I don't know what to think. I just can't trust anyone!

[ninalabelle007]

As some of you know, I just got myself an apartment. I haven't had my own place since my dad passed away 4 years ago. I mainly stayed by mom and granny's side to take care of them. I had stopped working(well, I had a bad employer who didn't pay me for 5 weeks and loved psychological and verbal abuse). Anyway, I've been taking care of mom and granny to a point that I'm physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I rarely get help at the house despite having my sister in law, and older bro living with me. Mom has back problem and often she can do things but just doesn't. I asked for help, discussed it and everyone keeps having great excuses as to why they can't do anything.

So I decided to get my own apartment. I have another older sibling who is living in his own apartment. He encouraged me to do so. He seemed to be helpful. He told me that he would pay the first month of rent in exchange I would help him out renew his Driver's license( since he was born in another province..the one I'm moving to.) Well, he paid the rent. This friday,He told me to help him out by giving mom 600$,because he's limited to taking out a certain amount of money per week.Well I got a payday loan and gave mom the money expecting to be paid back on sunday or monday. Today , he tells me thanks, but I cant refund you cause I don't have any money.So now, I have no money to get a bus pass, i.e no way to get to work. I'm now in a position where I might be able to cover August's rent..but if i move out I will have to do without food.

In other words i got screwed. See this is why I trust no one. Because I always get screwed. Why is it some folks go in life with people they can trust and receive help from other and other people don't!I'm gonna need a miracle to make it through pass july 1st. Please pray for me.

 

[LilLamb219]

Can you talk to your landlord and get out the lease? You weren't prepared to live on your own yet because if you had been, you would have had 6 months' worth of expenses all saved up. That's what you need to really survive because there is always a "what if" in events that happen in our lives and we need to be prepared.

I hope this doesn't sound harsh because I am very sorry that you relied on someone else to help you out. Now you've learned an important lesson though...that you need to depend on yourself.

Do you have foodstamps where you live? Or any type of program to help get you food or money? A food bank?

 

[butterflyring09]

As some of you know, I just got myself an apartment. I haven't had my own place since my dad passed away 4 years ago. I mainly stayed by mom and granny's side to take care of them. I had stopped working(well, I had a bad employer who didn't pay me for 5 weeks and loved psychological and verbal abuse). Anyway, I've been taking care of mom and granny to a point that I'm physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I rarely get help at the house despite having my sister in law, and older bro living with me. Mom has back problem and often she can do things but just doesn't. I asked for help, discussed it and everyone keeps having great excuses as to why they can't do anything.

So I decided to get my own apartment. I have another older sibling who is living in his own apartment. He encouraged me to do so. He seemed to be helpful. He told me that he would pay the first month of rent in exchange I would help him out renew his Driver's license( since he was born in another province..the one I'm moving to.) Well, he paid the rent. This friday,He told me to help him out by giving mom 600$,because he's limited to taking out a certain amount of money per week.Well I got a payday loan and gave mom the money expecting to be paid back on sunday or monday. Today , he tells me thanks, but I cant refund you cause I don't have any money.So now, I have no money to get a bus pass, i.e no way to get to work. I'm now in a position where I might be able to cover August's rent..but if i move out I will have to do without food.

In other words i got screwed. See this is why I trust no one. Because I always get screwed. Why is it some folks go in life with people they can trust and receive help from other and other people don't!I'm gonna need a miracle to make it through pass july 1st. Please pray for me.

Ma'am, i admonish you to watch your confession of your life. You are only recieving into manifestation what you EXPECT of life. Change your expectation and expect for GOD to come through.

Pray.

Prayer reminds you that there is someone BIGGER than you who can take care of all of your needs if you ONLY ASK HIM.

 

[butterflyring09]

As some of you know, I just got myself an apartment. I haven't had my own place since my dad passed away 4 years ago. I mainly stayed by mom and granny's side to take care of them. I had stopped working(well, I had a bad employer who didn't pay me for 5 weeks and loved psychological and verbal abuse). Anyway, I've been taking care of mom and granny to a point that I'm physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I rarely get help at the house despite having my sister in law, and older bro living with me. Mom has back problem and often she can do things but just doesn't. I asked for help, discussed it and everyone keeps having great excuses as to why they can't do anything.

