I feel so sad because I never have male interest

[DragonFox91]

Old thread: Nothing is wrong w/ you. But I can promise you men will change & you will change some too. Or rather, it's not a change, it's your true self & their true self blossoming. Be patient, ask God in prayer, draw closer to him, & trust him.

 

[Lost Witness]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship and being loved.
But would suggest caution on this..
Spent a good portion of my life distracted by relationships.
Seeking love and the entire time the only love I needed I had been denying myself.
The LORD is that Love.
Its our relationship with him we should seek fulfillment in. (Myself am working on this) thank you Jesus for loving me and my soul)
His love is never ending and fills us completely
So Again it's okay to want an intimate relationship with someone, marry have a family etc.
Just don't let the pursuit of it steal away your joy in the LORD.
May The LORD Bless You and Keep You

 

[Fearnot87]

Old thread: Nothing is wrong w/ you. But I can promise you men will change & you will change some too. Or rather, it's not a change, it's your true self & their true self blossoming. Be patient, ask God in prayer, draw closer to him, & trust him.

Not only men , women folk also can be unpredictable , however there are still men and women of integrity and that's the class every good believer should belong to but they seem rare m
Blessings

 

[Fearnot87]

There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a relationship and being loved.
But would suggest caution on this..
Spent a good portion of my life distracted by relationships.
Seeking love and the entire time the only love I needed I had been denying myself.
The LORD is that Love.
Its our relationship with him we should seek fulfillment in. (Myself am working on this) thank you Jesus for loving me and my soul)
His love is never ending and fills us completely
So Again it's okay to want an intimate relationship with someone, marry have a family etc.
Just don't let the pursuit of it steal away your joy in the LORD.
May The LORD Bless You and Keep You

Absolutely agree with you and that's what it should be but however God is also interested in our Love life . It's adviceable to seek such in a godly manner . Must confess it's one of the difficult tasks finding the right person or compatible partner .
While our Love for God is paramount it's good we open up to friendship from serious believers when they come because God works through men as well.
God bless you and have a nice day

 

[TheRealAriel]

Old thread, but I still would like to put out there what I wish I knew at 23.

Being vulnerable and approaching somebody (ESPECIALLY to ask them out) is terrifying. Just because someone doesn’t ask you out, doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t interested. So if you see somebody you’re interested in- approach them! Be friendly. Maybe even ask them out yourself. Don’t hide in your gender role, be vulnerable if you want vulnerability from others. The more you do it the more confident you will become in putting yourself out there.

Also, take some burden off of dating. Telling someone you are interested in dating them doesn’t mean you’re committing your life to them and you know they are the one. It’s just “I’m interested in getting to know you so we can find out if we’re a good fit.” And the more you date, the more you learn what you do and don’t want in a relationship. It helps you be a better partner someday for the one.

 

[DragonFox91]

Old thread, but I still would like to put out there what I wish I knew at 23.

Being vulnerable and approaching somebody (ESPECIALLY to ask them out) is terrifying. Just because someone doesn’t ask you out, doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t interested. So if you see somebody you’re interested in- approach them! Be friendly. Maybe even ask them out yourself. Don’t hide in your gender role, be vulnerable if you want vulnerability from others. The more you do it the more confident you will become in putting yourself out there.

Also, take some burden off of dating. Telling someone you are interested in dating them doesn’t mean you’re committing your life to them and you know they are the one. It’s just “I’m interested in getting to know you so we can find out if we’re a good fit.” And the more you date, the more you learn what you do and don’t want in a relationship. It helps you be a better partner someday for the one.

Fantastic answer. Definitely agree viewing it as just getting to know someone b/c you're potentially interested as you would be interested in any other person, it takes a lot of weight off!!!

Plus, speaking from a man’s perspective, we need feedback! If we’re not getting any feedback, I at least will assume she’s not interested & don’t want to be pushy so will move on rather quickly. Single ladies can’t be scared to show interest themselves. Maybe just none are interested in me & the ladies are doing it right & I’m doing it wrong or just haven’t found one that wants to be interested, but, just something I tend to notice, it can be like talking to a blank wall & we know you’re not a blank wall!

 

[Fearnot87]

Old thread, but I still would like to put out there what I wish I knew at 23.

Being vulnerable and approaching somebody (ESPECIALLY to ask them out) is terrifying. Just because someone doesn’t ask you out, doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t interested. So if you see somebody you’re interested in- approach them! Be friendly. Maybe even ask them out yourself. Don’t hide in your gender role, be vulnerable if you want vulnerability from others. The more you do it the more confident you will become in putting yourself out there.

