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Hello, I'm new here my name is Alberto and i don't know where else to go, i found this page in google, I was looking for a place where people could talk to me and tell me why God has put so much weight on my shoulders. I feel so desperate right now, i don't know what to do.

At the beginning of this year I had to undergo an operation to remove a nodule that I had grown in the left chest, thank God the operation went well, but then the medical bills started to shown, I had to apply for financial aid to pay For college(Is not expensive in my country, but still) They denied me the aid, I had to pay for my medication(My medical ensurance only covers UDS$86.00 ANUALLY, yes ANUALLY), i had 5 appointments with the doctor, they charge for each appointment, had to pay the rent, in short, I accumulated many debts that I could not pay, I entered a state of depression and anxiety. My grandmother offer to pay for my tuition (about USD$600) but i know she needs the money more than i do and I had to lie to her and tell her that I had been given the financial aid. I'm 2 months late in rent, I probably will not be able to start college in January, I feel like I'm suffocating and I don't know why God has put so much weight on my shoulders.

I pray every day, I have always been a very good person, I have helped those who need it even though I can not do it at that time, I have always treated everyone with respect, but I feel they have forgotten me, no longer I know what else to do.
 

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Hello, I'm new here my name is Alberto and i don't know where else to go, i found this page in google, I was looking for a place where people could talk to me and tell me why God has put so much weight on my shoulders. I feel so desperate right now, i don't know what to do.

At the beginning of this year I had to undergo an operation to remove a nodule that I had grown in the left chest, thank God the operation went well, but then the medical bills started to shown, I had to apply for financial aid to pay For college(Is not expensive in my country, but still) They denied me the aid, I had to pay for my medication(My medical ensurance only covers UDS$86.00 ANUALLY, yes ANUALLY), i had 5 appointments with the doctor, they charge for each appointment, had to pay the rent, in short, I accumulated many debts that I could not pay, I entered a state of depression and anxiety. My grandmother offer to pay for my tuition (about USD$600) but i know she needs the money more than i do and I had to lie to her and tell her that I had been given the financial aid. I'm 2 months late in rent, I probably will not be able to start college in January, I feel like I'm suffocating and I don't know why God has put so much weight on my shoulders.

I pray every day, I have always been a very good person, I have helped those who need it even though I can not do it at that time, I have always treated everyone with respect, but I feel they have forgotten me, no longer I know what else to do.
Welcome Albert0! I'm glad you found us!

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Sometimes we don't believe that God is listening or that he loves us because things aren't going the way we believe they should. When we pray Jesus told us to ask for all things according to the Fathers will.

That will most of the time doesn't match up with ours because we are very limited in knowing what is good for us and what isn't. He knows our whole life story, from beginning to end and if you really have put your trust in him you too could walk on water, your faith must also be strong that you trust in the LORD with all your heart and don't lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will guide your paths.

Meditate on that for awhile and be open to what He's sees will be best for your path.

I'll be sending up some prayers for you, stay strong and don't loss hope!
 
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Hello, I'm new here my name is Alberto and i don't know where else to go, i found this page in google, I was looking for a place where people could talk to me and tell me why God has put so much weight on my shoulders. I feel so desperate right now, i don't know what to do.

At the beginning of this year I had to undergo an operation to remove a nodule that I had grown in the left chest, thank God the operation went well, but then the medical bills started to shown, I had to apply for financial aid to pay For college(Is not expensive in my country, but still) They denied me the aid, I had to pay for my medication(My medical ensurance only covers UDS$86.00 ANUALLY, yes ANUALLY), i had 5 appointments with the doctor, they charge for each appointment, had to pay the rent, in short, I accumulated many debts that I could not pay, I entered a state of depression and anxiety. My grandmother offer to pay for my tuition (about USD$600) but i know she needs the money more than i do and I had to lie to her and tell her that I had been given the financial aid. I'm 2 months late in rent, I probably will not be able to start college in January, I feel like I'm suffocating and I don't know why God has put so much weight on my shoulders.

I pray every day, I have always been a very good person, I have helped those who need it even though I can not do it at that time, I have always treated everyone with respect, but I feel they have forgotten me, no longer I know what else to do.
It sounds to me as if you need a Christian pastor and your own church more than you need a "Christian" chat board. i don't mean to insult you or the board by that comment. What i mean to tell you is that although we communicate with you, we are just electrons on a computer monitor. You need living, breathing people around you.

i am an American. By your comments i understand that you are not. This is only important for one reason: Very few Americans can understand how hard life can be for those who are not Americans. For example, $86 would not cover one month of the medication i have to take after my stroke. Yet even the poorest in this country probably have access to better medical care than you have available to you.

Alberto, i would suggest that you speak with both your church pastor, and your Grandmother. They can help you stay on course as the world collapses around you. They can help you see what you need to do next. Right now you're too distracted by EVERYTHING that is happening to you to see what you need to do FIRST.

