I feel so lonely

[wondering star]

I became a Christian in 2002 and after about 18 months I slipped away from God again. Last week I renewed my relationship with God but I feel so lonely. I know I have God and should not feel lonely but I have noone to talk to.

I have been to Church 3 times, once last week and twice on Sunday past. I met a woman I used to work with a number of years ago while walking in and we have sat together at all 3 services I have been to.

The Pastor is really nice, the other member of Church are friendly. At end of servvice they have refreshments but I did not stay, in fact I was first out the door. I really wish now I had stayed and it seems so long until next Sunday.

I find it hard to meet new people and believe it or not I do not know any other Christians, I think this may have been what happened last time, when things got tough I had noone to talk to about it

do not even know why I am posting this, just to ask I suppose do we need fellowship with other Christians to keep our faith alive?

 

[wpage]

Take it to the Lord in prayer!

Read your Bible to improve your relation with God as well.

Blessings

 

[wondering star]

Take it to the Lord in prayer!

Read your Bible to improve your relation with God as well.

Blessings

thank you for reply, yes I have been praying and reading.

 

[RandoMWoN]

If you need someone to talk to, send me a message. I'm always willing to share what I know, and what I've experienced in life and anything I know about God. I do know what it feels like to feel alone sometimes. No one should ever feel like that!

If you're having trouble meeting people, this might be hard, but volunteer to help out with something in the church. Start off small and work your way up. You'll end up meeting/talking with people whether you like it or not. I find meeting people through mutual activities to be the easiest. Not only that you'll feel good about it after for helping, and you'll be doing good things!

 

[paul1149]

Hi Wondering Star,

The Lord designed His Body so that we need one another in order to experience the fullness of His presence, with all its attributes, such as wisdom and joy. There are seasons when we find ourselves alone, but the Christian’s normal state is to be in fellowship. So it's great that you're reaching out and satisfying this God-given need.

One thing that may help a whole lot is to find a home group to go to. This is where people can relate informally and really get to know each other. Prayer, counseling, support can all take place in a natural way.

No matter what we do, though, there will be times of loneliness. Sometimes it's ok to have a good cry and get it out. Other times we need to tell our soul to praise the Lord for who He is. And one of the greatest cures for loneliness is to help someone else who is in need (Acts 20.35).

 

[HazelWings]

Wondering, I don't have any words of wisdom other than to let you know I'm in a similar situation. I have started attending a new church the past 4 Sundays where I knew NO ONE. I've just started making contacts, and I know that with time these people won't be strangers to me anymore. Just wanted to offer hugs and words of encouragement to you

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

God is still there with you wondering, He loves you and will never forsake you no matter how lonely the world may seem. God bless from your brother in Christ!

 

[singpeace]

Father God, help Wandering Star turn to You as her source of strength when she feels so alone. Remind her of Christ's loneliness in Gethsemane and on the cross. And though His loneliness was far greater than what we feel; still, hers is difficult to bear just now.
Thank You for being so accessible and understanding. Help Wandering Star to overcome her isolation and to reach out to others once again. Bring others to her that will reach out to her in genuine love, kindness, patience, and without judgment. Help her to trust again. In Christ’s name I pray. Amen.

Hear my prayer, O Lord; let my cry for help come to you. Do not hide your face from me when I am in distress. Turn your ear to me; When I call, answer me quickly. Psalm 102:1-2 (NIV)

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of Compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. II Corinthians 1:3-4 (NIV)

 

[wondering star]

thank you everyone for your replies.

I have the number of someone at Church, well have 2 numbers one being the Pastor as he gave me it first time we met. I think the Church has a midweek service, I may call and check and go along. I did attend it many years ago and is a smaller group so may be an opportunityto get to know people.

thanks again

 

[TheGuide]

You are not alone in how you feel. I would go to church Sunday after Sunday only to leave and feel more alone than when I got there. That's because church services aren't condusive to socializing. And refreshments afterwards isn't always productive, because you're still at church. People have going home (or elsewhere) on their minds. However, if a few people invite you to join them at a restaurant or coffee shop after church, go and enjoy yourself. Enjoyment dampens the loneliness.

