We just found out that my daughter is experiencing abuse in her marriage again. They are both christians and have tried counseling several times. It looked like it was going to work out for them. No real bad problems for eight months. And then the last three months have been very difficult. She finally had to separate because he was verbally and emotionally abusing her. She was also afraid it would escalate into another physical abuse situation........my husband and I have just found out alot of the details of what she has been experienced and are feeling so brokenhearted. Why, how can men behave like this? I've been reading about abuse and most likely he experienced abuse himself. This world is so difficult. My daughter truly loves him, but isn't sure she can take anymore hearbreaks. I am questioning where God is. He promises to make good from all the bad that happens. But my daughter has truly suffered and she already has chronic health and some depression problems. I am losing hope on how she can come out of this a whole healthy person. Abuse is so horrible. Why don't churches talk about it more. Why don't they include it in pre-marital counseling. Verbal and emotional abuse is rampant. Please pray for my daughter. Pray that my husband and I will know what we can and can't do for her. Pray that we will trust God. This is one of the most difficult things I have experienced.
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I am so down about my daughter's situation
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I am praying for your daughter.
I would be very upset if it was my daughther too!
I do not know how men can do that either.
I have not always been treated well by others. But that is no excuse to take your feeling out on your wife. He needs help.
She can be healed and made whole.
I am praying for this to happen.
I pray that God guides you in your dealings with her.
I am sure you will do what is best for your daughter.
I would be very upset if it was my daughther too!
I do not know how men can do that either.
I have not always been treated well by others. But that is no excuse to take your feeling out on your wife. He needs help.
She can be healed and made whole.
I am praying for this to happen.
I pray that God guides you in your dealings with her.
I am sure you will do what is best for your daughter.
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Dianna_Child of God
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I can't imagine what it is like to have this happening to your daughter. Oh I am praying. I pray there is a way out of this for her.
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I am praying, sweetie , for all of you.
Abuse is horrible and I can't imagine how it would feel to know someone you love has experienced it.
But it is possible to recover and live a happy life. The best thing you can do for your daughter is to be there, listen when she needs to talk, hold her when she needs to cry, and above all, assure her again and again that it isn't her fault.
God is with you, weeping with you, and he will be with her on the journey to recovery.
Abuse is horrible and I can't imagine how it would feel to know someone you love has experienced it.
But it is possible to recover and live a happy life. The best thing you can do for your daughter is to be there, listen when she needs to talk, hold her when she needs to cry, and above all, assure her again and again that it isn't her fault.
God is with you, weeping with you, and he will be with her on the journey to recovery.
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hope_is_last_to_die
what, where, who, when, whatever????
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Maycin, your SIL may say he's a Christian and attend Sunday worship and engage in other Christian activities.
However, in the privacy of his own home, where Christian eyes are not upon him, and where he thinks God cannot read his thoughts or hear his words or see his actions, he does not think or speak or act like a Christian or respond to the many Christian influences in his life including the one he's married to.
And how long has he repeatedly, consistently, habitually, and as a lifestyle been this way? A tree is known by its own fruit. (Luke 6:44), and obviously, your SIL is not a Christian, and your daughter is married to a unbeliever.
If she thinks she can make him into a Christian, then she's kidding herself. (1 Cor 7:16) The four of you (or six, if his parents are Christians) should sit down, and your daughter should give him this ultimatum: Either live as a Christian man in a Christian marriage or leave.
If the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. (1 Cor 7:15). As it is, she has left him, and rightly so. God does not intend for anyone to be someone's verbal, emotional or physical punching bag.
If he says he wants to stay, then he should admit to his sinful nature in front of the elders (or the entire church) and team up with an accountability partner, preferably an elder or deacon.
If you can find where in the Bible God promises to turn every bad into good, then please show me. Maybe if your daughter emerges from this as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove (Matt 10:16), then this is as good as it will get.
My sons and I were habitually abused by my male-hating wife, and I tell you honestly, it takes two people for abuse to happen: one to abuse, and the other to stand there and take it. Feminists may gripe about this; nonetheless, it is true.
However, in the privacy of his own home, where Christian eyes are not upon him, and where he thinks God cannot read his thoughts or hear his words or see his actions, he does not think or speak or act like a Christian or respond to the many Christian influences in his life including the one he's married to.
And how long has he repeatedly, consistently, habitually, and as a lifestyle been this way? A tree is known by its own fruit. (Luke 6:44), and obviously, your SIL is not a Christian, and your daughter is married to a unbeliever.
If she thinks she can make him into a Christian, then she's kidding herself. (1 Cor 7:16) The four of you (or six, if his parents are Christians) should sit down, and your daughter should give him this ultimatum: Either live as a Christian man in a Christian marriage or leave.
If the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. (1 Cor 7:15). As it is, she has left him, and rightly so. God does not intend for anyone to be someone's verbal, emotional or physical punching bag.
If he says he wants to stay, then he should admit to his sinful nature in front of the elders (or the entire church) and team up with an accountability partner, preferably an elder or deacon.
If you can find where in the Bible God promises to turn every bad into good, then please show me. Maybe if your daughter emerges from this as wise as a serpent and as innocent as a dove (Matt 10:16), then this is as good as it will get.
My sons and I were habitually abused by my male-hating wife, and I tell you honestly, it takes two people for abuse to happen: one to abuse, and the other to stand there and take it. Feminists may gripe about this; nonetheless, it is true.
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I'm sorry for the horror you are going through. It hurts so much more when it is your child who is going through traumatic times. God has promised to answer our prayers, He will deliver us from the evil one. I just pray that all spirits of satan get out of your daughter's life and you and your husband's. God will see you through. When my daughter was in the hospital having minor surgery and they almost killed her with their incompentence, I could not be with her very much. But God carried her in His arms, he sent christian people to her to pray for her. And she came through. It was so difficult for me living in another city and worrying about her. Be of good cheer! In God we are always victorious!
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Thank you all for your kindness and compassion. You will never know how much I appreciate it.
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