He believes that It's false because we don't have free thinking, it's just the way we were brought up and we never questioned it.
Well.............in some churches there is a limit on just how 'free' one is to explore or question the existing articulation of biblical interpretation. So, in that regard, your husband may be at least partially correct, but it wouldn't by necessity imply that your church is at fault in placing unnecessary limitations upon how we each approach and apply our faith in Christ.
He'll say things like "If you weren't raised christian, you would have never been christian in the first place".
He is correct that this can be the case. Unfortunately, he doesn't have a total argument and it doesn't apply, by far, to all Christians everywhere. There are people who have lived in certain cultural conditions not favorable to gaining Christian faith (such as in a Muslim culture), but they have become Christians nevertheless. There are also other considerations that mediate the totality of this half-truth that your husband presently believes.
When I come from church and explained how a part of the sermon touched my spirit, he doesn't believe me, and believes that when people get happy in church and cry, that they are "putting on for other people" because that's what we think we are supposed to do.
That's another half-truth on his part. Some people are hypocrites; but some Christians do genuinely become touched and express their emotions in church. So, he doesn't get to pontificate any finality on that issue either.
He also believes that portions of The Bible are too absurd and crazy to be true, and technically can't be real because they don't make sense.
He needs to admit that not all Christians----not even all conservative Christians----interpret the bible in the same way or assume that what it says is precisely only what it could "mean" in some instances. He really needs to increase his academic integrity in this regard, because if this is what he is thinking, it means he hasn't actually delved into the full weight of all of the academic issues involved. And some of them get pretty deep and heavy and the typical skeptics and atheists, despite their claims, don't always delve into the issues as honestly and as precisely as they like to claim they do.
He also no longer believes in having faith in something that he can't physically see to be real.
Well then, I guess he can't believe in the Higgs Boson either, since no one can actually "see" them.
He said that going to christian counseling isn't going to change his way of thinking because that's what they are supposed to do, try to persuade you to thinking the way they do, and believes that it would be biased for us to go because I also am a christian like the counselor.
In this case, he would be half right (again). But this doesn't squelch the other part of reality that some of the counselors can apply methods of modern counseling and psychology to try to help the two of you to build a new form of relationship together.
With all of this said, I would first encourage your husband to expand his academic integrity beyond his present lines of perceptual and cognitive delineation and perhaps at least try to understand the Christian faith through other avenues besides just the one at the local church. Try to hang in there for a while with him. I may still be a bit early to throw in the towel.
What we need to find out is that his 'disbelief' really is coming about because he has honest doubts and not because he's lying and really trying to cover over some situation like being addicted to porn or having another women on the side somewhere.
To what extent do you think you're willing to 'wait' on him to explore other avenues of the Christian faith and perhaps grow? Would you be willing to remain with him if he could become a Christian again, even if of another denominational stripe?