Do not shut out the people God has put into your life. God put them there for a reason.

Beyond offering prayers to you i am personally unable to do anything...but i believe in the God Who changes things and changes people.
 
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Hello, I'm new here my name is Alberto and i don't know where else to go, i found this page in google, I was looking for a place where people could talk to me and tell me why God has put so much weight on my shoulders. I feel so desperate right now, i don't know what to do.

At the beginning of this year I had to undergo an operation to remove a nodule that I had grown in the left chest, thank God the operation went well, but then the medical bills started to shown, I had to apply for financial aid to pay For college(Is not expensive in my country, but still) They denied me the aid, I had to pay for my medication(My medical ensurance only covers UDS$86.00 ANUALLY, yes ANUALLY), i had 5 appointments with the doctor, they charge for each appointment, had to pay the rent, in short, I accumulated many debts that I could not pay, I entered a state of depression and anxiety. My grandmother offer to pay for my tuition (about USD$600) but i know she needs the money more than i do and I had to lie to her and tell her that I had been given the financial aid. I'm 2 months late in rent, I probably will not be able to start college in January, I feel like I'm suffocating and I don't know why God has put so much weight on my shoulders.

I pray every day, I have always been a very good person, I have helped those who need it even though I can not do it at that time, I have always treated everyone with respect, but I feel they have forgotten me, no longer I know what else to do.

Hi, Alberto and welcome! :clap:

I'm glad the surgery was successful.

I know all too well about bills and debts (still have them), and depression and anxiety (had them both several years ago.) I would also classify myself as a very good person, a helper and respecter. I too have been forgotten...by ex-wife, her family, and my own. I was beyond two late with rent--I was on verge of eviction. :anguished: I had been downsized from my job and Unemployment had run out.

But God was there! :amen: He sent non-relatives to help. I was fortunate to get a city loan for the back rent. I was never evicted. This was in 2012, and I've been working ever since and my relationship with the Lord is stronger and continues to get stronger.

My saving and flourishing is His victory; I'm just the vessel He used to demonstrate His glory and love.

I offer this sermon a month ago from my church. I was fortunate to be there to hear it. (And I'm glad for YouTube so I can see it again and again.)

I hope the video and my words help.

 
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Also wanted to add this.

“You don’t have enough faith,” Jesus told them. “I tell you the truth, if you had faith even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it would move. Nothing would be impossible.” Matthew 17:20

If only we had enough faith…

How many times have we heard it? How many times have we claimed it? How many times have we cried out to God to help us have enough faith?

And how many times has the mountain refused to budge?

You know what I’m talking about.

The marriage you begged God to save…but you still landed in divorce court.

The loved one you begged God to heal…but you still attended his funeral.

The infertility you begged God to end…yet you continue with empty hands.

The addiction you begged God to overcome…but you still seek the next hit.

The job you begged God to provide…and yet you still wait in the unemployment line.

The mountain you begged God to move…and yet it hasn’t budged.

Why? Why didn’t the mountains move? Is it because our faith isn’t strong enough? If only we had believed more, prayed more?

Or is there something more?

Ironically for me, this passage is right on target. Jesus had this conversation with His disciples right after He healed a boy with seizures, a boy the disciples couldn’t seem to heal. That’s one of the mountains I’ve been begging God to move, the seizures my daughter is suffering. And yet, here we are, not healed. And it’s not for lack of praying or believing. I have been firmly convinced…multiple times…that we had experienced the last one, that she was fully and completely healed.

And repeatedly, I’ve been severely disappointed. Distraught. Devastated.

So I find myself wondering why God hasn’t moved my mountain yet. I refuse to give up hope, to believe she will suffer forever, but I still struggle with why God hasn’t healed her.

Every situation is different, but we can find some reasons why the mountain doesn’t move as we look through scripture.

Lack of faith. Obviously, there are some mountains that don’t move because we don’t have enough faith. God is clear that faith is essential to seeing prayers answered. Maybe our lack of prayer shows a lack of faith. Maybe we ask but are tossed about like a wave of the sea, doubting God’s ability (James 1:6).

Consequences for sin. David begged and pleaded with God to heal his son, the child born of his adulterous relationship with Bathsheba (2 Samuel 12). He mourned. He fasted. He believed.

And yet God allowed him to suffer the consequences of his sins. It was a painful reminder that we serve a holy God who does not allow sins to go unpunished.

Hardened hearts. I begged God to heal my marriage after my husband’s affair. I was completely convinced my husband would fully repent, return to God and his family. I knew with every ounce of my being God would give us a new ministry, a ministry of healing families walking through the pain of adultery.

