I'm actually quite pleased that you would entitle me a Pharisee...
It's a compliment to be known as someone who knows the law

, however I'm far from a Pharisee in the sense in which you've spoken. True, I am a sinner, this I will always admit; however, if you had known my life... you would know that I strictly do, to the best of my ability, what I preach. I know, if I was married and in your situation how difficult it would be to reconcile with the truth of the matter; but, knowing that I've heard and done so many other things which I was once caught away with that God would put it in my heart to simply obey. I've not belonged to a "church" community, at least not since I was a very young lad, nor have I studied under the tutilage of any human pastor or read theological books; I strictly believe in the scripture John 14:26 which states as follows:
26 But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name, he shall teach you all things, and bring all things to your remembrance, whatsoever I have said unto you.
so, as you can see, I'm quite glad that you would acknowledge the Holy Ghosts' teaching of me

There have been plenty of times, way back in my early walk in Christianity, that others thought that I should be taught in a church, or that I should read specific literature; I abstained from their teachings...
As Y'shua Maschiach said:
Matthew 16:6
6Then Jesus said unto them, Take heed and beware of the leaven of the Pharisees and of the Sadducees.
You asked, ealier, who are you to judge!? I, by the grace of God, am His son, King, Priest, Prince, and Friend; by faith, the Lord put it in me to carry on forward when my ankle was half broken: I carried about 50 pounds of weight on my shoulders for almost 20 hours without food, eating snow, and as far from my destination as I knew I was I knew that God would deliver me... by faith, hearing the Holy Ghost speak unto me I went again out into the wilderness of the Highway to preach unto some churches in the Eastern Area of Canada without money & scripture; by faith, I heard an Angel speak unto me and give me a new name. By faith, the Lord took me from assasination plots, kidnapping plots, and being poisoned. By faith I have done battle with various demonic forces and have won.
If all these things have happened to me and I still remain adament that even I am not saved until I endure to the end of my life, how then, can you say that by the Grace of God... you can disobey one of the very simply commandments he gave about divorce and marrige!?
Y'shua Maschiach said: If ye love me, keep my commandments(John 14:15)
And as our doctrine knows quite well... Y'shua Maschiach(Jesus Christ) is our Lord, our God.
Which, naturally, would apply to the first greatest commandment:
37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.
38 This is the first and great commandment.
You, by far, have not been the only one to disagree with me, nor to have skepticism about the doctrine of Christ...
I'll tell you of a dream I had, concerning an Angel and a book...
In my dream I saw an Angel, the Angel put his hands about the book but did not touch the book... the book was Red, trimmed with Gold... the Title of the Book was: I told you.
The Lord put it in me to know that this was about all of those people who would hear the word, and simply not obey... even I who had skepticism about whether or not I should have left my house to preach a specific message about the people and Israel... nevertheless I left and spoke what God told me to.
It is indeed by the Grace of God that we have faith towards the hope of salvation, but it's far from us to lead others towards disobeying the fundamental things Christ told us to do... and how to avoid bein' left behind. You once asked, "How can I lead others to Christ if I, myself, am not..." I don't quite recall the end portion of this sentence, so let's say, it was "...abiding in the works of God"? You often refer to the instances when David took another mans' wife, by murder, and how he only suffered the loss of a child; however was not told to leave his wife... I ask you then, whose husband was she when Uriah was dead!? Nobodies, she was released from the law... that David could not build the temple for God... build the temple for God!? Aren't you the temple of Christ(1 Corinthians 3:16-17)!? If these two instances were so similar, then by that statement... wouldn't you, as well, not be able to build your temple for God!? Not only that, but that you should lose a child for the sake of your sin!?
We both know that you don't want that to be the case, nor would I want that to be the case of myself in that instance. So, you see... these instances are not so similar at all... instead, it was the Lord whom through His covenant with David allowed him to remain King, and that he would have a child to be the heir of his throne.
From the beginning, however, the Lord God has always been... and as someone kindly pointed out the laws in Deutoronomy regarding marriage... written by Moses, Y'shua Maschiach had this to say:
Matthew 19:7-12
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them,
Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery:
and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it , let him receive it .
Moses suffered the people to get divorced, from the beginning it was that we're meant to be virgins until marriage; married until one of the two died.
Even the worldly doctrines know that the "church" sets a vow for marriage... to love and to hold, through sickness and health... till death do us part.
Grace and peace be upon you.