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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.
 

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I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.
We live with our mistakes and evils - thats what makes us remember them and not to repeat them.

Seeing their consequences motivates us to do good, next time.

It will emotionally fade in time, though.
 
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If you are not directly involved in the life of the one whom you made wrong, you can pray for him. If you are, you can try to limit/fix what you caused (not possible, frequently - depends on the nature of the wrongdoing, some kinds are easily fixable, some are not).
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

Probably best you aren't saying exactly what happened. Certain topics are off-limits here.
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.
You are concerned about your sin so repent and ask God to forgive you. He is right and just to do so and He will. Guilt is the result of satan who is the accuser constantly reminding you in his efforts to keep you from having a relationship with God. Order satan out of your life and out of your mind in the name of Jesus.
 
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I committed a sin. By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.) I got what I wanted out of it. I have been convicted because of this sin. I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened. I am not sure what to do. I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was. I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.
Hello Leah, first off, there is no need to give us the details of what you did.

I'm trying to understand something that you said above (see the parts of your copied post that I placed in bold type just above). For clarity's sake, what do you mean by being "thrilled with the consequences" in this case? Thanks!

That said, if you are contrite/penitent, there is no reason to confess your sins to God more than once, because He promises to forgive us and cleanse us of them as soon as we do .. e.g. 1 John 1:9.

The difficult part (especially when the sin that we commit is a grave one) is believing that we have been forgiven when it doesn't FEEL like we have been! This is why we must train ourselves to believe/trust God/His word while, at the same time, REFUSING to trust our feelings (whenever our feelings contradict His word/His great promises to us, that is). I know how hard this can be, ~especially~ when we have our common enemy trying to convince us to believe our feelings instead of God, but he'll move on when we resist him, just like the Bible promises us that he will .. e.g. James 4:7 :amen:

Also (on a more positive note :)), you will please and honor God whenever you choose to believe/trust Him, instead of Satan and your feelings.

God bless you!!

--David
p.s. - here is one final thought, since you caused your friend to sin, did you apologize and ask him/her to forgive you? If not, perhaps that's something that also needs to be done before you can move on? (especially if you know that God is leading you to do so, of course)
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

I think I already know what it is. You confessed your sin so now just go on with your life. Feeling guilty will not accomplish anything good.
 
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Feeling guilty is useful and needed. Its called having a conscience. Its what makes us to change and to remember what we did wrong.

Not sure why so many American Christians claim (not just here in this thread) that feeling guilty is bad. Perhaps something cultural?

Christian life is not supposed to be "do wrong, ask for forgiveness, forget". You need time to naturally process what you did wrong and to learn from it.
 
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Hello @myst33, I agree with you that "feeling guilty is useful and needed", whenever we truly have something that we should be feeling guilty about, that is!

The problem that I (and many other believers) sometimes have is our failure to always believe/trust God by immediately taking Him at His word (concerning the forgiveness and cleansing of our confessed sins .. 1 John 1:9), particularly when we do not ~feel~ forgiven in the moment.

Satan wins, at least temporarily, whenever we fail to do so, because we end up wallowing in misery and guilt over our sins (sins which have already been confessed to and forgiven by God) instead of getting up and getting back into the battle, back to our walks before Him and thereby, to the business of our sanctification (which God clearly wants us to be involved in with Him, yes .. e.g. Philippians 2:12-13).

God bless you!!

--David
 
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Hello @myst33, I agree with you that "feeling guilty is useful and needed", whenever we truly have something that we should be feeling guilty about, that is!

The problem that I (and many other believers) sometimes have is our failure to always believe/trust God by immediately taking Him at His word (concerning the forgiveness and cleansing of our confessed sins .. 1 John 1:9), particularly when we do not ~feel~ forgiven in the moment.

Satan wins, at least temporarily, whenever we fail to do so, because we end up wallowing in misery and guilt over our sins (sins which have already been confessed to and forgiven by God) instead of getting up and getting back into the battle, back to our walks before Him and thereby, to the business of our sanctification (which God clearly wants us to be involved in with Him, yes .. e.g. Philippians 2:12-13).

God bless you!!

--David
Hi, I probably understand what you want to say, but I do not see "being forgiven" and "being without a guilt" to be the same thing.

Indeed, everything needs to be in moderation. Feeling guilty in some excessive, years-long manner can lead to depression or other mental disorders, when its not balanced with other things.
 
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Feeling guilty is useful and needed. Its called having a conscience. Its what makes us to change and to remember what we did wrong.

Not sure why so many American Christians claim (not just here in this thread) that feeling guilty is bad. Perhaps something cultural?

Christian life is not supposed to be "do wrong, ask for forgiveness, forget". You need time to naturally process what you did wrong and to learn from it.

True, I just mean it shouldn't turn into an obsession that goes on for months and months. It's okay to feel bad about it, process it then eventually accept that you did it, but then you have to move on.
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

The Slow Drift into Darkness.
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

Thank the Lord He is there, extremely patience with us and willing to pick us up when we fall and to begin again. AMEN!
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

One step at a time.

Turn to God with all your heart.

1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Confess to God alone and make sure you are a born again child of God before worrying about anyone else. Then share the Gospel you actually have experienced with others as God leads you.

Feed your mind on things above - turn away from fiction and worldly entertainment. Accept Christ as your savior.

Read this free online book -

 
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Feeling guilty is useful and needed. Its called having a conscience. Its what makes us to change and to remember what we did wrong.

Not sure why so many American Christians claim (not just here in this thread) that feeling guilty is bad. Perhaps something cultural?

Feeling guilty is what leads to repentance and forgiveness.
 
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I committed a sin.

By doing so, I caused another to sin. (This person was tempted far more strongly than me.)

I got what I wanted out of it.

I have been convicted because of this sin.

I have confessed this sin to Him one thousand times but I am still thrilled with the consequences of what happened.

I am not sure what to do.

I have been told by others that what I did was not really sinful but it was.

I am shy on details because it is embarrassing.

When you understand that you have sinned against God, the only proper response is sorrow—to have a broken spirit and a contrite heart. It brings one to repentance and changing of the heart ... and this is a lifelong process.

After asking for forgiveness, receive it and just humbly walk with Him, when you stumble He will pick you up and resume walking with you throughout your lifetime ... even when you stumble.
 
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