Husband Cheating. I am Confused. Tired.

[technofox]

Well, to he honest, I wonder how well the "money" motivation would work in preventing infidelity. To me - the desire to do something (or not do it) comes from within. I think that if you're the cheating type - you're gonna cheat - because that's what you want to do. All that worrying about money is going to do is make you try and be more discreet (or "smarter") about it so you don't get caught.

You maybe right. In all honesty, I think everyone is tempted to cheat in one point or another. The question is, do you give into it.

I had a sexless marriage with my first wife (sexless is defined as having sex 10 or less times a year). People were shocked that I did not cheat on her and some would not have even blamed me if I had. The temptation was there, but I never gave that temptation any opportunity to manifest itself. I personally hate cheating, because I have been cheated on and also would not want to be known for cheating - I think it is embarrassing to cheat.

The OP's husband in my opinion is going to miss out on a lot and will be facing hard times if they divorce. I think he is stupid for cheating, because he has what a lot of guys I know would love to have, a wife and kids.

 

[DZoolander]

I agree - I'm the same way.

Generally - when people say "I'm surprised you didn't cheat" or "I wouldn't have blamed you if you did" - that's synonymous with "wow - what a horrible marriage you have - I don't know why you're still there."

That being said - if I were in such a situation (don't know if my first marriage would have counted - because "cheating" was never an option in my mind... My whole thing was leaving a bad situation) - I'd just do what I saw as the honorable thing and leave.

 

[Avniel]

You maybe right. In all honesty, I think everyone is tempted to cheat in one point or another. The question is, do you give into it.

I had a sexless marriage with my first wife (sexless is defined as having sex 10 or less times a year). People were shocked that I did not cheat on her and some would not have even blamed me if I had. The temptation was there, but I never gave that temptation any opportunity to manifest itself. I personally hate cheating, because I have been cheated on and also would not want to be known for cheating - I think it is embarrassing to cheat.

The OP's husband in my opinion is going to miss out on a lot and will be facing hard times if they divorce. I think he is stupid for cheating, because he has what a lot of guys I know would love to have, a wife and kids.

I disagree i think cheating has become socially accepted and decriminalized so to speak. Not everyone is tempted to cheat at one point we all are tempted to sin against our spouse. I think it's important to recognize what it is in our society that normalizes cheating and teach it out so our children aren't tempted to cheat.

While all sin is sin and the end result is the same cheating is a destruction of a marriage, it's a spiritual disconnect from a contract.

I do disagree with that statement.

 

[sdmsanjose]

By HB2012
Lost the pregnancy yesterday unfortunately, so i think i am in another world/mood entirely. Baby died early hours of yesterday morning. Its the saddest period of my life, and of course i want to blame him for the death of this child.

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[FONT=&quot]I hope that your have someone to comfort you and may God be with you![/FONT]

 

[Inkachu]

HB... I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, my sister. I pray you find someone to reach out to at this time; a friend, relative, church member, just someone who can support you and pray for you and love you. Sending you thoughts and a hug across the web <3

 

[technofox]

Lost the pregnancy yesterday unfortunately, so i think i am in another world/mood entirely. Baby died early hours of yesterday morning. Its the saddest period of my life, and ofcourse i want to blame him for the death of this child.

I am sorry to hear that happen to you. The stress may have played a role in losing the baby. I will pray for you and your family.