And yet, my husband’s hardened heart prevented the mountain from being moved. He chose to continue on a path away from God, and I ended up a divorced single mom. My mountain didn’t move because of the collision of man’s free will with God’s sovereignty.

It’s not God’s will. When scripture teaches we can make mountains move, we have to make sure we aren’t treating God like a genie who has to answer our prayers. If He was, I could pray to win the lottery, and He would be obligated to allow me to win. That would be an even bigger miracle because I don’t play the lottery.

We must be careful to always compare scripture to scripture. 1 John 5:14-15 tells us that if we ask anything according to His will He hears us and answers our prayers. Even Jesus prayed the cup would be taken from Him, but chose to submit to God’s will instead of His own.

And that’s why we must make sure we are seeking God’s face, seeking to know Him closely and intimately so we can discern His will. We must pray in accordance with His will.

God has something better in mind. Remember Lazarus (John 11)? Mary and Martha sent for Jesus, but He didn’t come right away. Instead, He stayed where He was until Lazarus was dead and buried. Mary and Martha were hurt, upset, distraught.

But Jesus? He had something bigger and better in mind. He didn’t just want to heal Lazarus of sickness; He wanted to make him rise from the dead! The sickness was for God’s glory!

And sometimes we think too small. Our finite minds cannot comprehend God, His thoughts, His ways (Isaiah 55:9). Sometimes a mountain that doesn’t budge is the biggest answered prayer. Sometimes He does something far greater in our pain, through our pain.

So what do we do when the mountain won’t move? How do we move forward in disappointment and pain? How do we proceed when we are still staring at the Himalayas?

Keep praying. Remember the story of the persistent widow in Luke 18? She wore the judge out asking for justice. Eventually, he gave in. Jesus follows up the story by telling His listeners to keep asking God, day and night. You never know when God might see fit to answer.

Trust God. I’ve learned God is good, even when the mountains don’t move. I’ve learned He sees from beginning to end, and sometimes the mountain doesn’t move because God is protecting me. I’ve learned I can trust God, that even when I don’t understand His ways, He is always faithful, always good.

Seek God’s perspective. My mind is finite. I can only see the here and now. My perspective is not from eternity to eternity.

But God’s is. His ways are higher than my ways (Isaiah 55:9). And if I ask Him to help me see things from His perspective, He will increase my vision. He will give me eyes to see from a new perspective.

Thank God. We must maintain an attitude of gratitude in all things. Give thanks for everything (Ephesians 5:20). Gratitude prevents us from becoming discontent, disgruntled. It helps us remember that God is the giver of all good gifts.

Worship God. David was the master of worshipping God in the midst of difficult circumstances. He wrote so many of the Psalms as he ran from King Saul, as he fought for his very life. And yet He continually remembered God was his refuge and strength, he was safe in the hands of the Almighty. As we wait for our mountain to move, we must continue to be awed by the Almighty, by His character, by His grace.

We don’t know what God might do with that mountain. Maybe He will move it one day, in His time and in His way. And maybe He won’t. But if He doesn’t move it, you can be assured He will do something amazing with it. Maybe He will do something even bigger than you ever imagined. Maybe He will use it to transform you, to prepare you for a future ministry. No matter what happens, He will use it to point the world back to Him.
 
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I would like to thanks everyone for the support and for taking the time to write to me and leave me messages so I can go forward.

A few hours ago I was in my church and I was able to speak with the Christian pastor about everything is happening, he told me that God is going to provide, that I must put all my faith on him. But I kept asking him, how would I pay my rent, how would I pay my tuition next week, how. He kept telling me that I should trust him and he told me that God has a plan for me.

I've never felt so helpless and so desperate in my whole life, the Christian pastor gave me USD$15 to buy food(I will pay him as soon as i get the money), it was so embarrassing and like some people here, he told me to accept the money from my grandmother, but she really needs it, she have many expenses, rent, food, medication and transport. She needs it more than i do. And since I wont be able to pay for my tuition I'm selling my laptop tomorrow so i can buy some food, pay the electrical bill and save some money for this week.

Again, thanks everyone for the support is good to know than i'm not alone and i'm glad that i found this site, i'll be checking the messages tomorrow from my phone and posting some news.

Thanks!!! from the bottom of my heart i thank you all!


Good night everyone, god bless you all.


And sorry for my bad english!
 
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It sounds to me as if you need a Christian pastor and your own church more than you need a "Christian" chat board. i don't mean to insult you or the board by that comment. What i mean to tell you is that although we communicate with you, we are just electrons on a computer monitor. You need living, breathing people around you.

i am an American. By your comments i understand that you are not. This is only important for one reason: Very few Americans can understand how hard life can be for those who are not Americans. For example, $86 would not cover one month of the medication i have to take after my stroke. Yet even the poorest in this country probably have access to better medical care than you have available to you.

