How would you react...

[Gwenyfur]

My honest opinion is that you overreacted. It was inconsiderate of him but you have an issue about it which is your responsibility to communicate to him.

The part that's over in the women's discussion, is that there was an ice storm that night. The roads were treacherous, and some of the roads he travels to work and home are in sparsely populated areas.

All said and done when the storm was done depositing ice all over everything we had 1-1/2 inches of ice, and another 1/2 inch of snow....not the best driving conditions... I'm sorry you feel I overreacted...

Part of that commandment to love your wife as Christ loved the church, is to not cause undue worry or concern.

 

[LegacyOfLove]

Gwenyfur, I am with you on this one! I, too, would have been tremendously worried also if I hadn't heard from my husband all night....storm or not...that's just not the right thing for either partner to do to the other one! (Of course, if you think like me...I am always being extra cautious and thinking ahead...like...what if something happens to one of the kids....how could I get ahold of my hubby? etc.)

Glad your hubby made it home safe-n-sound. And, hopefully now he'll think long and hard about it should this kind of situation arise again in the future. It's not a matter of being controlling...it's a matter of respect and decency to let our partners know where we'll be and how to reach us should they need to for any reason!

 

[gracefaith]

This is almost humorous to me, because the only real fight my hubby and I have ever had was over the exact same situation. I've talked to other women who have been through a story like this too. I wonder if it really doesn't occur to some men how much we worry when they are out of our sight for an unexplained period of time. They haven't had anyone watch that closely since they were 10 after all!

 

[Evie]

Most of the ladies probably saw the fright my DH gave me last night...
There's a horrible ice storm going on here in the KCMO area last night and today. The DH worked late, didn't call home and after much searching, praying, crying, sending out the Higway Patrol and my dad into the storm, we find him....safe and sound at his friend's house in Westport.

No phone call. No answering the phone, *and* his friend said that he wasn't there. (He had been at his mothers for the evening and drove by and supposedly didn't see his car).

I'm so upset I can't really think straight Even though the roads weren't that bad last night, I don't mind that he stayed up there. Better safe than sorry. But, when he did finally call this morning he was almost flippant about the worry he'd caused.

At one point last night, I was on my knees (literally) in my living room sobbing out to God to let him be safe and bring him home.

Okay, God was merciful and he was found safe.

I just find myself so angry at him for his selfishness. I mean, he actually said he "didn't think about it".

How do you not think about calling someone you "love" when you aren't coming home, and the weather is bad? What am I missing here....????? And how would you handle the situation?

I would have handled it the same way. He should have called you. I would have been freaky out. Matt and I are joined at the hip. So I would have done exactly what you did.