I am a male virgin but I not sure If trust my self that I can stay that way. I have troblel masterbating to images of women and I still am trying to fight that off but I wonder if can stop my self from haveing sex before I get marreid, If I cant control this how can do I know I wont end up having sex before I am marreid?
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I cant control my self
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I suggest you end all acts of self pleasure immediately and never yield no matter how painful the desire is to do it. I also suggest you subit your sexual will to your lord, Christ Jesus and ask him to wash you free of this sinful behavior.
Sex is for procreation, to bring more Humans into this world. Uniting with a woman on a physical and spiritual level is a secondary goal and the main reason I believe sex should be reserved for marriage. Sex as pleasure is purely motivation for procreation to ensure the continuation of the Human race.
If you have sex, it should be to have a child or to unite with your wife. Don't ever have sex for fun, becuase that's not whut it's there for.
Think of sex like food. You eat for sustenance, not for fun. However, that does not mean you can't enjoy the food you eat.
Sex is for procreation, to bring more Humans into this world. Uniting with a woman on a physical and spiritual level is a secondary goal and the main reason I believe sex should be reserved for marriage. Sex as pleasure is purely motivation for procreation to ensure the continuation of the Human race.
If you have sex, it should be to have a child or to unite with your wife. Don't ever have sex for fun, becuase that's not whut it's there for.
Think of sex like food. You eat for sustenance, not for fun. However, that does not mean you can't enjoy the food you eat.
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Hi. I've suffered under, and worked through issues like yours.NoName12 said:
I managed to abstain from masturbation for a year and a half. That was my record, and I have no intention of trying to do better. I am very spiritual, but I am also a man of science and the fact is - the human body was designed for that sort of thing.
For instance did you know masturbation decreases the risk of prostate cancer? Or that it occurs in every species of animal, as well as insects?
I respect others decisions to not do that, but it doesn't make rational logical sense to me. I'm not saying you should do it all the time... that's no good either. But don't hate yourself when it does happen.
Also on the marriage side of things - my wife and I did not wait until we were married to have sex. A fact of which I am not ashamed because we waited until we were both ready in every sense (including spiritual) and it became for us a form of spiritual marriage.
Again not for everyone, but I'm just telling you so you can see that there are ways to still retain a christian mindset without bending yourself into knots no person was meant to.
I don't encourage sex before marriage but if it happens - make real sure that you love and respect that person and treat them as you would a wife. Otherwise you are just using them...
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Hey honestly i belive that you need to rid yourself of all things which tempt you masturbation is a big one even if it doesnt seem like it will affect you having sex it will and you will see it when it happens also i belive that you need to completly trust in God if you abstain from masturbation for the purposes to keep pure i beilve God will bless you and if you end up like the other guy says getting cancer it was supposed to happen and there is a reason also just becasue all animals do it mean nothing becasue we are not animals we were put here to rule over them not be like them animals do not really worry about who they have sex with is that what we should be like too? no dont get answers from the world around it will get you no where look to you bible no one is ever going to be perfect dont hate yourself for what happens Jesus died to save you of that but try all you can
this is a verse that helps me good bless [FONT="]Galatians 5:19 - 21[/FONT]
this is a verse that helps me good bless [FONT="]Galatians 5:19 - 21[/FONT]
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Hey Man, I am praying for you, just remember the words that Paul took comfort in "My grace is suffient for you". Please consider finding an accountability partner, one or several you can call on when you need him or them. Have them help you seek God with all your heart.
Again, I am praying for you. 1 Corinthians 16:13-14
Again, I am praying for you. 1 Corinthians 16:13-14
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