So I decided to get my own apartment. I have another older sibling who is living in his own apartment. He encouraged me to do so. He seemed to be helpful. He told me that he would pay the first month of rent in exchange I would help him out renew his Driver's license( since he was born in another province..the one I'm moving to.) Well, he paid the rent. This friday,He told me to help him out by giving mom 600$,because he's limited to taking out a certain amount of money per week.Well I got a payday loan and gave mom the money expecting to be paid back on sunday or monday. Today , he tells me thanks, but I cant refund you cause I don't have any money.So now, I have no money to get a bus pass, i.e no way to get to work. I'm now in a position where I might be able to cover August's rent..but if i move out I will have to do without food.

In other words i got screwed. See this is why I trust no one. Because I always get screwed. Why is it some folks go in life with people they can trust and receive help from other and other people don't!I'm gonna need a miracle to make it through pass july 1st. Please pray for me.

Ma'am, i admonish you to watch your confession of your life. You are only recieving into manifestation what you EXPECT of life. Change your expectation and expect for GOD to come through.

Pray.

Prayer reminds you that there is someone BIGGER than you who can take care of all of your needs if you ONLY ASK HIM.

Seek his wisdom day and night constantly. Proverbs.

I will pray for you. Renew your mind and you WILL come through. Because the only one who can hold him/herself from the blessings of God is YOU. And no one else. ....And that is the promise of God. Have faith in Him and Pray.

 

[glass_heart]

Looking after family members is very hard on anyone, and I don't blame you for wanting to reach out on your own. Do you have friends or colleagues that you could ask for a hand? Not money, but food. I've bought a number of things for my friend when he was made redundant, and I didn't mind a bit because everyone bought him a little something. Perhaps you could call your employer and get a little advice on how to get to work; maybe you could get one of your siblings to give you a lift, seen as it's there fault you are in difficulty.

You try to treat people the way you would wish to be treated, you say you don't trust but you must do to hand over $600 on faith in your family. There is nothing wrong with that- they are the ones doing wrong. Next time they ask for a favour, politely inform them that you can't afford it and don't give in; it's time they learned to cope on their own. My dad has a bad back, but still manages to hold down a full time job; my nan has arthritis in both legs and arms- she bakes constantly and goes away on holiday regularly. Don't be so hard on yourself, and try not to be so cynical I'm sure you can find a way to get through; redirect your faith towards the one who will never let you down, Jesus Christ. Remember, with the help of God you will prevail.

I agree with everyone else's comments, and I will pray for guidance for you.

 

[heron]

politely inform them that you can't afford it

Really, you couldn't. It was a continuation of the old problem. I'm glad that you were able to pull everything together so quickly. Even though it's good to have the 6 months' money ahead, I understand that this sort of drain could keep that from ever happening.

There are restaurants that need people for short shifts, like weekend dinners, and meals are sometimes included in the pay. Party houses hire people to work scattered banquets and weddings. (Wait - weren't you working two jobs already? Sorry.)

Food banks, while volunteer agencies, will sometimes give the workers leftovers at the end of the day. They will also deliver food to you if you call them. And will probably deliver to your relatives for a while. (Check blue pages of phone book.)

If you're desperate for rent money, ask your landlord if there are jobs you could do for them that could apply toward rent. It's not the first place you should go, because you want to appear reliable, but worth trying.

 

[heron]

Bus pass... check the web site of your bus company. They might have special programs for people who need help with transportation.

Look for a used bike -- it's garage sale time, and bikes are often sold for $15-25.

 

[toolite]

As some of you know, I just got myself an apartment. I haven't had my own place since my dad passed away 4 years ago. I mainly stayed by mom and granny's side to take care of them. I had stopped working(well, I had a bad employer who didn't pay me for 5 weeks and loved psychological and verbal abuse). Anyway, I've been taking care of mom and granny to a point that I'm physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I rarely get help at the house despite having my sister in law, and older bro living with me. Mom has back problem and often she can do things but just doesn't. I asked for help, discussed it and everyone keeps having great excuses as to why they can't do anything.

