I don't want to be alone

[mkdrive2]

I miss having friends and loved ones.

I don't want to live alone. I want to live with my parents in a big apartment. But my parents live in a country with 8 hours time difference.

Maybe living with my brother would also be kind of nice, but he lives in a far-away city (about 8 hours train ride), and we both have tiny apartments, so sleeping over is a problem. Not that my brother would want to visit me, anyway. I am the one who always needs to take the initiative with him. He does not really care about our relationship. That is why I gave up.

I would like to visit a friend's house. It has been so long since the last time I did so. Has it been about 20 years?

I even want to adopt a child to escape living alone, but that would probably be very irresponsible of me, and no one would allow that.

I would like to have a family of my own.

I would like to be like other people. But I cannot.

 

[Michie]

I miss having friends and loved ones.

I don't want to live alone. I want to live with my parents in a big apartment. But my parents live in a country with 8 hours time difference.

Maybe living with my brother would also be kind of nice, but he lives in a far-away city (about 8 hours train ride), and we both have tiny apartments, so sleeping over is a problem. Not that my brother would want to visit me, anyway. I am the one who always needs to take the initiative with him. He does not really care about our relationship. That is why I gave up.

I would like to visit a friend's house. It has been so long since the last time I did so. Has it been about 20 years?

I even want to adopt a child to escape living alone, but that would probably be very irresponsible of me, and no one would allow that.

I would like to have a family of my own.

I would like to be like other people. But I cannot.

Why can’t you be like other people?

 

[Hieronymus]

I want to say something nice and some give good advise, but i can only say: I hope you will feel less lonely in the future.

 

[mkdrive2]

Why can’t you be like other people?

I meant that I lack the ability to befriend people. I never get close to people. We always stay strangers.

 

[GospelS]

Hello @mkdrive2 Welcome to CF family and friends.

Your situation is understandable. With the things happening around the world, I believe everyone is going through a similar phase. We are here trying to encourage and strengthen each other.

Maybe someone around you is feeling the same and in need of a friend. Would you be able to visit your nearest neighbor and make some new friends where you live?

There are many forums here that you can explore and participate in (if you are interested). Also, i think this is the best opportunity to spend some quality time meditating the scripture and in worship and prayer.

 

[Michie]

I meant that I lack the ability to befriend people. I never get close to people. We always stay strangers.

Well it takes effort to have friends and even make acquaintances. You just have to put yourself out there in situations that you are interested in to meet likeminded people. But it takes some time to cultivate friendships. It does not happen overnight. Hang in there. No need to throw in the towel.

 

[Ronit]

I meant that I lack the ability to befriend people. I never get close to people. We always stay strangers.

So you are an introvert?
I am too and it takes work to get out of your proverbial box. I truly understand. You have to take the first step. Always pray first and then if God gives you the Go Ahead. Do it!
Get deep into God's Word and Jesus will show you what to do.
Believe me I truly understand. I come from a family of introverts

 

[Michie]

I have introvert tendencies as well. But I always wondered about those that pretty much straight up introverts... do they care about the lack of human contact?

 

[mkdrive2]

Well it takes effort to have friends and even make acquaintances.

There are things in this world where effort alone is not enough.

 

[Michie]

There are things in this world where effort alone is not enough.

Well you cannot have that defeatist attitude and want things to change. I realize you may be depressed but if you are carrying that attitude with you, people will sense it. You may be putting up walls you may not realize you are reflecting to others which could be causing the problem.

 

[mkdrive2]

Well you cannot have that defeatist attitude and want things to change. I realize you may be depressed but if you are carrying g that attitude with you, people will sense it.

It is not an attitude. It is a fact. People do not stay away from me because of some attitude I have.

Also, I am not an introvert.

 

[Michie]

It is not an attitude. It is a fact. People do not stay away from me because of some attitude I have.

Also, I am not an introvert.

I did not say you were.

 

[mkdrive2]

Since I opened a thread, I guess results are important. Of course, the most effective way is to think that I have the ability to change things. That things are not the way I want, because I did things the wrong way.

But I am not perfect. I cannot stay motivated despite constant failure. I cannot stay optimistic.

It is true that complaining does not help.

But I am convinced that I cannot get what I want.

 

[mkdrive2]

I did not say you were.

I was not exactly saying that to you specifically, but to everyone.

 

[Michie]

I was not exactly saying that to you specifically, but to everyone.

I’m not sure how to advice you any differently than I have. Good luck.

 

[mkdrive2]

I don't know what is the reason. Maybe I can change things. But I don't know how.

I just wanted to talk about my pain. I do not really expect things will change. I do not really expect people to help me get out of this mess.

 

[Michie]

I don't know what is the reason. Maybe I can change things. But I don't know how.

I just wanted to talk about my pain. I do not really expect things will change. I do not really expect people to help me get out of this mess.

Maybe consulting a life coach/therapist to help you? You have to open to others suggestions though.

 

[mkdrive2]

Maybe consulting a life coach/therapist to help you? You have to open to others suggestions though.

Haha, I always get that suggestion. And I try to get a therapist, but something always comes up, and I am unable to do therapy. Yes, maybe I will try to find one again.

Good night...

 

[Michie]

Haha, I always get that suggestion. And I try to get a therapist, but something always comes up, and I am unable to do therapy. Yes, maybe I will try to find one again.

Good night...

Sweet dreams. Prayers for you.

 

[Stormy]

Op... I am sorry that you are in pain. I know loneliness can cause great pain. I had a family and they grew and found families of their own. I still see them but feel like an outsider. It's not the same as when I was the mommy and the center of their universe. Now I've gone to the dogs. Lol my two mutts keep me company. Plus I have my memories.
I hope and pray that one day you will have a family of your own .