I can't get past being circumcised

[HalfoffSale]

I would say you're handicapped, though. Not by your circumcision, which really isn't as big a problem as you're making it, but rather by your obsession about it. Stop banging your head against the wall, it'll feel better when you stop.

I really wish I could, but it's not as easy as just telling myself to stop.

Many other people have things done to their bodies which werent there or were there when they were born.

Lets see...one of our kids had their frenulum under the tongue snipped...should I have left that alone and left him with a speech impediment?
Some women get breast reductions. Should they just have to suffer through back pain due to the size of their breasts because God made them what they are?
Some people are born with 6 toes or fingers and in many cases that extra digit is cut off.
Some people get moles removed (could be cancerous)...
or skin tags...
Some are born with both male and female parts...the physicians usually check the hormones to see what that person has more of and then removes say the penis if the person has more female hormones.
Some people will have a piece of their bowel cut out and wear a bag...could you imagine going to this pool your going to with an ostomy bag? I know a few that have one or have had a temp ostomy and guess what...life goes on!

All of those are to fix actually actuated issues, and done primarily to adults or near adults.

You're a woman, let's use your breast reduction example. Let's say that a girls parents give her a breast reduction surgery as an infant just in case she ends up with ones too large for her frame. It'll likely decrease the sensitivity of her nipples, but at least when she grows up and finds she has normal sized breasts like the majority of people (and now some scars on them) she'll know that had she been one of the vast minority that needed reduction she would have avoided a couple weeks worth of mild pain.

Maybe we should start doing that to all newborn girls. Would you have any objections?

Not everyone will look the same or have the same parts in life...as the above said...get over it...and as the poster said prior to that...lots of us women prefer it circ'd. Though we dont marry the person we do because they have been circ'd or not circ'd. We really could care aless

With all due respect, I really don't care what women prefer. It's what I prefer. If "men prefer it" was used as a defense for female circumcision you'd be lynched in the streets. I find it just as insulting that you think it matters to me if women prefer unwilling body modification or not.

 

[mjmcmillan]

First, can you do anything about it? No.

Second, does it in any meaningful way stop you from fulfilling your manly duties? No.

Third-- if you're determined to make yourself unhappy because of something you can do nothing about, and that doesn't handicap you in a meaningful way-- and I give witness here that Jesus was circumcised as a baby according to the Law, so religion can be taken off the table-- is there anything at all the rest of us can do about this? No.

Absolutely anything can make some people happy,and absolutely nothing can make others happy. Think about it.

 

[Recon]

I simply cannot believe this conversation is happening.

Seriously... Jesus - God in the flesh - was circumcised, and He never whined about it. Get over it.

Not to be harsh, but this is ridiculous. I'm circumcised, and I think mine looks quite nice. I've seen photos of penises which are not circumcised and frankly I think they look gross. You're not missing out on anything. Personally I'd be rather uncomfortable with a foreskin, and having to deal with the hygiene issues that come with it.

Being circumcised is not your problem. OCD is. Jesus can help with that. Get on your knees and ask for His peace.

 

[HalfoffSale]

It's now been half a year since I made this topic, and I figure it's time for an update.

I've seen a psychologist for this, but not much changed. Her subfield is sexual health, but most of what she tells me are things I already know. I was hoping it would work, but it hasn't so far changed very much.

I'm also trying the TLC Tugger restoration device, but it's a very slow process so I haven't seen any changes yet. I'm still terrified it will turn out looking unnatural, and not be "close enough" to the real thing.

But it's still handicapping my life. Tonight I was at a concert, but halfway through an enjoyable show unprovoked I began to dwell like usual, and it ruined the rest of my evening. This still happens fairly regularly to me, and I'm still not sure how to get it to stop.

 

[SaraJarvis]

You shouldn't let it affect you so much. Easier said than done, of course. I have a friend who is 30 - he was circumcised at 21 (yes, I know it means he had a choice but hear me out), and he hasn't experienced ANY change in sensitivity. No one has ever said anything to him about it, and it hasn't once affected any of his sexual experiences. In fact, he says he prefers it this way - it makes him feel cleaner and things are more accessible sexually. Women are more comfortable with it because it feels cleaner to them.

Stop worrying and try to enjoy life - you're only on this earth for a short period of time, so make the most of it.

 

[Humble Pie]

Wear a willy warmer or condom. Problem solved.

 

[HalfoffSale]

You shouldn't let it affect you so much. Easier said than done, of course. I have a friend who is 30 - he was circumcised at 21 (yes, I know it means he had a choice but hear me out), and he hasn't experienced ANY change in sensitivity. No one has ever said anything to him about it, and it hasn't once affected any of his sexual experiences. In fact, he says he prefers it this way - it makes him feel cleaner and things are more accessible sexually. Women are more comfortable with it because it feels cleaner to them.

Stop worrying and try to enjoy life - you're only on this earth for a short period of time, so make the most of it.

It's strange. Some days it really bothers me feeling like I've lost out on some sensation, and other days I feel like it can't be that different. I've heard adults who had it done say both ways, though not making a (significant) difference seems to be the norm. Though I am 100% convinced masturbation is worse, and even the pro-circ people seem to agree there.

The thoughts don't seem to end there though. I still feel it's very ugly compared with intact men. I suppose it would be like someone with a large scar on their face. Sure it doesn't change anything but aesthetics, but people are usually very unhappy if it happens.

Most days I can deal with the sensitivity thing, because it's all I know, but I can't stop feeling deformed and violated.