Hi Sethsmummy
Oh sweetheart I can feel the pain in the heart because of his involvement with Porn stuff. I know how much that hurts as my husband was into that stuff to. And of course you're going to be upset.
You're his wife and you're the one he is supposed to be finding his joy and intimacy with. Not some pictures in a glossy magazine.
But before getting into another fight with him, which will only cause more pain, as he will only give it up when he feels good and ready. You focus on how wonderful and beautiful you are because of Jesus.
You don't need such trash to pull you down and destroy your self-esteem. The enemy loves to do that.
Instead of getting all upset and looking at your circumstances, get thanking God for your Marriage, for your Husband. This will seem strange to your natural mind but we don't fight with flesh and blood. Our enemy is spiritual, the devil and his demons.
Praise soon gets the enemy running!
You my love get into the Word of God every day. Set aside a special time for just you and Jesus. You need to know and be convinced of how wonderful you are in Christ, and that you can do all things through Him. As you get the Word of God into your heart you will get stronger and the desire to sin, to smoke will go. By the power of the Holy Spirit working in your heart you will change and your husband will see that.
The truth will set you free. His Word is truth. Get that deep into heart and as you do that, begin to live by it. The Holy Spirit will help you. Speak the Word of God and claim His promises for your self and your husband.
Ignore the circumstance, keep on beleiving and praying for God to move in this situation and turn things around. God's Word will not return to you void but will accomplish that for which it was sent.
Persevere with this and your prayers. God will not let you down.
Argue no more with your husband - let peace reign in your heart. Every day pray for him to be delivered of this addiction. He needs help here to give it up and to find His needs and fulfillment in Jesus.The enemy uses such things to keep people in bondage and blinds them to the fact that it is wrong. So they justify there need to keep doing it.
I pray and stand against all spirits of lust that are operating in his life and for a full and complete being set free of it. For the blood of Jesus to protect you both and that by the power of the Holy Spirit you both are set free to love and serve the Lord. That God will create in you both a pure heart and renew the love and peace in your Marriage.That you will stand strong and feel encouraged.
God hasn't abandoned either of you. Keep going to Church even if your husband will not go. Leave him to God. It may not be easy all of the time but you already have the Victory because of Jesus.
Much peace be yours and my prayers for you both,
Gentle-Heart