Alberto, i would suggest that you speak with both your church pastor, and your Grandmother. They can help you stay on course as the world collapses around you. They can help you see what you need to do next. Right now you're too distracted by EVERYTHING that is happening to you to see what you need to do FIRST.

Do not shut out the people God has put into your life. God put them there for a reason.

Beyond offering prayers to you i am personally unable to do anything...but i believe in the God Who changes things and changes people.

Hello Sir! I'm not able to responde any message from my profile or Start a Conversation "You do not have permission to view this page or perform this action." But, i'm studying Computer Science, only 2 semesters left, my mother died from ovarian cancer when i was 9 years old, and i never knew my dad and my grandmother raise me.

A few months ago I lost my job because the company went bankrupt, I tried to get a part time job but in my country it is very difficult and I could not take a full time job because of college, I was scheduled to graduate in July 2017 But it is something that I do not see possible right now because of my current situation. On Sundays i work as a volunteer in the church. I'm engaged, with a wonderful woman. Right now she has 4 months with her family in Spain because her dad suffered a heart attack and she is helping her mother until her father gets better.

And basically that's all :wave:
 
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Hello Sir! I'm not able to responde any message from my profile or Start a Conversation "You do not have permission to view this page or perform this action." But, i'm studying Computer Science, only 2 semesters left, my mother died from ovarian cancer when i was 9 years old, and i never knew my dad and my grandmother raise me.

A few months ago I lost my job because the company went bankrupt, I tried to get a part time job but in my country it is very difficult and I could not take a full time job because of college, I was scheduled to graduate in July 2017 But it is something that I do not see possible right now because of my current situation. On Sundays i work as a volunteer in the church. I'm engaged, with a wonderful woman. Right now she has 4 months with her family in Spain because her dad suffered a heart attack and she is helping her mother until her father gets better.

And basically that's all :wave:
Sorry, i was negligent. i have a public email address that i use for this board. It is listed on my profile page...the one you cannot get into. So i give it here: calvinist.dark.lord@gmail.com. Feel free to write at any time. i cannot guarantee that i will respond immediately, but i will respond.

Before i log off this evening (i'm posting from Central Pennsylvania in the US, a small city called Gettysburg) i will respond to your following me by making sure i follow you on this board. Please forgive me for having not done so earlier, but my wife has had me captive to shopping.

i can identify with much of what you have told me of yourself. i am originally from Pittsburgh in Western Pennsylvania and grew up there during the busy days of the steel industry. While i got my degree in electrical engineering after my army days, i have never really steadily worked at one place. i have worked for many companies in the Pittsburgh area that no longer exist. It is the life of many who stayed in Pittsburgh. As of late i have been travelling the country working for one of the major Defence contractors in the US. My Mother died of massive cancer at a relatively young age. i also spent a great deal of time with my grandparents. i now have no family left that is close to me.

i won't tell you on a public board exactly how old i am, but i took my first and only computer course in high school in 1972. We had an old DEC PDP-8E minicomputer. Back then we entered programme steps with the old punch cards and the hard drives were 46 cm in diameter. It probably worked out well, because i'm typing this on a 12 year old computer running Linux. It still works well. So i appear to remember and apply what i learned 44 years ago.

Alberto, i cannot presume to have answers from God for you. Because if i had answers i would apply them to my own life before i presumed to advise anyone. However, i know what God has said in His word, and that is good enough for me. i have been forced to trust in the things that God has said in His word, because if i didn't i would not be here.

i can only suggest alternatives. Right now it would appear as if it is intended to go back to your Grandmother. You do not know what God has planned. i do not know what God has planned for you but He did give you the opportunity to learn some skills even if you have not completed your education. i suspect your Grandmother probably has some ideas and connections that could possibly assist you during this time. We do not see things as God sees them. i suspect that is what your Pastor was trying to tell you. i am happy he was able to assist you during this crisis. However, you do need your church. God provided the church to love and care for each of it's members as well as to worship Him. Right now though, you need somebody to help you decide what to do first, and what the next step would be. It is difficult to see that when the entire world is collapsing around you. Perhaps that is God's plan in bringing you and your Grandmother back together. i suspect that there isn't too much she hasn't seen before. That experience can be a great help to you. i understand machismo, but a part of being a man is knowing when you need help and doing what you have to do to get through life, even if it means asking for help.

One advantage of all of this is that your fiancée is getting a man who has learned how to handle adversity. How many young couples fall apart because they do not know how to deal with adversity?

We also have another thing in common. i am recently married. i waited until very late in life to marry, and my wife is quite a bit younger than i...almost 25 years younger. It is the first time either of us married. We were married October 31 of this year.

i think at this time, your pastor is probably correct. Again, you do not know at this time what God has planned for you. And if the decision is wrong, He can show you that so that you can correct it.

God be with you.
 
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