' Football Games!

If 10 out of 20 women had said,"YES!", I certainly would have a great sense of self-worth!

 

[dayhiker]

exit ... I was thinking of you when the 49ers won. Congratulations.
I was hoping our teams would meet in the Superbowl ... but we didn't have it Sunday.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I met with a friend of mine whose husband left her and she has done some dating. The guy she is dating now (BTW she is average looking but has a heart of gold and a great personality) has told her that alot of women he has met that are our age have been hurt badly by men and they have a hard time trusting men (I can relate to the latter part). Even my girlfriend does not want to move too quickly because of her hurt.
I said all that to say that if/when you do get a woman in your age group, you will have to be very very patient with her. (Hmmmmm maybe that's what you are learning right now? ) just sayin