Hurting

[jlc]

I'm so frustrated. All I've ever wanted ~other than God...I gave my life to Christ on November 2nd 2003~ is a successful relationship. I've been divorced twice. Just recently separated from bf. I asked him to move out after God started tugging at my heart, letting me know that living together was wrong. I still love this man. We had other problems, his anger, drinking and lack of financial responsibility. I feel so inadequate because I couldn't help him. He is a Christian, but does all the band/bar-scene stuff, which I got extremely tired of. Although, I know that it absolutely was the right decision, I'm struggling. I didn't want to quit on the relationship just because of the problems. I'd hoped that we could get counseling. 2 weeks ago he told me he didn't have the time or money to have a relationship. I was crushed. The ironic part was that he always told me that he was the commited one. It turns out that he wasn't. I know time will heal, but just want to know what I need to learn so that I can have a marriage blessed by God. I pray...maybe I'm just too impatient.

 

[desi]

Perhaps God has a relationship in mind for you which is less of a fixer upper than this one.

 

[JVD]

You need time...I'd say at least a year. Spend that time getting to know God. That's your most important relationship.

Don't even think about getting into another relationship until you have spent that time with God. Study what God wants a marriage to be. Study what God wants you to be. Don't worry about the rest.

 

[desi]

You need time...I'd say at least a year. Spend that time getting to know God. That's your most important relationship.

Don't even think about getting into another relationship until you have spent that time with God. Study what God wants a marriage to be. Study what God wants you to be. Don't worry about the rest.

Not a fan of 'the rebound', I take it.

 

[wheels4Christ]

You need time...I'd say at least a year. Spend that time getting to know God. That's your most important relationship.

Don't even think about getting into another relationship until you have spent that time with God. Study what God wants a marriage to be. Study what God wants you to be. Don't worry about the rest.

I take post by JVD recognizing realationship with GOD comes first. I am sure GOD agrees too rebounding is for basketballers ;p

 

[jlc]

Thanks Guys! I know you are all right. I don't plan to do anything with regards to another relationship, I do need time with God. All in His time not mine. It still doesn't stop me from hurting like crazy...but a couple times, it has seemed like I got a hug when no-one was around. Maybe, I'm out there in lala-land, but I think God was comforting me. My God is an awesome God!

 

[sarah marie]

My God is an awesome God!

Wow! What a coincidence, so is mine.

 

[JVD]

it has seemed like I got a hug when no-one was around. Maybe, I'm out there in lala-land, but I think God was comforting me.

I know what you mean...I have felt it too!

 

[Bks Finest]

just gotta move on
im sure god has a great plan
for you