 

[heron]

I think the Church has a midweek service, I may call and check and go along. I did attend it many years ago and is a smaller group so may be an opportunityto get to know people.

Yes, don't be afraid to call the church about times. Churches expect people to feel welcome making use of different activities, but sometimes forget to tell new people that they're welcome to come.

That's because church services aren't condusive to socializing

So true.

I like to volunteer even more than I like home groups. Everyone works on a goal together, and the focus is on the goal instead of on social dynamics.

 

[throughchristimchanged]

I became a Christian in 2002 and after about 18 months I slipped away from God again. Last week I renewed my relationship with God but I feel so lonely. I know I have God and should not feel lonely but I have noone to talk to.

I have been to Church 3 times, once last week and twice on Sunday past. I met a woman I used to work with a number of years ago while walking in and we have sat together at all 3 services I have been to.

The Pastor is really nice, the other member of Church are friendly. At end of servvice they have refreshments but I did not stay, in fact I was first out the door. I really wish now I had stayed and it seems so long until next Sunday.

I find it hard to meet new people and believe it or not I do not know any other Christians, I think this may have been what happened last time, when things got tough I had noone to talk to about it

do not even know why I am posting this, just to ask I suppose do we need fellowship with other Christians to keep our faith alive?

it sounds like you are well on your way, remember love is patient, yes we must always fellowship

 

[ToBeBlessed]

thank you everyone for your replies.

I have the number of someone at Church, well have 2 numbers one being the Pastor as he gave me it first time we met. I think the Church has a midweek service, I may call and check and go along. I did attend it many years ago and is a smaller group so may be an opportunityto get to know people.

thanks again

Wonderful! I am so glad that you are thinking about how to get plugged in to your church!

This is a good forum to establish relationships with other children of God. I am so happy for you that you have reestablished your relationship with Christ.

If you like music, you may consider listening to some Christian music. There is a lot of Youtube videos and songs out there. Praise through music helps me to keep my mind focused on what's above and not what is happening around me.

 

[gc612]

You are certainly not alone in how you feel. I have suffered with the very same thing you are going through. I find it very hard to take the first step when it comes to talking to people I don't know. I also have suffered with depression and anxiety all of my life. I went through finding another church because I felt like the people in my church were not very forthcoming with the welcome mat. And although some of it may be true I realized it is about my walk with the Lord. We all have a very different walk with Christ. I lost a very dear friend this past summer from church. He would always tell me to mingle. I would tell him it is not easy for me to just go up to someone and get in their face. However, it was very easy for him. God created us all differently. But what we all have to realize is by us taking that first step is what Jesus did for us by coming to give his life for the lost. It is often very hard to take the first step. But just remember He will never leave us. I will pray for you. I hope this has helped you. Please fell free to call on me anytime.
Your Sister In Christ,
Debbie

 

[Emmy]

Dear wondering star. I wish I could just wave a magic wand, and have all the company I want. Like you, I feel lonely at times. Jesus gave us good advice in
Matthew 22: 35-40: "The first Commandment is: Love God with all our hearts,
with all our souls, and with all our minds. The second is like it: Love our neighbour as we love ourselves." Jesus points out this great fact: " On these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." Love is a Christian`s
strong weapon, with love we can overcome all things, even loneliness. Find a group which you can join, the church or any library should be able to help you find a group you might want to join.
The Bible tells us: " Repent and be Born Again," give up all our selfish wishes and wants, start loving and caring. The Holy Spirit will help and guide you,
and Jesus our Saviour will lead you, also: JESUS IS THE WAY.
In Matthew 7: 7-10: we are told: " ask and you shall receive," ask God for
help to find some company, or something you wish to do. There are many lonely people, dear wondering star. I say this with love. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.