So I decided to get my own apartment. I have another older sibling who is living in his own apartment. He encouraged me to do so. He seemed to be helpful. He told me that he would pay the first month of rent in exchange I would help him out renew his Driver's license( since he was born in another province..the one I'm moving to.) Well, he paid the rent. This friday,He told me to help him out by giving mom 600$,because he's limited to taking out a certain amount of money per week.Well I got a payday loan and gave mom the money expecting to be paid back on sunday or monday. Today , he tells me thanks, but I cant refund you cause I don't have any money.So now, I have no money to get a bus pass, i.e no way to get to work. I'm now in a position where I might be able to cover August's rent..but if i move out I will have to do without food.

In other words i got screwed. See this is why I trust no one. Because I always get screwed. Why is it some folks go in life with people they can trust and receive help from other and other people don't!I'm gonna need a miracle to make it through pass july 1st. Please pray for me.

You are probably a very compassionate person and the enemy wants to break you of that. If the enemy can use people to hurt your feelings then he maybe able to convince you of not trusting or caring about people. If the enemy will go to those lengths then I am confident in saying that there is a spiritual gift in you that the enemy doesn't want you to use or level the enemy doesn't want you to reach because when you do you will be unstoppable. Stay Blessed!

All The Glory Belongs To God!

 

[iamjcs]

Next time ask God, before you take action.
He will NOT guide you wrong.

God is still with you to help you out of this is you will but ask for His divine guidance & intervention.

Praying for you & your whole family.

 

[wonderwaleye]

As some of you know, I just got myself an apartment. I haven't had my own place since my dad passed away 4 years ago. I mainly stayed by mom and granny's side to take care of them. I had stopped working(well, I had a bad employer who didn't pay me for 5 weeks and loved psychological and verbal abuse). Anyway, I've been taking care of mom and granny to a point that I'm physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted. I rarely get help at the house despite having my sister in law, and older bro living with me. Mom has back problem and often she can do things but just doesn't. I asked for help, discussed it and everyone keeps having great excuses as to why they can't do anything.

So I decided to get my own apartment. I have another older sibling who is living in his own apartment. He encouraged me to do so. He seemed to be helpful. He told me that he would pay the first month of rent in exchange I would help him out renew his Driver's license( since he was born in another province..the one I'm moving to.) Well, he paid the rent. This friday,He told me to help him out by giving mom 600$,because he's limited to taking out a certain amount of money per week.Well I got a payday loan and gave mom the money expecting to be paid back on sunday or monday. Today , he tells me thanks, but I cant refund you cause I don't have any money.So now, I have no money to get a bus pass, i.e no way to get to work. I'm now in a position where I might be able to cover August's rent..but if i move out I will have to do without food.

In other words i got screwed. See this is why I trust no one. Because I always get screwed. Why is it some folks go in life with people they can trust and receive help from other and other people don't!I'm gonna need a miracle to make it through pass july 1st. Please pray for me.

GOD'S WORD provides many verses that promise BLESSINGS on those that help out the poor. So I have no doubt GOD will care for you.



But you must UNDERSTAND that you cannot go beyond your means to help others or you place yourself in a position whereby you can't even help yourself. GOD does not expect you to do this. In fact GOD tells us to use both WISDOM and UNDERSTANDING in our actions. GOD'S WORD gives you a warning about lending:







Sirach
Chapter 29
4 Many a man who asks for a loan adds to the burdens of those who help him;


5 When he borrows, he kisses the lender's hand and speaks with respect of his creditor's wealth; But when payment is due he disappoints him and says he is helpless to meet the claim.


6 If the lender is able to recover barely half, he considers this an achievement; If not, he is cheated of his wealth and acquires an enemy at no extra charge; With curses and insults the borrower pays him back, with abuse instead of honor.



7 Many refuse to lend, not out of meanness, but from fear of being cheated.


So the best way to lend money to the poor is do it within your means.


LOVE


steven