I can't ask for help

[keek]

I really need help. I have many problems, one in particular that seems to keep me up at night.

I can't ask anyone for help. My family is no help, I'm holding them up and together. I only have one close friend, who is in a worse place than me. I don't know what to do. My shoulders are tired of being cried on...and my arms are tired of giving hugs. I sorta want another living being besides my dog to see me cry, and be my (naturally weak self).

I pray everyday that I will be given the strength to keep on going..and I feel bad for saying its just not enough right now.

I don't know how to ask for help; even if I did I don't know where to go. Do you have any ideas(besides running away?!) Am I being selfish, or is it ok that I feel this way?

 

[icarusforde]

If you ever need to talk, and i do mean ever, you are always welcome to PM me, ok? Im here to talk about anything, even if you just want to have a rant at me, im fine with that.

Its fine to feel the way that you do - its nature, everyone has downtimes...

 

[Criada]

Sweetie, I'm so sorry you feel like this.
It is ok to ask for help, really it is. I suspect that some of the people who you help and support would be glad to offer you some support.
God is your rock... but sometimes you need someone who can hold you too.
And you are important! It sounds as though you are giving and giving and not taking time to look after yourself. Even if it's just half an hout to relax in a bath, go for a walk, do something that you enjoy.

If you want someone to talk to, please PM me any time.
I am praying for you

 

[Winter]

Goodness gracious - you are just like me! I'm the same way. I can't go to people and ask for help. In fact, its even hard for me to ask people to pray for me. I've made a few prayer requests here on CF and it killed me to ask people to pray for me. I always feel like I'm inconveniencing people ...

Seriously though, the reality is that its not selfish for you to walk away from those who are not thinking about your feelings when they are crying on your shoulder constantly. You are worn out. They are draining your energy. Take a breather. Don't answer the phone for awhile.

I can see you are a compassionate soul - always listening and trying to help others. That's a beautiful quality in a person. Another beautiful quality is the quiet and brave strength you put forth because you don't want to go to others with your problems. On the one hand its admirable, on the other it must make you feel so lonely ...

Come on over here friend - and you can talk to us. We'll lend you the ear you need.

You can PM too if you need to chat.

 

[One day at a time]

You are so young to have to hold your family together...I'm sorry that you are in that situation but what an encouragement to them you must be. I too, agree that you need some time for yourself. It's the emotional drain that is taking a toll on you. Oh I have so been there.
Is there not anyone at your church that could be helping you out. I know you hate to ask...but sometimes you just have to.
Just like the others above me have said...I too am here and can chat anytime you want. I'm at home always (except for drs. appt. and church) so I get on the computer a lot and can be here for you. Just pm me would love to "talk"!
Will be praying for you.