Also, take some burden off of dating. Telling someone you are interested in dating them doesn’t mean you’re committing your life to them and you know they are the one. It’s just “I’m interested in getting to know you so we can find out if we’re a good fit.” And the more you date, the more you learn what you do and don’t want in a relationship. It helps you be a better partner someday for the one.

I concur with you, bcoz every relationship starts with friendship and friendship starts by being nice and social but I bet you majority of the single ladies will hardly make a friendship move because they think it's men's duty to do that .
In nutshell,I think that both sexes should assume responsibility to make a wise and kind move towards the person they interested in .
Thanks

 

[Fearnot87]

Fantastic answer. Definitely agree viewing it as just getting to know someone b/c you're potentially interested as you would be interested in any other person, it takes a lot of weight off!!!

Plus, speaking from a man’s perspective, we need feedback! If we’re not getting any feedback, I at least will assume she’s not interested & don’t want to be pushy so will move on rather quickly. Single ladies can’t be scared to show interest themselves. Maybe just none are interested in me & the ladies are doing it right & I’m doing it wrong or just haven’t found one that wants to be interested, but, just something I tend to notice, it can be like talking to a blank wall & we know you’re not a blank wall!

You are on point and I know the men will always give feedback .
For me I will also do so when I get the green light

 

[bèlla]

I've never asked anyone out. I like men to take the lead in that respect. If you feel the same you have to be approachable. There's nothing wrong with saying hello or making small talk. Body language is important if that's your preference. Learn the difference between open and closed. Make eye contact, smile often, don't walk with your head down and take out the ear buds.

How can someone get your attention if you're distracted? The majority are on their phones. I went to coffee shops with a book and have the ringer off when I'm out. I talk to men frequently and it isn't because I'm attracted. I enjoy their company. If you get into the habit of conversing as a norm you'll make more connections.

~bella

 

[Fearnot87]

I've never asked anyone out. I like men to take the lead in that respect. If you feel the same you have to be approachable. There's nothing wrong with saying hello or making small talk. Body language is important if that's your preference. Learn the difference between open and closed. Make eye contact, smile often, don't walk with your head down and take out the ear buds.

How can someone get your attention if you're distracted? The majority are on their phones. I went to coffee shops with a book and have the ringer off when I'm out. I talk to men frequently and it isn't because I'm attracted. I enjoy their company. If you get into the habit of conversing as a norm you'll make more connections.

~bella

Another good point and I agree with you mostly on the part for men to take lead and also you enjoying men's company through converse .
Being friendly or social is q good one because it's likely to connect you with new friends who can add value in your life .
However, I think because of unsuccessful or failed friendships/relationships that were intended to last longer ,invariably alot of women seem to be keeping themselves without opening up to advances men make towards them .
Personally I believe there are good ones out there and with the right response things can work out .

 

[bèlla]

Another good point and I agree with you mostly on the part for men to take lead and also you enjoying men's company through converse .
Being friendly or social is q good one because it's likely to connect you with new friends who can add value in your life .
However, I think because of unsuccessful or failed friendships/relationships that were intended to last longer ,invariably alot of women seem to be keeping themselves without opening up to advances men make towards them .
Personally I believe there are good ones out there and with the right response things can work out .

You can't allow negative situations to dim your light. Start small. When you're in an elevator smile and say hello. Wish people a good day or good luck with a project if you overhear its discussion. Be a beacon of warmth and encouragement. Don't be afraid to compliment. Whether they respond or not isn't important. You have to get in the habit of being yourself.

I test a lot of theories in elevators. Sometimes I'll say hello and add an honorific in my greeting or departure. I watch their reaction while doing so. Men respond favorably to respect. Whether you're his type or not. Women have a similar affinity with kindness.

~bella

 

[Fearnot87]

You can't allow negative situations to dim your light. Start small. When you're in an elevator smile and say hello. Wish people a good day or good luck with a project if you overhear its discussion. Be a beacon of warmth and encouragement. Don't be afraid to compliment. Whether they respond or not isn't important. You have to get in the habit of being yourself.

I test a lot of theories in elevators. Sometimes I'll say hello and odd an honorific in my greeting or departure. I watch their reaction while doing so. Men respond favorably to respect. Whether you're his type or not. Women have a similar affinity with kindness.

~bella

Absolutely and that's what it's and should be .
You have just described what it means to be a nice fellow who's ready to meer a potential partner and I hope to meet someone like you soon. LoL.
Showing care or concern or friendliness towards people and their achievement is a good way to catch their heart weather they appreciate it or not .
This is a good exposure and thanks for your insight .
A nice day awaits you

 

[aNewMan]

A lot of younger guys have been taught mostly from social pressure that cold approaching women isn’t a good thing to do so don’t take it personal.