I am at a dead end, please help

[Observer]

I have been struggling to stay on top of my university studies while working almost full time doing shift work. I have been managing although crying for hours whenever I am home. I thought that was bad... well now I have just realised that the subjects I have to do starting next semester are 3x per week each and require me to be at university when I'm at work. I cant quit my job, as my husband has no job and can't find one. I am also settled there and don't want to leave, it's a VERY stable job with decent pay. The only thing stable in our lives. Also I don't want to defer or quit uni because I only have 4 more years left to complete it before it expires and gets wasted and I have 4 more years of study left if I do it part time. So basically time is running out and I need to get on top of it now to be able to graduate in time. So basically I have to quit university because I simply cant get to the classes. My shifts at work cannot be altered more than once in a blue moon. I feel so stuck at a dead end and so hopeless. I am feeling life is pointless and just gets harder each week. I am feeling slightly suicidal. What can I do... I also just bought a new car when my husband was working and on good pay (as I had very old unsafe car), thinking with my pay I can afford a car plus plenty more. How wrong I was, he lost his job and now I am completely screwed. Even if he had a job I'd still want to stay at my job but that means quitting university...

so I am in debt for the car, have already spent 50k on university (government debt) and I am supposed to quit and waste all of that to keep a roof over me and my husbands head.. I'm drowning

 

[joey_downunder]

Your everyday living expenses come first on your priority list. I am sure you realise that. Are you able to transfer your course to an online course instead? Distance Education and Online Courses - Open Universities Australia

e.g. South Australia University does a Bachelor of Nursing degree online. They would arrange practical placements as well as the online curriculum.

People do transfer from university to university all the time. I remember when I did my degree in the 90s there were students who had moved to my campus from interstate.

I bet you already know how much people have to move for work in Australia so Universities would be a lot more flexible than you realise.

 

[1watchman]

Yes, many people have to put education on hold to meet needs at home; and one might explore studies through the Internet for a time. A job must come first, though I wonder how hard husband is working to find a job. Some people hold out for certain kind of jobs when they should take whatever they are able to do until conditions improve, and one can choose a more suitable and interesting work.

Keep praying if you know the Lord Jesus as your Savior and Lord of your life. He cares!

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Check with your university to see if they have hardship or break periods for adult studies. I have worked for two universities and both had programs that allowed adult students to keep their credits and take a semester break because of a personal hardship.

Best of luck to you. It will all work out -- it always does. (Also glad you have a safer car now!)

 

[hawkeyelovejs]

Re: the car... Did you get any insurance when you took out the loan that would cover your payments in case of an illness or decreased income?

 

[Chaplain David]

Good advice in this thread. God bless everyone.

 

[nathanielb1984]

First off I empathise with you completely, and now I have three suggestions for you today;

A/ Ask them if they can freeze the expiry date for one year (Many unis in Europe do it, especially in these cases)

B/ Request the possibility of changing it from p/t to distance learning

C/ Transfer the credits and pre-graduate, say at diploma or certificate level for now.

I am not sure if my suggestions are at all helpful, if I remember in something else, I will tell you In the mean time, just try to calm down, at times when we panic we have the answer right in front of us, yet we cannot see it.

God Bless You Sister...